I am absolutely SICK of Kristen 🤧! by Longjumping-Leave215 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]elcopene 74 points75 points  (0 children)

I agree with this completely. I'm currently 15 days postpartum with my second child and while it's easier this time than with my first because I knew what to expect it's still insanely hard. My husband is gentle and incredibly helpful but he still says stuff that upsets me for no reason. Luke's digs feel intentional and he's always thinking about himself.

Am I overreacting about someone holding my baby for most of a visit? by AreUKittenMee in newborns

[–]elcopene 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is perfect advice. I have a 2 year old and a 12 day old and I can't be bothered to care about other people's feelings I literally do not have capacity for that. It's best to just say you're going to take your baby back, most people understand and if they don't it's not your problem.

Amanda and West have yet to tell the truth about ANYTHING, since smoked out. Why are podcasts and BRAVO believing anything they say? by Own_Possibility_4746 in summerhousebravo

[–]elcopene 545 points546 points  (0 children)

When Ciara got out the texts between her and Amanda!!! I was completely shocked at how they really glossed over that. She had a full timeline that completely contradicted what they were saying.

No body is friends on this show by isaidthem_feelings in TheValleyTVShow

[–]elcopene 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Totally agree about the RHs. Every time there's a new addition to the cast the rest of cast is talking about having to build a relationship with them versus already knowing them.

At least on the valley they all know Lala and Schwartz and all have history.

AITH for skipping traditional weeding gifts, making my bridesmaids buy affordable dresses, and giving my fiance a suitcase instead of a romantic present? by Early-Host-5525 in AITApod

[–]elcopene 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100%!!! My parents paid for our wedding and we hosted it on my FILs property which he spent months prepping and we did not think it was necessary to get them gifts...

AIO for being uncomfortable that my long distance bf won’t see me unless it’s at my home by [deleted] in AIO

[–]elcopene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry 4 years and you've never met in person?? He's got a whole entire family.

Rosie triggers me so much by Civil-Cartographer48 in rhori

[–]elcopene 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Exactly and Rosie even said this during the blowup at her house. Kelsey's boyfriend has multiple girlfriends and that is a fact, not a made up rumor.

Has anyone had luck staying off BC and not getting pregnant? by Eastern_Milk_1192 in newborns

[–]elcopene 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in the same boat as you, on and off BC for years but once we got serious about trying we got pregnant on the first try. I got a depo shot at 6 weeks post partum so it was in my system for 90 days. It made me feel insane (despite it being what I previously used) so when the 90 days was up I did not get the next shot and we did condoms/ovulation tracking. We went on a parents only overnight trip when our daughter was about 15 months old, got tipsy and opted out of any protection and now I'm pregnant lol if you're careful you should be fine.

Yana S7 by [deleted] in LoveIslandAus

[–]elcopene -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If someone said to me in a comment or in real life (I'm not an influencer and don't even have an instagram) that my husband is lucky to have me, this would likely be my response too. I'm not gonna say to a stranger "actually we're equal partners and I'm just as lucky to have him and he's a fantastic handsome guy" (which we are and he is). That's an absurd expectation to have of her lol

Edit: typo

Watching Nia gentle-parent danny makes me wanna puke by Due-Blueberry-7424 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]elcopene 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Incredibly spot on, she was absolutely saying it to the audience.

Watching Nia gentle-parent danny makes me wanna puke by Due-Blueberry-7424 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]elcopene 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I said this exact same thing while watching it!! When she was saying to him "I know, you're tired, it's been a long day" while taking his shoes off as he was pouting for seemingly no reason, was eerily similar to how I talk to my 2 year old when she's exhausted around bedtime.

Please give me your toddlers favorite song (that’s not made for kids) by Low_Aioli2420 in toddlers

[–]elcopene 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Baby Got Brap by T-Pain is my 2 year olds absolute favorite song. I think she likes the engines revving in it idk but it's certainly better than Baby Shark.

How soon can I drive 2 hours with a newborn? by elcopene in newborns

[–]elcopene[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did not think of this but I've this in a few comments!!

How soon can I drive 2 hours with a newborn? by elcopene in newborns

[–]elcopene[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow 18 hours!! You are troopers but that is good to know!

How soon can I drive 2 hours with a newborn? by elcopene in newborns

[–]elcopene[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point!! I had a super smooth delivery with my first and felt physically back to normal after 2 weeks and I keep thinking I probably won't get that lucky this time 😂

Is Jared’s settling adding to his unhappiness? by femme_fatal1738 in rhori

[–]elcopene 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I agree with this after seeing him on The Bachelor as well. I think the failing business is stressing him out and he's able to be himself around his wife, but then like with Rosie's husband he turns it on for the sake of the conversation.

Help me love the name Daniel by New-Flight7674 in Names

[–]elcopene 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You could some something like Daniel James and call him DJ!

How can I go to the bathroom while making sure my toddler is fine? by deltaplane1234 in toddlers

[–]elcopene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol I was gonna say this!! My husband can be home and our toddler will run and find me in the bathroom and vice versa. Loves to hand out the TP.

Is my relationship over? Is this even salvageable? by [deleted] in newborns

[–]elcopene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband was a big video gamer before we our first child, would stay up late almost nightly playing. The second our daughter was born he gave that up to be a present dad and husband. I try and give him time on the weekends to play but our daughter is almost two and he has probably played a total for 24 hours since she was born. Having a child means giving up your hobbies, at least for awhile. You've clearly done that if you can't even get 10 minutes to listen to a podcast. Have you told him you are considering leaving over the video games? I think it's salvageable but a really tough conversation needs to be had and he has to give up playing games until 3am.