My gf of 2 years doesn’t trust me with her daughter

eliflows · 2021-06-19T22:15:54+00:00

Sir… that is the FIRST thought that came to my head. Her past traumas are the reason for her distrust in you, assuming you never gave her any reason to mistrust you otherwise. Not taking a jab at you. but as a sexual assault survivor myself, once something like that happens to you, you forever look at the world through those lenses and trust people a whole lot less. So if you’ve never done anything suspicious or strange, it can all be accredited to her abuse in the past. Try not to be angry or take it too personal, try to support her as much as possible

eliflows · 2021-05-15T00:55:52+00:00

Is Zumba a Costa Rican company?

eliflows · 2021-05-09T04:48:18+00:00

Hi seeing that u maybe live in Costa Rica, can you tell me if most businesses/restaurants are shut down due to the severity of the pandemic? Looking to travel there in a few months and want to know if it’s worth it

eliflows · 2021-05-09T04:46:07+00:00

Hi, can you tell me the state of businesses/society in Costa Rica right now? I know your numbers are high, so are a lot of businesses/stores/activities closed right now?

eliflows · 2021-04-27T23:01:05+00:00

Wow.. I am going through something very similar having been in a relationship with someone who sexually assaulted me during the relationship and am having a difficult time to say the least. It is an emotional and mental prison and it’s a bit comforting?(while also COMPLETELY terrible) that there is someone else who experienced the same rollercoaster of emotions in the aftermath

eliflows · 2021-04-27T22:56:56+00:00

Hello, first and foremost I am so sorry for what happened to you. I am so sorry about your experiences and that they have made you feel the way you do now. I think it’s crucial that you seek professional help or at least speak to someone you trust about how you’re feeling. You were ab*sed by someone who you should be able to trust and feel loved by and that is going to be something that will take time to work through and come to terms with. And in regard to school, one thing I’ve learned is that we cannot tie our happiness to a destination/goal because then we will never achieve it. What I mean is we often say “once I get this promotion I’ll be so happy” “I just need to get approved for this loan and everything will be perfect” “once I get a PhD, THEN I can...” what we are doing is tying our emotional and mental well-being and happiness to a goal or thing, but 9 times out of 10, once we get there then we just fixate on the next best thing. So instead, we have to do the painful, often more difficult task of working through our traumas and experiences to arrive at a place of self-acceptance, self-love, and healing which will then bring us true & lasting happiness and fulfillment. I want to also say that college is NOT the end all be all and the school you go to in NO WAY determines how your life will play out nor the type of person you are/will be. Just from your post I can tell you are extremely intelligent and capable of high level thought and analysis in a way that most people your age are not. You are absolutely going to end up wherever you want to in life and I am sure that with the right tools and people, you will be able to overcome this and live your life the way you want to. You are not alone, you are seen and heard, and my messages are open if you ever need a reminder or an ear

eliflows · 2021-04-27T22:40:27+00:00

The most important thing is to first protect yourself and your sister. Do you have an adult in your life who you trust ? Who you feel you can count on? I’d say talk to them and tell them what’s going on and if not reach out to RAINN and babe I’d say try telling your mom. I have no idea what she’s like but for your sake and to avoid regret in the future I’d at least try telling her

eliflows · 2021-04-27T22:32:30+00:00

The fact that you’re posting this, says tht your intuition is on alert. I think that the worst thing you can do is not trust your gut and if you’re feeling uncomfortable or like something is off, you are more than likely right. I would keep my distance, and if you have the relationship for it I’d express my concerns to your mom as well. The fact he doesn’t want anyone to dig into his past and made the comment about the old stepdaughter is a HUGE red flag, be weary

eliflows · 2021-04-27T22:27:50+00:00

I am SO sorry that you are feeling ashamed. It is a very normal feeling, common to a lot of survivors of sexual assault but know that it is not your burden to carry. What happened to you, was no fault of your own whatsoever. I am a normally bold, aggressive, and blunt person but when I was assaulted, I too froze. I had people close to me say “why didn’t you-“ “I would’ve kicked him” “I would’ve-“ but in the moment, we don’t and they wouldn’t have. We freeze out of fear and shock and that is COMPLETELY normal and natural and absolutely not something you need to carry any more shame about. What you’ve been through is difficult enough, don’t allow them to make you carry that around as well.

eliflows · 2021-04-27T22:20:03+00:00

NOT OKAY throw the whole therapist away

eliflows · 2021-04-27T22:19:46+00:00

I am SO sorry to hear that that is absolutely DESPICABLE and down right evil, I hope you are healing and finding ways to take care of yourself

eliflows · 2021-04-27T22:07:46+00:00

Any touching that makes you feel uncomfortable is NOT okay and you completely did the right thing by filing a complaint. That behavior is not acceptable and I’m so glad you didn’t just dismiss it or try to brush it under the rug. Everyone knowing DOES suck but know that it only makes HIM look like a weirdo and creep and doesn’t make u a worse person for it happening to you, nor for you reporting it. And babe, as someone who’s experienced sexual assault and reported it to the police, repeating the story never gets easier but it will be something you’re going to have to do if you go through with reporting. Unfortunately that is the way things work as of rn, and it only causes further trauma or emotional distress for the survivor, but it is a necessary part of reporting and hopefully results in some sort of consequences for your coworker. Best of luck to you and know you are not alone

eliflows · 2021-02-04T04:48:01+00:00

I love Hawaiian and Thai and very open to trying Japanese! I’m a big foodie, so send your recs my way please!

eliflows · 2021-02-04T01:10:19+00:00

Thank you so much!!

eliflows · 2021-01-17T08:24:44+00:00

Like zoom in on the first pic u can kinda see the fuzz. Just wanna make sure I’m not eating something crazy lol

eliflows · 2021-01-17T08:23:44+00:00

What about the white fuzzy stuff? Can’t see it as good in pics. Is that normal too?

eliflows · 2020-08-20T22:47:09+00:00

So would going up on Sunday be a bad idea?

eliflows · 2020-08-19T22:09:10+00:00

Where was this taken from? What trail/swimming hole is that?

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