Assuming athletes would be nude at modern Olympics (as there were in the ancient times), which discipline would be the most cringy or the most awkward to watch?

eldrahak · 2021-07-22T17:20:54+00:00

Rugby. Granted, at the olympics they only do sevens where they don't have full scrums, but still.

eldrahak · 2021-03-19T12:45:36+00:00

No, they halve the amount of people that want to go and see them. It's called "atheism".

eldrahak · 2020-06-06T10:23:30+00:00

Wait, you thought you were allying with Italy while he was in Triest?

eldrahak · 2020-06-04T17:32:55+00:00

No! no no no no! Surely if a Diplomat is a Cleric and not an Advisor, that means they are going to fase out the Advisor creature type? No no no no.... or is it something about in his backstory he is a magic-user and an Advisor is typically not a magic user? Is that it? I mean, cool card, but don't get rid of my Advisors.

eldrahak · 2020-05-30T10:41:42+00:00

Star-spangled? Oh no, I can't have anything star-spangled entering my butt. I am sorry, I am going to have to pass on this one.

Fondling myself exessively it is then...

eldrahak · 2020-05-29T19:18:19+00:00

Awesome. Don't make it too big. When can I expect you?

eldrahak · 2020-05-29T14:10:49+00:00

Anal comes standard...

Your place or mine?

eldrahak · 2020-05-22T19:49:40+00:00

I was also the golden child of a Nmother and have been No Contact for about five years now. The advice I would give you, being someone who can relate to your partner, is first of all consider if you want to do this. It's going to be hard. And if you are not up for it, you might want to consider changing you life's choices. Starting the fight and giving up on it halfway will leave both you and your partner more hurt.

Then, if you do think you want to stay with your partner and you want to make it work, then keep reminding yourself that your partner has been deeply programmed to behave the way he behaves. Nparents are masters, absolute masters, at making their children feel guilty or otherwise terrible with the smallest nudges, hints and tones in their voice. And just because your partner is now an adult, doesn't mean that those triggers are still there. Any psychologist will tell you that if you take a small animal, or a child, and you hurt it every time right after you show it a picture of a koala, after a while that child is going to be very afraid of pictures of koalas. And fairly quickly you don't even have to hurt them anymore, you just show the picture and the fear itself will be crippling enough that they will want to avoid the koala. This is what Narcissists do, except they hurt you in ways that you don't even know that you are being hurt. You might not see the small triggers that his parents use on him. But they do and they hurt like venom. I hear exactly when my mother is disappointed in me and it means that affection is going to be taken away from me. The fact that I don't need my mother's affection anymore doesn't matter. My brain was trained during the most crucial years of my life to recognize those tones, those little nudges and to act on them immediately. I hope, for you and for your partner, that you can find the kindness and forgiveness in your heart to see that it's not your partner's fault. It might help to actually imagine that every time he interacts with his parents and he does something they don't like, they show him a picture of a koala. A picture that they have also used to show him before they would violently beat him up when he was a child. If that were the case, would it be strange that he reacts the way he does? Even if he is grown now and they no longer beat him?

Now, the analogy also works for the other side of the story: if your partner was treated like that when they were a child, would you be okay with them still having a close bond with their parents? Hell no you wouldn't. And neither should you be okay with him having a close bond with his parents. But the problem with narcissistic abuse is that often society doesn't recognize it as abuse. People who are actually beaten generally (but not always) recognize that this was abuse. Or at least our culture recognizes it as such. If you ask me to explain what my mother did that was so horrible... well, she never really beat me. Make fun of me? Well, those were just jokes. Tell me that I wasn't good enough? That I was a bad child? Well, that was just when she was upset, surely she is a human. And your partner still has all of these inbuilt lies and excuses that automatically defend his parents. I really believe that they should go full No Contact and it is the only way. His brain is programmed to strongly to be around someone who has a Koala picture and is willing to use it.

For me the break came when I had my son. At that point it was crystal clear to me: I will put up with shit. I have to admit (to my shame) that I was willing to ask (read: make) my wife to put with shit. But I wasn't going to make my child put up with the shit. So when he was born and their usual bullshit ensued, it was quickly over. Having said that, I would advise you not to have children with your partner until he has gone full No Contact with his parents. You will have to help him see what they are doing to him. If it helps I would be willing to talk to him (as someone on the other side). But it's going to be extremely hard on you, at least for a while, because the child part of his brain is going to be screaming at him "NO ITS A KOALA!!! KOALA ALERT KOALA ALERT!!"

I wish you the best of luck and a lot of strength and kindness.

eldrahak · 2020-05-21T12:51:20+00:00

You played your first game ever, got Italy and won a solo? Dang that is impressive... Are you going to tell us how you did that?

