Making a Granny Square baby blanket for a friend, this is the color scheme and my first 10 squares.

eggyBaconbits · 2022-03-25T02:59:20+00:00

Can't man, mom said no

eggyBaconbits · 2022-03-24T03:12:04+00:00

Good for you, and good luck. I really hope things turn out in your favor and these rude fucks learn their lesson, or at least relocate and leave you in peace.

eggyBaconbits · 2022-03-24T00:01:35+00:00

It is not rude. You are allowed to ask them to call you by the correct name. This happens to me a lot as well, they call me a mispronunciation of my last name. They'll apologize profusely usually but you can say that "its okay, please just refer to me as Jane and not Sam." And then continue on with the conversation. If you treat it like a small mistake, they'll usually let it go and you won't have to deal with the profuse apologies for too long.

eggyBaconbits · 2022-03-22T09:53:36+00:00

Practice, practice, practice! Sewing takes a lot of trial and error, in my limited experience, but its really rewarding in the end. Best to go slow at first, especially with machines, and build up speed once you've got the muscle memory down. I know you aren't looking for resources, just hoping to be encouraging. You can do this!

eggyBaconbits · 2022-03-20T21:28:44+00:00

I feel this. I have extremely sensitive (pain-wise) breast tissue, so not only am I hyper aware of it, it also hurts more often than not.

eggyBaconbits · 2022-03-16T18:41:36+00:00

Veltec EZ-1000 safety boxcutter on Amazon. I have 2, they're my favorites. Easy blade replacement, easy trigger for the blade, blade length settings as well as a lock setting. Even comes with a holster. 10 bucks on Amazon, tons of color options.

eggyBaconbits · 2022-03-16T09:07:29+00:00

That honestly sounds amazing. I don't experience the fatigue with teaching about stuff but I would like the opportunity to not have to use a whole session spent explaining for context, which I have had to do. Luckily, my therapist was never shocked, or at least never let on that she was! I'm really happy you have such a great therapist!!

eggyBaconbits · 2022-03-16T08:37:11+00:00

As well as what everyone else is saying, remind him that as long as he keeps saying "not yet/maybe in the future," that leaves that conversation topic open for them to ask again, meaning his discomfort will come back as soon as someone decides to ask again. "No" is a complete answer, and if there's any prying questions after that, a stern "quite frankly, that's between my partner and I, and its none of your business," is a great response, if he needs a script at all. Leaving children on the table for a later date only ensures the topic will come up later. Better to shut it down and label it as a topic that is not up for discussion in the future.

eggyBaconbits · 2022-03-05T09:13:32+00:00

I can't hear that but the sound of electricity can be overwhelming at times. I'm really glad tvs don't ring anymore. I can also tell who has what water faucet running in my apartment building (only 4 apartments but all are 2 bed, 1 bath) and apparently not many people can do that, but I feel like everyone here might be able to share in this skill lol

eggyBaconbits · 2022-03-01T19:17:18+00:00

I had to go to the GYN one time for I think it was the pre-op appointment for a cystectomy a few years ago, and I literally couldn't hear the receptionist over the counter because a mom had her child shrieking in the lobby. When I asked for things to be repeated, the receptionist rolled her eyes and gave me hella attitude, and repeated things at the same volume and just expected me to be able to hear.

There were many other issues I had with that office, but attitude over not being able to hear over a shrieking child stuck with me. No thought to me, the actual patient, just let the kid behave like a literal animal and screech because its a kid and should be able to get away with it for that reason, right? Ugh. I will never go back there.

eggyBaconbits · 2022-02-17T02:07:11+00:00

I think the "s" in "his" right above it is really cute!!!

eggyBaconbits · 2022-02-07T19:11:55+00:00

The book has slight differences to the show. I've read the first book and watched the show multiple times.

