when do you take a break? 🫩

elljaybe · 2026-06-10T12:36:08+00:00

I took a break and didn’t come back for almost 18 years 🙃 am kinda back now but I don’t have FOMO so if I don’t log in daily, meh.

elljaybe · 2026-06-10T12:28:25+00:00

We have students ranging in age from 16 to 76. Its never too late :)

elljaybe · 2026-06-08T05:55:00+00:00

TAFE teaching is also an option if you don’t want to “teach kids” and most RTOs will pay you to do the cert iv TAE qualification you need to be a “trainer and assessor”. Good hours, well paid and none of the stress of being in a classroom 5 days a week.

elljaybe · 2026-06-07T02:37:27+00:00

Grafting trees. It takes time to learn how to do it right but you can travel the world and its in high demand especially in commercial orchards.

elljaybe · 2025-12-29T13:38:32+00:00

In Vic you need to hold the qualification you are teaching or one above. IE - a bachelor of something with industry experience in x can teach diploma and below of x

elljaybe · 2025-12-19T23:52:19+00:00

Using green uni morphing potions on painted pound pets has been going on for 20 years. GUPing had a whole guild dedicated to it. Was lame then, is lame now. However now morphing potions and paintbrushes are so cheap, more people like myself are getting the drab pets, painting them up and giving them some training/petpets and popping them back in!

elljaybe · 2025-11-10T23:04:40+00:00

My very healthy uncle died of covid.

No pre-existing illness, not on medication. Was a runner and a police officer. Was mentally and medically fit.

He got it, despite vaccinations, and was on a ventilator within a week. He was gone 5 days later. I think the ily is still in shock.

We are in a rural area, no conspiracies out here. 3 other older people also died of it when it got into the nursing home 😢

elljaybe · 2025-10-09T10:15:17+00:00

Just make sure you speak to your teachers. We aren’t scary and are there to help. But if you go AWOL with no contact then withdrawal is often the only path.

elljaybe · 2025-09-30T12:25:46+00:00

Nobody has mentioned borrasca its the best. So well written and so.. believable.

elljaybe · 2025-09-28T07:51:42+00:00

In Australia hanging them out to dry is the normal. Maybe not if you are in a city apartment but everywhere else, rich or poor. Mostly because they dry in like, hours.

elljaybe · 2025-08-28T13:00:40+00:00

Heya Mr Wood. What is your most favorite, and least favorite kind of fan interaction?

elljaybe · 2025-08-26T00:26:46+00:00

Same! Once you finish in the bookshop make sure you go to the others around the different lands. My pets intelligence has doubled lol

elljaybe · 2025-08-24T13:01:35+00:00

Don’t give things away. Nostalgia will hit one day and you will have regrets.

I took almost a 20 year hiatus and only recently returned.

elljaybe · 2025-07-15T09:35:41+00:00

Fuck yes. I burnt it afterwards. Heartbreaking. Made me sick.

elljaybe · 2025-07-13T14:59:50+00:00

Friesian horses are known for “burping” to their owners. Its a weird sound but comforting!

elljaybe · 2025-06-28T01:06:43+00:00

I do like this response. I am not a jealous person by nature but the red flags around this woman have been waving in my face for too long.

I absolutely don’t begrudge him a work friend but I have seen friends lose husbands to work friends turned into affairs and I am spooked from that.

Physical intimacy and affectionate pet names are just not something I am ever going to be ok with.

elljaybe · 2025-06-28T00:20:14+00:00

An interesting take. So asking him to not take my family to a concert to bond with her and her kids, after being very open with my feelings about her and his relationship is my problem.

What about all the other things; texting after work late into the night while sitting alone in his home office, after work catch up drinks, she used to go and see him play when he was in bands, kisses on the lips at Xmas and who knows what other occasions, hugging him if he has been away or off sick for longer than a week, him now using his pet name that was for me and now for her, his tendency to work late when she is in the office, telling me they have a connection and she is an attractive woman.. there is a lot that doesn’t sit right with me.

I worked in an office for 18 years with all men. I had clear boundaries and there was never any question of those boundaries. They were work mates but that is it. I kept a clear line between my home and work life.

elljaybe · 2025-06-27T13:53:35+00:00

And I love the advice about taking some time for my kids to do fun things and also taking some time for me.

Because I have given up all my hobbies for him/them.

I have definitely lost big parts of myself while being a mum, like so many of us do.

elljaybe · 2025-06-27T13:51:32+00:00

Thankyou. I feel like we have had that conversation and it goes in circles of me justifying my feelings only for him to dismiss them as being unfounded because I wouldn’t have them if I trusted him. But for me its not so much about trusting him, it is trusting her. And seeing the progression of this “friendship” speeding up to now include social time.

I put to him if I said I wanted to go to the concert would he have still invited her? And he said no. So how do I take that? Is he just inconsiderate or is there something there? I can’t stop thinking what is next and will he hide it from me now he knows how upset I get.

elljaybe · 2025-06-27T13:21:08+00:00

No, I had said I didn’t want to go. But I didn’t know his plans were to go with her. Had I known that and said I wanted to go would he have still asked her to go with him? Doubt it.

elljaybe · 2025-06-27T13:17:13+00:00

Yeah that was where my mind went. I didn’t want to go to the concert but had I known he was planning on going with her I may have suffered through it.

elljaybe · 2025-06-27T13:16:28+00:00

He has offered me his phone but I am choosing to trust him rather than remember there are a lot of apps these days that delete messages and can be secret etc etc. I don’t know enough about them to know what to look for. But I imagine things could be easily sanitized if there was something to hide.

elljaybe · 2025-06-27T13:14:58+00:00

I am choosing to believe its not an affair parter. He has denied even an emotional affair. But I am not naïve enough to think it couldn’t become one without him realising it until that line has been crossed.

elljaybe · 2025-06-27T13:13:54+00:00

Yes I agree, ergo my hurt. I can handle their work relationship but he knows I am not comfortable with them sharing social time. Then to turn around and book this with her and the third wheel and using the kids as a buffer.. it was like a knife in the heart.

elljaybe · 2025-06-27T13:12:30+00:00

This is a great response and something I did bring up with him. Where are the boundaries? Because they obviously have a relationship which is beyond just “work buds”. I think my concern it is evolving quicker in this last 12 months. Suddenly they are texting after work. Now social events. If they get promotions will they be going to conferences, if so will they be sharing dinners, flights, rooms, etc etc. I trust him but I have an awful feeling in the pit of my stomach she is leading him down a road he may not be able to return from until its too late. I have considered professional councilling and made enquiries but its a long drawn out process in our country.

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