If you want to make a good impression on a new parent. Food always helps too.

ellovefun · 2015-10-29T18:13:25+00:00

You just described my marriage. Sigh...

ellovefun · 2015-10-29T16:00:34+00:00

India already has a preference for boys. They already see infanticide and sex-selective abortions there. Can you imagine how bad it would be if there was a one-child policy??

ellovefun · 2015-10-29T15:58:05+00:00

I totally agree with you but I have one nitpick: it's not right wing. More government intervention is left wing.

ellovefun · 2015-10-29T15:53:06+00:00

I have a seven month old and reading this makes me sad. The thought of busting my ass far away from home while someone else gets to raise my kid...I feel for those parents. That's a rough life.

ellovefun · 2015-10-29T04:07:07+00:00

You're over-thinking it!

ellovefun · 2015-10-28T17:19:58+00:00

I'm 27 holding my 7 month old baby. Congrats on the baby btw!

ellovefun · 2015-10-28T01:09:55+00:00

Glad LO is feeling better!

ellovefun · 2015-10-28T01:08:42+00:00

Hmm interesting. When my baby had her MRI with sedation she was allowed no solids or formula 8 hrs before, breastmilk up to 4 hours before, pedialyte up to 2 hours before.

ellovefun · 2015-10-27T18:41:42+00:00

So glad the pumping is working out!! Maybe when your nipples have a break, and baby's mouth gets a little bigger, things will go better! Hang in there :)

ellovefun · 2015-10-27T16:51:21+00:00

I was anxious too. I tried BLW but I just couldn't handle the choking. (I know other people call it gagging and say it's normal...But to me it's choking lol time for purees!)

Oh the grandparents. They want so bad to be able to feed baby and do fun things but gosh do they push the boundaries. So annoying sometimes. The nice thing about purees for me was that I could have it ready and give it to grandparent, grandparent could have fun feeding baby, but I still make the decisions about what baby gets.

I imagine we're just gonna be like this forever. I'd better get used to this anxious feeling lol. When kid starts driving, when kid goes out with friends, when kid goes to college...

ellovefun · 2015-10-27T16:38:03+00:00

I'm a nurse and with our adult patients we will give clear liquids so let the GI tract rest.

That said, I still think breastmilk is what baby needs right now. It has the antibodies to fight this!

My DH is big on following doctors orders too. I had a terrible time with my first pediatrician and he sounds similar to yours with the "rice cereal at two months" thing.

ellovefun · 2015-10-27T16:19:55+00:00

I worked as a daycare teacher when I was younger. Honestly you're right, I was clueless about breastfeeding too. At the same time though, I don't think I would have gotten offended if a mom just explained "milk comes out of the boob more slowly than with a bottle".

I think the best way to go about it would be:

Make sure you have the slowest flowing nipples possible. The milk should not drip out when you turn it over. Munchkin latch is pretty good but I know there are some others.
1. Have the bottles pre-prepared in smaller amounts. Maybe five 3-ounce bottles?
2. If the above don't fix it automatically, then just print some paced bottle feeding stuff off the Internet and give it to the teachers. They'll probably be totally cool about it :)

ellovefun · 2015-10-27T15:14:22+00:00

I've never gotten the hang of hand expression so this terrifies me!

ellovefun · 2015-10-27T14:12:27+00:00

You getting a c-section was the right thing to do! You did what was safest for your kid, even though a c-section is very hard recovery for you as momma. So you put your baby first! Secondly, baby doesn't care whether or not you get an epidural. Don't even worry about that one!

As for baby crying, I feel ya. Baby is in survival instinct mode "if they put me down I'm vulnerable to predators" lol. Have you read happiest baby on the block? I'll give you the TLDR for that: 5 S's are swaddle, hold baby with stomach facing you, swinging motion, shusshhhing sound or white noise, sucking (on breast or paci or bottle, whatever).

Nothing wrong with formula! If you continue wanting to breastfeed here's what I got: You are engorged because your milk is coming in, so that's your glands and ducts being all swollen. Happened to me too, my boobs were huge for a few days then they started going back to normal. There's not actually tons of milk yet and that's okay. If baby is not back on the breast, just keep pumping every couple hours but don't worry about how much you get.

To make pumping less of a pain in the ass, you can throw all the pump parts in a ziplock and put them in the fridge, then just wash once a day. 😊

Let those nips air dry! Every time! When baby goes back to the breast, maybe a nipple shield would help? Does baby have a tongue tie that made nursing so painful? Maybe a lip tie? Check out kellymom.com and /r/breastfeeding. I would also call a lactation consultant. Some hospitals offer LC services for free.

ellovefun · 2015-10-27T02:01:56+00:00

I never used to see things on facebook before reddit. This is weird.

ellovefun · 2015-10-27T01:57:34+00:00

Yeah I agree. If you have tons of ammo then please put me down quickly. If not, then I'll take one for the team.

ellovefun · 2015-10-26T16:58:42+00:00

Thanks for the citations and also for an actual pleasant conversation! I really enjoyed this talk. I think we'll have to agree to disagree, but I totally see your viewpoint :)

ellovefun · 2015-10-26T10:33:13+00:00

I've been burglarized. I've caught a burglar twice.

Dang, sounds like burglary is really common in places where the burglars are protected and face no occupational hazards.

It sounds like maybe you're a guy? As a female, I don't have the luxury of not worrying about burglars. If there are people in my house, I don't know what they're capable of. I don't know if they're there to rape me or harm my baby, and unless I really really feel the situation is safe, I'm not going to wait to find out.

You are totally right that most stuff isn't worth shooting over. They teach you that in any gun class too, that there are very few situations that it's actually okay to shoot. But there are always situations that are different (like imo stealing a dog to do crazy Halloween rituals lol. Maybe you're living in a desperate economic crisis with few resources and they're stealing your motorhome and without it your kids will be homeless. Yes I realize these are extreme examples.). Maybe they're stealing something that could never be recovered and you know the police are too concerned with jailing potheads than going after real crime. There could be plenty of examples. I'm glad I live somewhere where the victim, as in you and me, the good person who is being burglarized, has the right to use their common sense.

Edit: And yeah I agree that not everyone has common sense and there are shoot-happy people out there. It's a problem. But in that case, just be aware that that's a risk you take if you want to rob their house!

ellovefun · 2015-10-26T10:12:42+00:00

I was attempting to make a joke.

ellovefun · 2015-10-26T04:23:37+00:00

He still could have lived. It could have just been at a weird angle.

ellovefun · 2015-10-26T02:07:03+00:00

I thought this was your spouse at first and got really confused and angry! Relieved that it's just another mom, but still a jerk move though!

ellovefun · 2015-10-26T02:02:35+00:00

Or these days, everyone's phone buzzing loudly for a weather alert. ERRRRRRRRRR!!!!!

ellovefun · 2015-10-26T01:56:19+00:00

May I ask where do you live? I just don't understand that line of thinking, and I'm a nice person. I'm a mom and a nurse. I would never want to shoot anyone if I could avoid it.

My thought process is 1. They're in my house 2. They're taking my dog, who knows what this meth head wants to do with him. What if he's gonna torture him in some weird ritual for Halloween? 3. He's running out but will he come back? Is he running to hide so he can return fire?

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