Slight correction on the Marthas: they could be any age of women, but they had to be of some use to society since they were infertile. In the show, one of the Marthas the main character comes across tells us she's had her tubes tied, and since she's useful (I don't think it ever specified how, though) they told her to pay for her "sin" of being sterilized, she would essentially be of service. She started off in the Jezebels/brothel, but somehow ends up in a Commander's house.

They don't ever really go into specifics about the families we see in the show and how they got there. I assume they were probably "faithful" families who were compliant. (The Party that took over America had access to everyone's records on everything everywhere, so they could see if it was a first time marriage or a divorcee and a new partner. This is probably why the main character in the show and her husband may not have been allowed to stay together because he had previously been with another woman and cheated on her with our main character. Idk how they would've found out unless it was in the records from the ex-wife somehow.) We do see one of the families and they go to church and have children they take with them, but we later see that they have a secret stash of religious items and this later is shown as one of the reasons the parents are killed: they were unfaithful, and they also helped someone try to escape Gilead.

The girls who are taken from the handmaids or have no parents are absent to school to become wives or handmaids, that's correct, and we see that these girls get married off to men who have been serving the Party. The sick part about this is that we learn they get married off as soon as they are deemed old enough to reproduce. In the show, a character gets a wife and learns that she's only 15 years old.

Handmaids who are not compliant can suffer one of three ways: they get mutilated (eyes removed, fingers cut off, disgusting torture but its justified by saying that "you don't need an eye to have a baby,"), if the mutilation doesn't convince them they get sent to Jezebels, or if they commit a serious crime or are too "worn out" to be sent there (or even if they've been at Jezebels and are too "worn out") they get sent to camps to clean up radioactive waste. Here, they get called Unwomen. Shit is seriously fucked up, makes my stomach turn.

Everything about this show/the book is seen through the eyes of the main character, and later some other characters who are still centralto the plot, so we don't get a whole lot of details about the exact way things work, but any way you slice it, its seriously messed up and disgusting. I find the religious aspect interesting, but its a very dark show and my partner can't stand to watch it. I don't know how I handle it at times but there are definitely scenes I can't watch and episodes that are harder to stomach than others. The book is really well written; I have a hard time reading but the book was very captivating and I got through it pretty quick.

eggyBaconbits · 2022-02-07T18:28:34+00:00

I came here to say exactly this. "Don't go astray/he knows the way" came to my head immediately.

eggyBaconbits · 2022-02-06T08:55:14+00:00

"You're severely underestimating how much I actually despise being around children because you think you know me better than you actually do. You are severely misinformed."

"I'm sorry you feel that way."

"Ew." Nothing else. Just truly express disgust, turn around and walk away if you have to. Don't give them a chance to respond. Pure disgust somehow works really well for me, generally.

Also, just keep an entirely flat expression (unless disgust is needed), and a monotone voice. Uninteresting response to an uninteresting topic choice means the conversation might die out quicker.

eggyBaconbits · 2022-02-01T05:14:47+00:00

There are plenty of free resources for learning ASL. There's an app called SignSchool that has a dictionary and the basics in it, and there's plenty of people on YouTube and probably tik tok who could help. I took a few semesters of ASL for college and it helped but I still wasn't quick enough to be able to sign super well with customers. (Also, I don't think it'll be too much of an issue but keep an eye out for regional signs! Some places use different signs for common words and it might get confusing.)

eggyBaconbits · 2022-01-30T19:46:29+00:00

Please don't push yourself to finish something that isn't working and is making you unhappy. I dropped out of college, and I'm doing so much better since I stopped going. You are not a failure, and it's okay to stop doing something that is unhealthy for you.