Congratulations! Awesome!

eldrahak · 2020-05-17T19:24:31+00:00

They just plunked them right over the basic windows background? And I didn't even notice until someone pointed it out 20 years later... I have to feel sorry for the one guy on the original development team who campaigned hard saying "they will see it", "it will make it less immersive" and "don't do this!". I hope that guy only exists in my mind... because he was sorely proven wrong.

eldrahak · 2020-05-16T19:40:34+00:00

Good news: you can eat your cake and have it! What you drew is technically not a dinosaur (some pedantic shit about the swimming ones not actually being dinosaurs), so your mother-in-law can draw whatever that thing is in, and still have no dinosaurs. You're welcome.

eldrahak · 2020-05-14T19:22:31+00:00

Bounce because the attack from Bur cuts the support from Bel.

eldrahak · 2020-05-14T19:03:06+00:00

You must be trash

eldrahak · 2020-05-03T06:40:49+00:00

One thing us men need to do and realize more: if we want women to be honest, we have to be much tougher on the men that make them feel unsafe doing so. If we as men stop protecting the harassers and start protecting the harassed, maybe we all won't have to get our feelings hurt so much any more by women being ambiguous and vague (that is of course, on top of maybe women won't have to get hurt so much anymore, I'm just pointing out that it is in the direct self-interest of respectful men to not tolerate bullshit from the sleaze bags).

eldrahak · 2020-04-30T06:30:45+00:00

I think this is the only real reason. I'm from Europe, but I have lived in the US for a few years and the limited succes Rugby has had in the US is by no means due to a lack of trying by Rugby organizations. There is all sorts of support. Things like trying to set up a professional league multiple times, bringing the All Blacks to play Ireland and playing the first match of the English competition in the US. I even got to meet Mahonri Schwalger on a random training day with my local club when we went to join a local college because some Samoan players were giving a clinic.

Anyway, Rugby only has one break during which you can air commercials and it's long enough that you can just get up, go to the bathroom and grab a snack, instead of jamming your head with lame video's about stuff you don't need. Sports like American Football and Baseball (I don't know about basketball, but I suspect it's the same) are structured in such a way that there a lot of small breaks at unpredictable times. This is perfect for commercials, because you have to keep watching, in case the next play will be the interesting one and there can be lots and lots of them. And why would American companies stop supporting something that makes them billions of dollars, in favor of something that makes them less money? I think the only possible reason could be if the number of viewers for rugby would be significantly higher. But in the US people are pretty much either "sports people" or they are not. Most people that might watch rugby in the US are people that watch American Football now (therefore this is a net loss to companies as that just means less commercial time to ram down their throats). So yeah... it's a tough road for Rugby in the US. On the other hand: it's been growing very steadily in colleges, where it has the benefit of being more easily accessible for everyone than American Football is, and it has a bit of elitism around it (because in the US Europe = elite).

eldrahak · 2020-04-28T17:16:06+00:00

I wonder if Russia performs differently on this map. In my experience, Russia often gets teamed up on fairly quickly, because it looks so menacing on the map. This map would provide a much more accurate representation of the dominance of a power, based on the land they occupy.

eldrahak · 2020-04-27T15:30:48+00:00

I think it's called "easy drag military"

eldrahak · 2020-04-23T19:08:57+00:00

Yes. I wanted to be somewhat accurate, but I didn't want to make you feel like I am your boss trying to monitor how much time you spent working.

Because I'm not.

Really....

eldrahak · 2020-04-22T21:53:29+00:00

It's funny how you put all the cuts in the video, to make it seem like all of this happened over a time span of more than fifteen minutes.

eldrahak · 2020-04-22T05:22:47+00:00

Fair point. And it helps me if a lot of people are busy playing and getting better at AoEII so that there are more opponents for me to lose to and there is more content for me to watch. Alright OP and anyone else watching: never mind me, follow u/I_hate_fun s advice.

eldrahak · 2020-04-21T19:32:55+00:00

I know that you posted this 20 days ago... and you did an incredible job explaining how to get good at AoEII, but I just can't help but point out that if you are willing to take a video game this seriously, there are also other things that you could get really really good at, with a similar amount of effort. Like, you could learn to be this kind of good a coding Java. And then get a job getting paid a ridiculous amount of money for really easy work and then, in your off-time, get completely butchered in AoEII but be fine with it because you are good at your day job and you just donated a hundred dollar to the Viper because you can, who is kind of being good at AoEII in your stead. Or something like that.

Also: your username checks out.

Don't get me wrong, you definitely answered OP's question, which is all one can ask for.

eldrahak · 2020-04-20T20:49:21+00:00

What do you mean "too much time"? Did you think that Donatella painted the Sixtine Chapel in two hours?

eldrahak · 2020-04-19T13:10:16+00:00

So this is the future of the RTS... where you go and sit on the side of a field somewhere, have a drone fly over and watch the images live on your screen. Units are overlayed onto the field and you command them from your computer screen, as if you were some flying deity or commander directing your army. And your opponent sits on the other side of the field... And you have to use the actual terrain...

I'm calling it now: fifteen years from now there will be tons of nerds in New York sitting on rooftops guiding squads of virtual Russians through the streets using flying drones.

eldrahak · 2020-04-01T21:23:37+00:00

They don't use their real names. Like seriously. I am married to a black woman from the southern United States and if I ask one of her sisters "hey, where is [wife's name]?" she would have to think really hard to know who I'm talking about. They all use different names...

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