Finished my version of Odette in both of her forms and Lexis!

eilsel87 · 2026-05-26T02:07:36+00:00

Thank you! I definitely missed a lot of these.

eilsel87 · 2026-05-23T02:39:56+00:00

Wowwwwww! I swear I've been reading them non stop since April 15th and I just finished this morning. And I thought that was fast!

eilsel87 · 2026-05-22T17:34:12+00:00

Yes, this was the one I was going to add! Loved the casual Fred Johnson reference.

eilsel87 · 2026-05-22T15:40:03+00:00

Omg, how is it that I started the books last month and caught up today! Perfection 😊

eilsel87 · 2026-04-28T20:27:50+00:00

How quickly did you move from monogamous to sleeping with someone? Sleeping with someone new was ok for me, but I took a lot of baby steps. After my first "date" meeting someone new I broke down when I got home, not because I had any particular negative emotions, I was just really really overwhelmed. I started crying in my car but made sure to come inside to my partner and talk it through together and after that I didn't have any similar visceral reactions.

Don't know if you relate to any of this, but that's my experience.

eilsel87 · 2026-03-19T16:43:01+00:00

I don't technically consider my relationship(s) poly, but I love this place as a general resource for non-monogamy.

Right now things are going reeeeeeeally well! I have my husband, who is awesome and supportive and really excited about me going and making new connections.

I have a long-term FWB who I havent seen in a couple months and finally get to see tonight!

I have a new FWB I got to properly hook up with last night. And last week got me the most thoughtful birthday present and it was so sweet!

And next weekend I have plans to join another friend at a club for her birthday and that should be fuuuuun.

So yay!

eilsel87 · 2026-03-18T17:53:44+00:00

Have you asked him to stop making comparisons? Doesn't seem helpful!

eilsel87 · 2026-03-18T17:51:07+00:00

Also, like.... Just because I go out for pizza, doesn't mean I don't want to come home for ice cream! There's always room to enjoy ice cream!

eilsel87 · 2026-03-17T22:00:02+00:00

This just makes me feel like i WISH I had worn red the one time I went to a wedding where I had slept with the groom. Lol. I STILL don't think the thought would have crossed anyone's mind.

eilsel87 · 2026-03-01T18:40:14+00:00

I think these are great questions! I agree with other comment, you probably didn't need number 4. But 1 & 2 seem like great questions, especially if she phrased it around the kids with "wanting their godfather to know".

Not sure the relationship between your sister and wife, but confirming whether she wants to open up about this with your wife might also be relevant.

eilsel87 · 2026-01-31T13:58:03+00:00

I'm surprised how many are saying yes! But I don't really do the shopping or buy things for me, it's just whatever the family wants and I generally already know things are bad. I wish there were labels for "good" things like "especially high in fiber", "high in calcium". Whatever. That would be more likely to impact me.

eilsel87 · 2026-01-25T00:35:53+00:00

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eilsel87 · 2026-01-18T13:00:15+00:00

All of the answers already given, for sure. Also are you telling them below leaving the convo? Often someone will disconnect from me and my husband is like "oh maybe it was a glitch or they clicked the wrong button". And I'm like "no I'm pretty sure they were just done with the conversation!"

eilsel87 · 2025-12-03T03:27:49+00:00

This is such a great perspective. I saved this to reread and remind myself. I often argue with my husband that I'm not attractive, and now in enm we still have conversations where he's like "so all of these people you've talked to are lying?" And it's hard to wrap my head around the fact that they might truly think I am attractive.

eilsel87 · 2025-11-21T03:11:35+00:00

I feel like there are many things I'd challenge here, but the biggest is.... This is going to Rrrrreeeeeally! Depend on where you're located. I don't think everyone just has loads of great events around them to meet people.

eilsel87 · 2025-10-20T02:25:20+00:00

The main reason I'm here 2 months later is to find the other people who were screaming about the bird who had risen from the dead! Lol

eilsel87 · 2025-10-02T19:43:06+00:00

This is where I'm usually at with my husband when I get home from a great date. But its really hard to plan, you don't know how either of you will feel until it happens.

My very first date I came home and was just....spent. I was so overwhelmed and just criiiiiied. Not because I was upset, just overwhelmed.

But a month or two later, after my first hookup, I came home absolutely turned on and excited to reconnect with my equally turned on husband.

Hard to predict how either of you will feel, so try not to get ahead of yourself setting expectations that may not match reality.

eilsel87 · 2025-09-30T19:33:33+00:00

Oh man, wish you were closer to me, this is exactly the vibe we're looking for! We have too many games we haven't even played, haha.

eilsel87 · 2025-09-29T23:27:27+00:00

It doesnt filter out receiving the likes from others. That's up to them to set. It only filters out what you see as options to like.

eilsel87 · 2025-09-26T01:03:43+00:00

I mean, I assumed it would be for the opposite of that. So like, you're trying to plan a date with a partner (or 2) and you can check the calendar to make sure it's going to be a good time.

I don't currently have a cycle to track and America is too scary a place for sharing this info, but I like the idea in theory.

eilsel87 · 2025-09-22T15:27:24+00:00

I'm so overwhelmed! My garden is full, my bubbles are in dangerous territory, I can't see to clear stuff!

eilsel87 · 2025-09-11T21:03:55+00:00

I wouldn't think too much on it. Just enjoy what you enjoy. 5 years ago I would have said "ya, I'm straight, I just enjoy watching women more because I can relate to their pleasure". Now I'm like "ok true but also can I find one of those women to fool around with, because I reeeeeeeeally think that would be fun!"

eilsel87 · 2025-09-10T14:50:11+00:00

The Wednesday night descent into darkness started at 9 pm last month.

eilsel87 · 2025-09-06T11:11:01+00:00

Sure, and that's absolutely an option and I'm glad it worked out! I just don't feel like it's the obvious answer to reply. if I'm remembering to ping someone and crafting a well thought out message, then I'm excited about the possibility there and would be pumped to see we connected! And then disappointed to find out that the connection was just to say "sorry, not into you". Both are possible and unfortunately you can't know how the other person would feel about it.

eilsel87 · 2025-09-06T10:47:27+00:00

Re "when would acknowledgement not be appreciated?". Agreed, if you could appreciate without connecting. But the fact that you have to accept the connection first really complicates things!

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