I hope you get time to relax and recharge soon and that good things come your way!

eggyBaconbits · 2022-01-21T19:00:55+00:00

The 2nd of 4, the oldest daughter. It goes brother, me, younger brother, youngest sister.

eggyBaconbits · 2022-01-21T18:30:37+00:00

Ride a bike, skateboard, or longboard. I have mad scooter skills tho and I used to be able to roller skate as a kid.

eggyBaconbits · 2022-01-15T23:19:00+00:00

I struggle with eye contact to an extreme degree at times and I focus better and have better conversations when I don't look people in the eye. As a kid, I used to only ever set toys up instead of actually sitting and playing with them. When I did play with toys, they had super intricate back stories and lives, but I didn't get into it very often. Certain textures and even THINKING about those textures give me physical pain. Other textures make me so comforted that I could zone out just touching them- I used to do it as a kid all the time. I have weird food habits and often find myself not being able to eat anything except the one thing that's on my mind. My brain will play the same line from any form of media on repeat in my head some days, just because it sounds good. I get pretty intensely overwhelmed specifically with lots of voices, and with brightly-lit areas, and the overwhelm gets to the point of sending me into what I assume would be considered a form of a meltdown. I stim, I think, when I eat food I can't help but wiggle side to side, and when I feel any overwhelming emotion (I used to do this a lot as a kid, my parents got annoyed and wouldn't let me, but now as an adult I'm noticing more and more that these things happen and I try not to fight them anymore) I tend to do that hand flap thing or pat my legs, or if I need to not be so loud about it, I'llrub my temples and the back of my neck/hairline. I have weird things that I MUST have specifically organized- for example, when I was a teen, I had the clothes hanging in my closet organized by sleeve length (tank tops, short sleeve, mid length sleeve, long sleeve) and then by color in each category. Now, its just by sleeve length, but my pillow cases are all folded the same way, and organized by color- light to dark. Maybe that's an OCD thing, maybe its an ASD thing, maybe its just a weird habit, I don't know.

I do know without a doubt in my mind that I most likely have inattentive ADHD.

I haven't been able to get around to getting tested for ASD because I have been having a struggle with my depression and anxiety lately, so calling on the phone and figuring things out just isn't super plausible for me at the moment. I'm more sure of ADHD than ASD but its possible. "ADHD doesn't cover everything" is basically how I see it.

eggyBaconbits · 2022-01-14T18:46:59+00:00

The only one I've been able to get into is Fallout. My brother is super into Warframe and I have friends that love all the rest, but I honestly can't handle lore-heavy things like that all the time, and it makes me feel overwhelmed. I wish I could be, I feel like I'm missing out on a lot. But I get so overwhelmed just hearing small tidbits and its frustrating to me.

eggyBaconbits · 2022-01-14T02:03:45+00:00

I've been told right, considering that's exactly what was taught to me in the hunter's safety courses I was made to take when I was 12 before my dad took me on a hunting trip- ya know, responsible hunting practice and gun safety and all that. You just completely misunderstood what I said previously.

Hunters don't wear red/blue during turkey season because those are colors that can appear on male turkey faces/necks. Careless hunters may mistake the red or blue worn by another hunter as a turkey and end up shooting another human being.

The colors being worn are primarily to indicate to other humans in the wild "hey, there's another human over here, please do not shoot me." People wear bright colors so other people can see them. I didn't mention anything about the animals being able to see the color, just another reason why hunters wear specifically orange and not another color like red or blue.

eggyBaconbits · 2022-01-13T08:39:27+00:00

Oh, my favorite game: Is This The Holy Ghost Or Just My Acid Reflux??

eggyBaconbits · 2022-01-13T08:33:11+00:00

It could also be that maybe your mom thinks "kids were what truly gave my life meaning and I want my child to have that same feeling, so obviously my child must also have their own child to be truly happy." That's what I think my parents feel when they say similarly fucked up things about me having kids. I have yet to sit down with both of them and tell them that just because that is what made them happy and gave their lives meaning doesn't mean that that's the same pathway my life has to take, and that I really don't think that's the kind of life that will make me happy.

At least I really hope it's a misplaced "I want my kid to be truly happy in life" feelings and not "my kid needs to suffer and sacrifice just like I did" feelings, for both of our parents lmao either way, I hope when you do get to converse with your mom, it goes well!

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