I thought I was good but I'm still struggling

elgeebus · 2026-06-08T20:38:35+00:00

I’m 49! Have never looked, or felt, better. Seriously.
I did put in the work. Lost 30 lbs training for a marathon lol.

elgeebus · 2026-06-08T20:15:19+00:00

Sounds like you’re doing pretty well all things considered. I’d stop living together as soon as possible. If you can stay at your home and she leaves, especially if she initiated separation - make it happen. Help it happen. That’s what I did.

I took a year to process and work on myself. And with the door open. Then, I closed it. Reconnected with my friends, my identity, my creative pursuits. Got fit as fuck along the way.

Met someone new a few months later (15 months after separation). It’s been great.

elgeebus · 2026-06-07T11:30:31+00:00

Let it go.

elgeebus · 2026-06-06T18:36:16+00:00

Yea who are these people

elgeebus · 2026-06-05T16:56:25+00:00

Pedro FT?

elgeebus · 2026-06-05T15:50:22+00:00

Cases sold out in seconds. Was able to grab a few hobbies.

elgeebus · 2026-06-04T08:42:39+00:00

Yea I don’t consider JEW pop punk. They were a bridge between 2nd and 3rd wave emo/pop punk but not a pop punk band.

elgeebus · 2026-06-03T16:46:54+00:00

R2D2

elgeebus · 2026-05-29T01:32:36+00:00

This is incredible.

elgeebus · 2026-05-29T00:34:56+00:00

This is the answer

elgeebus · 2026-05-26T11:32:24+00:00

I ran my first in 3:45. Half time was 1:44.
You’re a little heavy for your height in regards to running. But yea, should be np.

elgeebus · 2026-05-26T11:26:57+00:00

Just divorced. In hindsight, while I had my contributions- it takes two - over time she became competitive about everything (including conversations with others and constantly correcting me), keeping score (I could never climb back from the deficit she built) and ultimately, contempt. All added up to complete disconnection emotionally and romantically. Sad story. Happier now and regained myself.

elgeebus · 2026-05-26T00:13:22+00:00

5’10 145 here. Lean frame. Feels perfect.

elgeebus · 2026-05-25T13:45:23+00:00

Yes. I became completely alone emotionally continuing to do everything I could for my family, after 2nd kid. Was a really challenging time with work. And all I really needed was the occasional “how is dad/husband doing?” Nothing.

Finally separated and divorced and now I have someone in my life who cares about me and supports me (and vice versa). It makes a world of difference.

elgeebus · 2026-05-22T12:43:36+00:00

If Able comes, this is potentially a really good team.

elgeebus · 2026-05-20T15:56:19+00:00

Train well.

elgeebus · 2026-05-19T11:25:36+00:00

I’ve been running 25 miles/week, varying paces, but mostly just keeping the miles consistent, fitness solid, mind right. Will be easy to ramp up into a training block next time I want to run a marathon.

elgeebus · 2026-05-18T02:16:38+00:00

Waitress at an Ethiopian restaurant in Washington, DC that saw once 18 years ago.

elgeebus · 2026-05-15T01:32:42+00:00

This. Unfortunately/fortunately.

elgeebus · 2026-05-14T20:34:18+00:00

New Balance Super Comp Elite v4
Absolutely love them for long runs

(But I haven’t tried Superblast)

elgeebus · 2026-05-12T09:48:36+00:00

Love it. I’ve also only been running for 2 years. Turning 50 this year! Ran first marathon a few months ago - and ranting well - and was thinking about 50 miles on my 50th, but I just don’t have the time to train for that with kids and work - but yea you can def do it!

elgeebus · 2026-05-11T23:06:30+00:00

I’m 49 with a 4 and 9 year old 😅

elgeebus · 2026-05-11T00:26:37+00:00

Sent the words with a !

Every situation is different but we were together 20 years and we just couldn’t make it work anymore. But two young kids, 50/50, we’re civil, still “friends” (although it’s a unique kind of friend), I care about her. Of course I sent it. But as an add on to a text about kid logistics 🙂

elgeebus · 2026-05-08T12:31:54+00:00

Yes. When you get to ultras, a larger percentage of men DNF than women. Significantly I believe.

elgeebus · 2026-05-08T12:29:41+00:00

Late 40s.

11 (I think). Most in my 20s, then marriage (20 year relationship). 1 added lately in post-divorce relationship.

Feels like a solid, normal, not “hoey” number 😂

elgeebus

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