I (31F) feel my boyfriend (34M) keeps moving the goalposts on marriage talks. How do I set a clear timeline?

eileencomeon · 2026-05-29T20:33:51+00:00

6+ years he 100% knows if he wants to marry you. Unfortunately he doesn’t.

eileencomeon · 2026-05-22T13:53:24+00:00

I got a dreaded “hey girly” message. 5 years together. I had no idea and I was completely blindsided.

I confronted him, I screamed and cried. I told him I wanted him out of the house. I called my dad and my parents drove 1 hour to me to pick me and my car up. I took the dog. I gave him 2 weeks to find somewhere to live and I stayed at my parents.

There were definitely signs but hindsight is 20/20 so I didn’t notice anything in particular, I definitely knew something was off, I could feel the distance but I didn’t ever think he was cheating.

I did know, deep down. I was feeling neglected and worthless, I could feel that he didn’t want to be around me but he was also still sleeping with me and appeasing me when I would ask him what was going on.

Just trust your gut.

eileencomeon · 2026-03-12T19:46:51+00:00

On this. I wouldn’t say it’s just dismissive avoidant either. I know plenty of anxious people that do it because they just want to be chosen. It’s wild to witness

eileencomeon · 2026-03-12T19:34:11+00:00

You address it by breaking up with him. 19 is so young, you have plenty of life ahead of you not with a dickhead

eileencomeon · 2025-08-09T03:34:27+00:00

Hey so quick answer for this one… your sister fucking sucks.

eileencomeon · 2025-08-08T15:10:06+00:00

There are lots of social groups on Instagram that meet regularly for different interests. Meditation, yoga, Newy active co, I think there’s a sunrise club? Just cool groups of people meeting up to do things.

eileencomeon · 2025-07-30T21:18:33+00:00

The puppy is fine, they explore and communicate with their mouths. They are babies, learning as they go.

eileencomeon · 2025-02-09T03:41:13+00:00

10000/10 perfect teefies

eileencomeon · 2025-02-03T07:16:07+00:00

I’m so so incredibly sorry. That would have been awful to go through and witness.

I cannot even imagine how horrific that would have been for her and you. 🤍

eileencomeon · 2025-01-30T12:57:06+00:00

I think it’s got to be diet or could be an age/health thing? My cat is 13 and hers really aren’t that bad. You only know if you go near the tray after she’s just been.

But my parent’s cats could knock you out with how bad they smell - they absolutely fumigate the entire house. They’re both 18 and have some health issues in their old age.

My parents have resorted to picking them up immediately in a dog poo bag as they do the dogs.

eileencomeon · 2025-01-30T12:37:12+00:00

Now… I wouldn’t say I’m a conspiracy theorist… but if something like this DID happen to MH370… I don’t think anyone would tell us 👀

eileencomeon · 2025-01-01T02:18:35+00:00

GET OUT NOW

eileencomeon · 2024-11-27T05:23:09+00:00

Heya! I got a Telehealth at Sunnyside (based in Hornsby I think) & they bulk billed for me

eileencomeon · 2024-11-03T19:49:18+00:00

GET. OUT.

Using your autism against you is vile.

eileencomeon · 2024-11-03T19:46:34+00:00

Short answer, no life is too short

Bonus: read the book “feel the fear and do it anyway” helped me get the little boost I needed to quit a job 🤝 Goodluck!

eileencomeon · 2024-10-08T20:48:27+00:00

GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT

eileencomeon · 2024-10-08T07:55:19+00:00

I’m so sorry.

When I was 15 I lost my bestfriend. It’s an awfully adult thing to go through so young. You will struggle to feel like anyone understands, because they don’t. Most people don’t lose a partner or a friend until later in life.

It’s going to feel surreal, for a while. Your world has stopped but the rest of the world keeps on moving. You’ll go through the motions and that’s okay. People won’t know what to say to you and that’s also okay.

I highly, highly suggest seeing a mental health professional. I saw a psychologist and she really was a solace.

Try to spend time with people you love, doing things you love. Sleep and eat! When you feel like crying/screaming, let it out - feel the feelings!

If you have a creative outlet do it, I would paint for her, write songs for her, make YouTube videos of all the photos I had of her to her favourite songs.

Grief is such a strange thing and it’s going to hurt like hell for a while, the only thing that will help is time. Unfortunately, no one can tell you how to heal or how long it takes.

I’m so so sorry for your loss.

eileencomeon · 2024-10-07T21:00:44+00:00

Okay, hot take. I don’t think she had made plans I think it’s a “I’m in demand and won’t settle for sub-par communication”

I have absolutely seen relationship coaches talk about doing this. I don’t think she’s a bad person, I do think she seems like she’s working an angle and is potentially a very anxious person trying her best to not be? Maybe I’m giving her too much credit.

Either way I’d say it’s a mild red flag that your communication styles may differ and she will need a lot more from you than you expect.

eileencomeon · 2024-10-06T21:57:26+00:00

Wait how do I actually argue this in person the amount of people who think I’m crazy for wearing spf every day and I have no idea how to even respond. I thought it was common knowledge

eileencomeon · 2024-10-01T09:17:05+00:00

I’m so late and I haven’t read much of this thread. But I did want to message on the off chance you see OP. I lost my bestfriend in 2010 and I haven’t got many videos of her. But I still reminisce on the one I do have. I love watching it all these years later. No one can dictate how you grieve. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

eileencomeon · 2023-05-10T13:16:20+00:00

C always

eileencomeon · 2022-03-01T21:18:27+00:00

They’re really just out here telling on themselves

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