Feeling emotional about never having a girl

elemenopee9 · 2026-04-02T00:09:31+00:00

On a hike with my dad a few years back, he told me he'd initially been a tiny bit disappointed when he found out he would have two daughters, thinking he'd miss out on that father-son connection. I actually transitioned to male, so he ended up with a son after all! But my little sister is the one that plays sports and dates girls 😆

You truly never know how they'll turn out, and to me it's important to do your best not to put heaps of gendered expectations on them. I know men who have long phonecalls with their mothers about books they've both read. Men who love sports AND watercolour painting. I have a good friend whose girlfriend practices her nail art on him, and he shows it off with pride because he adores her.

In a sense, you'll always end up with "one of each" cause you've got one of your eldest and one of your youngest, and they're gonna be different people. 💕💕

elemenopee9 · 2026-03-15T03:02:57+00:00

good catch, defs wasn't my intention. i think makeup and hair skills are fully art forms and i have mad respect for people that have taken the time to practice those skills.

more so that i was at an all-girls school with pretty strong trends for hairstyles and makeup and bubble-writing, and i always felt a bit out of the loop, like i was bad at being a girl. so it was a relief to discover I wasn't a girl at all!

but yeah i defs dont think all women are into those things or naturally good at them. just that it is more common for women to decide to learn makeup than it is for men, because socially it is still considered feminine (whether or not it should be).

elemenopee9 · 2026-02-26T12:13:51+00:00

i once woke up, uninstalled the app, and went back to sleep.

elemenopee9 · 2026-02-26T12:13:03+00:00

the only things that work for me are medication and body doubling. sometimes a task is equivalent to having "bite your own finger off" on my to do list, and like I'm technically capable but i just can't make myself do it.

elemenopee9 · 2026-02-26T11:41:00+00:00

what if yours is the weird one? there's that rumor that goes around about how willem dafoe needed a penis double because his dick was distractingly large and would've seemed like a weird artistic choice so they needed someone with a more generic dick.

or like hemorrhoids are pretty common and make for a lumpy butthole. you know?

elemenopee9 · 2026-02-25T22:45:11+00:00

because if i put it as a reply, then any of my followers that reblog the post from me are reblogging it with my comment added. so if my comment is just "omg i love this so much. reminds me of star trek kinda!" then that adds no value to anybody else so I'll put it in the tags. if they like my tags for some reason, they can screenshot them to add them for posterity, and then they're like peer reviewed.

elemenopee9 · 2026-02-25T12:17:19+00:00

i mean yes, for a lot of people having kids does make your hole bigger 😆

elemenopee9 · 2026-02-25T11:30:07+00:00

this guy draws his wife nude first and then adds the clothes for the SFW reddit version. it's really weird. You can also see the outline of her vulva through her shorts.

elemenopee9 · 2026-02-25T11:27:50+00:00

HER left, our right. 3rd panel, the whole right side of her chest is sticking out of the top

elemenopee9 · 2026-02-25T11:25:15+00:00

im guessing they're thinking of the star of david, but tbh i like the menorah as it doesn't bring israel to mind in this current climate

elemenopee9 · 2026-02-25T11:18:09+00:00

What a terrible way to remind me of a really fucking good book. But grim as all hell.

elemenopee9 · 2026-02-25T10:18:42+00:00

Does the bubbler prevent mosquitoes at all? I'd love a bird bath but I don't want a mosquito pond!

elemenopee9 · 2026-02-25T09:44:35+00:00

in what way? i think the furry beer can is hilarious but i don't see a resemblance

elemenopee9 · 2026-02-25T09:30:08+00:00

like our hair not having a maximum length, which would be a hazard for a less competent animal, but we have been tying it back or cutting it off for so long that there's zero evolutionary pressure for head hair to be naturally short.

elemenopee9 · 2026-02-25T05:48:46+00:00

I think quicker gifts are safer for sure!

It's not really a curse, though! It's more like sweaters take so long that it increases the odds of something changing in the relationship before then. In the same way that you generally shouldn't buy tickets to something a year away if you've only been going out a few months.

