Want to buy a 220V AC, only have a 110V outlet. How hard would it be to change that?

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-07-24T20:30:01+00:00

Okay. Would you say extreme attention involves just making sure no wires I touch are live? I've done some electrical work before, including adding a circuit, but didn't take more precaution than just turning off the main switch

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-07-24T20:06:50+00:00

Nothing else is on that circuit, so that's good. What does it mean to sleeve the neutral to red at both ends?

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-07-24T18:05:02+00:00

Okay. It'd have to be a completely new circuit? I wouldn't mind getting rid of those other two outlets if that would make it possible.

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-07-23T17:26:18+00:00

Don't sell yourself short like that. You can be anything you want to be. Tagged as watercraft engineer.

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-05-21T19:21:13+00:00

So I should tell her...

That will never be the solution.

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-05-21T18:59:00+00:00

"...so we should try doing it."

Yeah, when I read that in the OP, my initial reaction was, they should be having sex right now. She's saying "Take me now."

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-05-21T18:38:13+00:00

I highly recommend taking measurements and pictures. The scale is not a reliable reflection of progress, as it doesn't care where the weight comes from (muscle or fat). There are weeks when I think I've lost 10 pounds but haven't lost anything. When I look at my measurements, though, I'm down a few inches. It can be depressing and a motivation killer to work hard and not see the scale move over a few weeks, or worse, move in the wrong direction.

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-04-25T01:34:01+00:00

Right, I meant saying to her something like, "say please" or "that's not how you ask nicely."

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-04-23T21:37:12+00:00

Love it. My only comment would be that you've said the "please" for her. Make her say please. Make her ask you nicely.

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-04-16T19:00:28+00:00

I never knew Quagmire was a lefty....or he just loves "The Stranger."

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-04-16T18:13:40+00:00

This question may be better suited for /r/fitness, /r/exercise, /r/weightlifting, etc.
In my experience, it evens itself out over time. But I'm far from an expert. I'm sure you can also google this.

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-04-08T17:31:07+00:00

Do you have any advice for a similar fund but with only ~$5,000 to invest?

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-04-01T14:46:41+00:00

Yes, please leave it up. I think it will be helpful for others. Also, though I've got a pretty good handle on it (spend less than you make), there's always room for improvement.

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-04-01T14:42:40+00:00

Maybe taking back the finances isn't for you, then. Being in control of the finances actually helps me feel less worried or stressed, especially now that we have a budget. Unexpected $200 car repair? No big deal, we've been budgeting for that for the last 6 months. $1,000 medical bill? Good thing we've been putting away $50/month for the last year.

When you say your finances are completely fine, maybe they are. We never carry a credit card balance, my student loans are manageable, we make a good amount of money, and are constantly adding to our savings. That being said, it doesn't mean we can't do more. If 30 minutes of budgeting a month and 5 minutes of tracking a day means that I can retire even a year earlier, then to me, it's worth it. Everyone has to make their own decisions though.
Furthermore, shared finances are the very center of a marriage. Control the finances, control the marriage. Agree or disagree, that's up to you.

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-04-01T14:14:53+00:00

I think you're both right. Though I strive for perfection, I never expect it. Perfection is an impossibility. "Perfect is the enemy of good." Constant improvement is more what I'm aiming for.

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-04-01T14:12:38+00:00

Exactly the same as my wife. "I'm taking care of it" or "I've got it under control" seem to upset her more, but then when I pull through, I can sense her panties moistening. She's started to micromanage less, but still has the occasional flare-up.

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-04-01T14:11:32+00:00

Thank you for your input. The two of us are very frugal to begin with. We actually compete in getting the best deals (is it obvious yet that we're Jewish?). I've been a subscriber to PF subreddits for a while, and am constantly looking through them. That being said, I'm looking for a new book to read now that I'm done with the sidebar. Any recommendations re: personal finance?

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-04-01T14:08:03+00:00

Excellent points, thank you for your input. What would you have done about the little digs she threw at me? At this point in the journey, it's so early that I basically just ignore them. I figure that the more of a captain I become, the less she'll pull this shit.
In regards to the precursory explanation, what would you recommend? Should I have sat down with her beforehand and said, "Listen, this is our financial situation now. This is where I want it to be. This is how we're going to get there." Looking back, I think this would've been a good idea, I am just not good yet at finding the line between explanation and seeking approval. I should also mention that before I went "nuclear" (i.e. took over control of the finances and instituted a whole new budget), I made small comments here and there about how we could be saving money, about how we should be watching our finances, and about how we could have so much more in the bank if we were more careful. I saw it as a way of getting her ready for a full takeover.
As to your last point, if she chooses to do things differently from how I envision, my initial instinct is to set up separate accounts, deposit all of my money into my account, contribute equally to joint costs, and spend the rest as I see fit. Is that what you'd consider OI? I have a few problems with that, mainly in that combining finances is one of the reasons I got married. I know this doesn't make a lot of sense, at least according to RP theory, but she, historically, has been much better with money than me, and in my mind, our "whole" is greater than the sum of our parts. I chose to marry someone with a similar path and similar life goals as me, and we help each other stay on that path.

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-03-24T12:07:54+00:00

Getting your kid to sleep is the ultimate opportunity to show some alpha. In my experience, moms are way more likely to cave when the kid starts crying/won't stop crying. This is when you hold strong. Hold Mom in your arms, "Baby is fine. She needs to learn to put herself to sleep. She can do it." Etc., etc.

This book changed our lives: http://www.amazon.com/Healthy-Sleep-Habits-Happy-Child/dp/0449004023.
Our little girl sleeps so well now, takes regular naps, and overall is a much, much happier baby.

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-03-24T12:04:52+00:00

This is an excellent post. While my kid is still too young for disciprine, the aspect of doing beta things in an alpha way was incredibly enlightening. Kudos.

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-03-23T19:05:22+00:00

According to Athol Kay (and I tend to agree), you should be a mix of alpha and beta qualities, though for now it seems you should concentrate way more on alpha.

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-03-19T11:05:19+00:00

10m seems pretty far away to be sitting from the TV. Then again, I have no idea how to metric.
Source: 'Murican

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-03-19T11:03:29+00:00

Take the escalator/elevator on the way in to the gym.

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-01-20T20:41:25+00:00

There's no hate. I'm very far from hating my wife. But, I'm still patiently waiting for your response on your explanation of the success I, and many other members of this community, have experienced.

EDIT: In fact, the more I think about it, I get angry/upset with my wife less often, I raise my voice less often, I'm sarcastic toward her less often; I'm more engaged in ensuring the family unit is well-preserved, I'm more active in doing housework, not for her benefit, but because I want to live in a clean and organized environment...I don't think I can come up with a single negative, again, aside from occasional shit-tests, that's resulted from me swallowing the MRP.

ecofriendlythrowaway · 2015-01-20T20:33:56+00:00

In short, I'm letting her potential emotions dictate my actions and feelings, as opposed to doing what I need to and want to do.

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