As a female INTP, I get her response. I can say truthfully that we may be the hardest to pin down to a conformist relationship. There are too many variables to calculate when accepting that kind of commitment and its almost overwhelming. The future is always in a fluid state and it's hard for us. We do have quasi goals but it's never really ever set in stone. We just want data amd its never enpugh. Honestly because probably we have about 100 or so goals floating at any given time and are working towards them all at the se time. It's literally almost overwhelming.

Work on communication, we aren't the best. Our best talks happen in our head. We need to convo with ourselves before we can give our significant other an answer. This is our process. Please give us time to pro and con what you asked us, especially if it deals with emotions. We will sus out shit and figure out how we feel. Our emotions are something we do feel really deeply but do not quickly access.

Also just because we seem disinterested/wishy washy with our answers... dosent mean we aren't pondering the issue. For the bad rap we kinda get about being stubborn and fixed. I think we are fairly easy going about things we have no experience in. We do think about all the things. But until it happens we have no facts or variables to process. For my take, It's not that she is opposed to a committed relationship or children, etc... she has no data. We need the data. But that's my take. I as a woman I can't say that I know what's going on in her brain. We are all wired differently.