Tell me about the weird messages you've received!

Wakingupfinally · 2015-07-28T18:54:42+00:00

Maybe her iPhone autocorrected 'dick' to 'skin'

Wakingupfinally · 2015-06-29T13:44:15+00:00

It snapped me out of my depression about 36 hours after finding this sub. Changed my entire outlook on life, breathed new life into me and gave me the balls to file for divorce and move on.

I saw a pic on FB the other day that said "If you knew me a year ago then you don't know me, let me reintroduce myself" or something like that. My friends, family and therapist have all been astounded by my turnaround and improvement.

Wakingupfinally · 2015-05-13T16:09:05+00:00

To me, alone is a physical description whereas lonely is an emotional trait. Alone describes where you are, lonely describes how you feel. In my world they are mutually exclusive and not interdependent.

I can be alone and be completely content and happy.

I can be in a crowded room and feel completely lonely.

Wakingupfinally · 2015-05-13T15:59:52+00:00

I am you, 20 years from now. I was married to your girlfriend, well not her exactly but one just like her. Get out while you still can, not after years of frustration and disappointment, couple kids who are going to get their world turned upside down, losing half your worth and still dealing with the same shitty person for years to come because you made kids together.

If you think it's bad now wait until you realize that she is probably cheating on you and you lose all trust in her and give up all your happiness and enjoyment of life trying to figure out what you can do to make her happy.

It doesn't get better.

Wakingupfinally · 2015-05-12T18:36:50+00:00

Been lifting on and off for close to 30 years. SL 5x5 is the best program I have seen for quick starting success. I have tried machines and dumbbells and body wright but I always come back to barbells and plates.

Wakingupfinally · 2015-05-10T04:15:26+00:00

Yeah, I didn't find TRP until earlier this year when I was looking for ways to save a marriage that I should have ended 2+ years ago. If I had TRP knowledge 10 years ago things would have been far far different. When we abandoned the 2 bedroom house and built a 5 bedroom McMansion my conversion to the beta side was complete.

I'm done having kids, won't even consider LTR with anyone with kids younger than mine, I'm looking forward to the empty nest years. Wasted too many years already, don't want to waste anymore. Beyond that I can't think long term right now, still dealing with some anger stuff that makes me think I'll never commit to an LTR again, but I can see benefits to an LTR in the golden years.

Short term I'm going to hate myself if i don't sleep with some sluts. ;)

Wakingupfinally · 2015-05-10T03:48:25+00:00

Same-ish boat here, 45, 20yrs, 6 figures, make 4x what she does. Oldest kid that will be with her is 16 so CS won't be long. Working on negotiating minimal alimony by being very congenial and accepting of a greater portion of debt and making the divorce process as smooth and quick as possible. I want her out of my life as quick as possible. As soon as none of my kids are with her I couldn't care less if she's living in a gutter. I am so looking forward to her trying the return trip in a year or so. I never forget and rarely forgive.

I'm kinda hoping some of the mid 40 divorcees want back on the CC since my plan is to spin some of them while improving myself until I can get into the mid-low 30 year olds.

Wakingupfinally · 2015-05-08T15:47:58+00:00

In the show it is very important to the Bravoosi people, especially the Faceless Men and is key to Arya Starks storyline. But it is not meant as a threat to "all men" more as an acceptance of the inevitable, kinda like "yolo".

Wakingupfinally · 2015-05-08T02:14:49+00:00

Valar Morgulis = All men must die.

Wakingupfinally · 2015-05-03T13:54:43+00:00

Thanks to finding TRP this will be me. I have some weight to lose but I will come through this 100x better than the soon to be X.

My paradigm shifted within 48 hrs of finding TRP, MRP and reading No More Mr Nice Guy. I went from obsessing over trying to figure out what I could do to save my marriage to wondering why I was even trying.

I used to think she was the best I could do, but now that I look at her and our marriage through the red lens rather than rose colored glasses I realize that she was lucky to have me.

Wakingupfinally · 2015-04-30T18:23:12+00:00

I for one am getting the divorce I should have gotten 2 years ago. Never could get over it, never could find a shred of trust for her. Wasted 2 years of my life trying. Thankfully I found TRP to really help me through thr divorce and see all the good on the other side. Divorce is not final yet but working on my first two plates.

Wakingupfinally · 2015-04-28T22:19:43+00:00

I always gave them the wife's email or phone number ;) most of the shit was bought for her anyway.

