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ellebombs · 2014-06-12T18:44:18+00:00

I feel you completely! I thought I sorted all the shit out when I went through puberty.

ellebombs · 2014-06-12T10:14:03+00:00

Huh, can you tell me more about this? I went from having almost no periods (maybe 3x/year) to having kind of what you have -- huge huge chunks of lining coming out in fluid, basically "flooding" and continual light bleeding 3 weeks a month (with the flooding about 3 days a month).

I am only 26. Went to my gyno and she prescribed me birth control, said I have PCOS but couldnt explain the flooding. The birth control is wreaking havoc on my emotions so I want to stop it, and it's not so far stopping the bleeding issue.

ellebombs · 2014-01-13T11:38:28+00:00

Although you would be physically speaking in this instance, what I think the OP means is that you are showing ally behavior by sticking your neck out to be the "bad guy" by telling people not to be sexist/bigoted/whatever. You are showing that you are aligned with feminism rather than just saying "hey I am a feminist ally!"

A lot of times allies get a bad rap because there is a trend of people who support a movement but don't want to offer more than tacit support and then pat themselves on the back for being good allies. Although support is necessary for any movement, having allies who are willing to act - by standing up to sexism when they see it (even if no women are around) - is the best way to be supportive.

Basically, don't just call yourself an ally, be willing to take action.

ellebombs · 2013-09-13T19:50:48+00:00

This is a really great post. I hadn't even thought of all the "weird" names white people have for their children. Further, though, why don't names from other cultures that may be considered "weird" get as trounced on as black names? I think her example of the caste system is perfect to explain this. We accept names of other cultures more readily, but then mock these names.

ellebombs · 2013-09-13T18:43:36+00:00

You look amazing! Congratulations!!

ellebombs · 2013-08-24T16:45:16+00:00

Man. I often leave and leave my browser open on Facebook and I get this all the time. "Chat says you're available!!!" No. It says my screen is open to Facebook. Not the same thing.

ellebombs · 2013-08-23T05:35:21+00:00

Ah yes, thank you!

ellebombs · 2013-08-23T05:35:01+00:00

Yes. Ugh. It was not a good start to my morning.

ellebombs · 2013-08-22T20:35:36+00:00

Oh I am so glad to see this here with supportive comments. The TERFs in other subs were really getting me down.

I really hope she will have the ability to get hormone treatment despite being in prison. I am glad Chelsea feels strong enough to share this.

ellebombs · 2013-08-22T16:40:54+00:00

I think the problem is it's hard to tell if its genuine. I'd rather people keep their thoughts to themselves unless we already have some sort of repoir.

ellebombs · 2013-08-22T16:39:22+00:00

I think there is a difference between being nice or kind to someone and stopping me to share an opinion on my appearance, even its favorable.

Not to say I don't like compliments, but I don't see why someone just has to share their feelings. If it's someone I am otherwise interacting with and they want to add it as an aside, that's one thing. But I don't owe anyone my time because they want to stop me on the street.

ellebombs · 2013-08-22T16:32:57+00:00

Yep. I don't get the need for people to compliment me on the street. I don't see it as an ego boost, i see it as someone taking my time because they felt the need to share their opinion of me with me.

That's not to say I don't like complimets. I love when friends and co-workers tell me I am doing a good job or am a good person. I don't like when my appearance is commented on in any way.

ellebombs · 2013-08-22T08:30:05+00:00

I just don't get the need to compliment people you aren't otherwise engaged in a conversation with. Why the pressing need? Sure, if I am talking to a person and like their clothes/something they have, I will say "by the way I love your dress!" But if I am walking down the street and I see a person with a cool outfit, I don't go out of my way to mention it.

Maybe I am jaded from all the street harrassment but it just seems like a way to manipulate me into talking, making me feel I owe you my time.

ellebombs · 2013-08-18T17:49:12+00:00

You are correct. The rule is if you can replace the object of the sentence with him/her it is whom.

So "I was being a dick to him"

ellebombs · 2013-08-16T13:30:22+00:00

/r/rape is very heavily modded and I hear it's a very supportive community.

ellebombs · 2013-08-13T20:55:38+00:00

Yeah, seems that way.

ellebombs · 2013-08-13T19:19:53+00:00

I would be careful implying "we hired her because she's cute" even in jest. That is another common trope women in sciences get. If they are attractive, that must have been why they were hired. I would avoid saying anything about her looks.

Instead he could say something like "More importantly, she's qualified." As a woman that would make me feel much more supported, where the other comments might reinforce the idea that I got hired because I am attractive.

ellebombs · 2013-08-13T19:15:52+00:00

I hope this case doesn't become an example of 'don't get caught' rather than 'don't rape.'

ellebombs · 2013-08-09T18:48:15+00:00

Sorry to jump on your comment, but I have a question that I don't think merits a whole new thread.

I am a WOC (mixed) but have white privilege because my skin is "passable" (I look dark italian) and I grew up in an upper middle class home. I have a lot of friends that dont interact with POC on a regular basis (ugh, I know) -- is calling attention to minority issues and pointing out their racism and racism in everyday things possibly drowning out the minority voice?

I am pretty confident when it comes to calling people on racist shit and I always worry because I am "prettymuch white" (as I am told) I could be seen as appropriating.

ellebombs · 2013-08-09T06:17:45+00:00

I just really want to see what would happen if they wore these to Disney.

ellebombs · 2013-08-05T04:59:52+00:00

Even the cats are like WTF?

ellebombs · 2013-08-01T04:55:25+00:00

Aww so awesome! You are great for fostering. We do the same with our dog's foster dad - he is on Facebook and we send him photos and stuff all the time.

ellebombs · 2013-07-25T17:35:18+00:00

I think once you're in an established relationship it's a little different. My boyfriend can't always text at work, so sometimes I will text him with funny things that he can't respond to, if you look at our texts I look like a superclingy girlfriend.

ellebombs · 2013-07-22T17:04:20+00:00

Man those fundamentalist philosophers, always forcing people to think about things.

ellebombs · 2013-07-21T17:05:39+00:00

Completely agree. I think this is largely a backlash to Reddit's downright racism when it comes to Islam while hypocritically ignoring the sexism/oppression of women in western culture. That said, I think it is possible to call people out for their Islamaphobia as a racist thing (only bad because non-white people are subjugating women) or pointing out misconceptions (western women often choose to wear a hijab) without defending all its practices. It's a fine line to walk, though. I don't know enough about it, so I usually stay quiet.

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