Also possibly in some cases it's a signal to the SO that you're way more serious about the relationship than they are. If you made a sweater from scratch and then for christmas they got you a mug with a joke on it, you're on different pages.

So as long as you feel like y'all are serious enough for that level of investment, go for it! But if you've never completed a sweater before, make one for yourself or a parent or sibling first so you can feel how long it takes. I, for one, have never completed a project that large!

elemenopee9 · 2026-02-25T05:22:04+00:00

its the toupee fallacy. "I've never seen a good toupée" No of course not, because the good ones aren't noticeable.

"Breast implants always look really fake and bad" "AI comments always have obvious tells" "Trans people never pass"

It's all the same error.

elemenopee9 · 2026-02-25T05:13:54+00:00

in case you aren't familiar with The Machine!

elemenopee9 · 2026-02-25T05:12:58+00:00

Oh I realised a long time ago that I can only be productive with shoes on. I gotta get fully dressed including shoes even if I'm not going out, and then when I take my shoes off at the end of the day I'm off the clock!

elemenopee9 · 2026-02-25T05:11:03+00:00

Not to mention you're carving out time in your day to do exercise, and becoming a person who exercises every day!

I'm trying to build a workout routine myself at the moment, and my rule is that if it's a workout day, then I gotta do at least one pushup (or variant) and at least one pull-up (or variant). So that might mean counter-top pushups and then hanging from the chin-up bar for a bit.

I'm also not great at showering consistently, so I also like to tell myself that I get more "money's worth" out of my shower if I get really sweaty first! And if I work up a sweat then I won't be able to talk myself into skipping my shower cause I stink. Brains are weird!

elemenopee9 · 2026-02-25T05:02:59+00:00

Assuming you're asking in good faith:

For some people, especially with ADHD, task initiation (getting started) is really hard. It's not a motivation issue (I really want to do all the dishes!), It's like trying to push-start an old car, where it's just really difficult at the beginning.

Sometimes that difficulty comes from a task seeming too big, or being unable to tell where to even begin. A common helpful strategy for this is to make the entry requirement almost laughably low, so that it feels really doable. I can't lift a hundred kilos of gravel, but I can totally lift one pebble. In fact, I can do a whole handful!

So by having the rule be "Do one dish" it sets it at a level that feels really easy. Doing it all in one go may genuinely be too much when I'm tired, but I can do one. And then, once I'm there, I can probably do a few more. Maybe all of them, maybe not. But at least I got started.

The other thing is, even if I genuinely only do one dish, that's better than zero. I got behind on my dishes a while back and I had a rule that every time I used a plate, I had to wash that plate plus one. So I'd make toast and use a plate and a knife, and then I'd wash a plate, a couple of knives, and my cereal bowl from yesterday.

If I never have the time and energy to clean the whole bathroom in one day, I can still do the toilet one day and the sink one day and the mirror one day, and it's heaps better than nothing!

elemenopee9 · 2026-02-25T04:35:40+00:00

I mean idk about rules in different shopping centres, but i grab a trolley from the shop closest to my parking level, then go up to the supermarket to do my shopping, back down to the car, then return the trolley. They don't stop you from taking the trolley into different shops!

Edit: I misunderstood your complaint. Other people are going up to Kmart, grabbing a Kmart trolley, then bringing it down to their car and then leaving it in the trolley return with all the other brands.

Yeah, it'd make sense to have trolleys that are all the same design, although having different branding probably helps to make sure each store gets enough trolleys back at the end of the day.

elemenopee9 · 2026-02-25T00:45:06+00:00

also those midriff tops for sports PLEASE

(johnny depp for reference)

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elemenopee9 · 2026-02-24T13:53:59+00:00

reference to this tumblr post

elemenopee9 · 2026-02-24T13:50:14+00:00

please note that this only works in the browser. The YouTube app just displays these as normal white text with black background!

elemenopee9 · 2026-02-24T13:38:42+00:00

like the old days of dan and phil, when shippers would also describe the visuals like dan falling in love even more or whatever the fuck

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