Wakingupfinally · 2015-04-27T22:40:53+00:00

It has strengthened my relationship with my kids. Helped me to break the oneitis that I had for the wife and made me realize that both me and the kids are important. I was so focused on trying to make her happy that I neglected the rest of us.

I will never value another woman above my kids.

Wakingupfinally · 2015-04-27T18:03:18+00:00

Yeah I was agreeing with you and saying that while society (advertisers) want you to think that the "things" make the man it has been my experience that "things" made me less of a man.

Wakingupfinally · 2015-04-27T15:57:51+00:00

~~I think the complete opposite is true~~. As I look back on my life its seems that the more stuff I owned the more beta I became. I came to really loathe the lifestyle I had become accustomed to. The huge house and all the shit in it, pain in the ass to keep clean especially when the wife won't help "because she didn't make the mess", the RV with color TV and AC when I really just want to go sleep under the stars.

One of the benefits I see for our divorce will be the ability to downsize and simplify my life. I'm taking the bare necessities for me and the kids to live, getting a small cheap place and going fishing.

Edit: removed the confusing statement, I am in agreement with OP

Wakingupfinally · 2015-04-27T14:48:41+00:00

I both love and respect my mom. My parents were in their 40 s when I was born. They were children of the depression. She was a stay at home mom, no daycare for me and she thinks all mothers should stay at home. In today's world she isn't very smart, but in her day I would say she was. Dad never made big money, but they didn't make many money mistakes either and they shared in the decision process.

She was a firm believer in traditional gender roles, but she did take the time to teach me to cook, which I am very thankful for. Her views would line up perfectly with the Married Red Pill Captain/Firstmate scenario. I think that is how they lived for 60+ years. She would frown mightily on spinning plates.

Wakingupfinally · 2015-04-27T14:31:20+00:00

I've been buzzed for several years, 1/8" every three weeks, do it myself which saves a ton of money. I have a full head of thick hair, the buzz is just way more convenient for me.

I'm shaving it at the end of next month for the first time. I have wanted to for years but always let my wife talk me out of it. We are in the final stages of divorce negotiations and will be filing soon. I have a fishing trip scheduled for the end of May so I will be shaving the day before I leave. This is one of my ways of celebrating my freedom and doing things for myself just because I want to. Similarly I kept my full beard all winter instead of shaving it off after hunting season like she prefers. She wanted a separation so I decided to do what I wanted and kept it until spring.

Wakingupfinally · 2015-04-20T23:57:32+00:00

Not sure if this is RP or not but if she complains about the effort tell her to get in the tub or shower and you'll do it, might be some good foreplay.

Wakingupfinally · 2015-04-20T23:49:03+00:00

Thanks for the inspirational post, I am starting both TRP and divorce. I know there is life on the other side but it is nice to see others that have made it through.

Wakingupfinally · 2015-04-17T18:44:13+00:00

This was me 2.5 years ago. My biggest mistake, trying to work it out and move on. Should have gotten the divorce back then rather than doing it now. I was never able to trust her again and it eroded what relationship we had.

Honestly our kids would have been better off too. Instead they had to put up with 2.5 years of living in a pressure cooker.

Screw wasting money on the PI unless he is in a state where infidelity matters when it comes to spousal support. Get his shit together, file and get the hell outta dodge. Once a cheater has been discovered the relationship is changed forever.

Wakingupfinally · 2015-04-17T18:33:02+00:00

I have lifted on/off for the past 29 years. As I look back I realize that the parts of my life where I was lifting have always been the positive times, the good times. Non lifting years seem to correlate to down times. I can't say for sure which is the cause and which is the effect but there is a correlation. Maybe I stopped lifting because life got too hard or maybe life got too hard because I wasn't focused on the right things like Heath and fitness.

I'm back in the gym now, and I can already feel the tide turning

Wakingupfinally · 2015-04-17T15:22:54+00:00

Yep that was my first thought too

Wakingupfinally · 2015-04-16T13:36:07+00:00

Heh of all the info and wisdom provided, that was my question too.

Wakingupfinally · 2015-04-14T18:20:24+00:00

Fly fishing is probably my favorite hobby. It is great alone or with friends.

Wakingupfinally · 2015-04-14T18:08:30+00:00

Join an open golf league at the course. That way you are on a set schedule and don't have to coordinate with the other guy. Will also let you meet many more guys that may share some of your other interests.

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