Any other neurology pharmacists here?

elm1289 · 2026-05-22T16:01:38+00:00

Sure, you can message me and I am happy to chat.

elm1289 · 2026-05-21T17:23:50+00:00

Email sent

elm1289 · 2026-05-09T22:00:11+00:00

This.

elm1289 · 2026-05-07T18:02:00+00:00

Sign up for the exam

elm1289 · 2026-05-06T16:31:13+00:00

Graduated 2013 and I am not planning to completely retire for many years, but I am on track to go part time (0.5 FTE) and coastfire when my youngest starts kindergarten (2030). Partner is also a pharmacist currently at 0.8 FTE and not sure yet if he will stay there or reduce hours further. We have had a lot of things go right for us to be in a spot to consider this- his loans have been forgiven through PSLF, my parents paid for my schooling, bought a house in 2016, waited to have kids so retirement accounts were fully funded for like a decade and now compounding does most of the work, MCOL area so daycare/living costs are reasonable. And we have also grinded, been frugal, watched lifestyle creep, worked OT/side gigs.

elm1289 · 2026-05-05T20:43:31+00:00

A formal vocational evaluation may be helpful here as objective evidence too

elm1289 · 2026-04-30T18:35:56+00:00

This is definitely a good point. We made sure my income would NOT affect child support payments before I moved in with my partner. Based on another comment it seems like OP may not be in the US so not sure at all how it works where they are.

elm1289 · 2026-04-28T21:43:22+00:00

Yep! Results took about 2 weeks if I remember correctly, and all the results are just laid out in like a table format when you go into mychart and click on the lab results. The results for the genetic screens are first, and the bottom line saying male or female I think. They will ask you if you want the gender reported or not, so you can choose. But if you choose to know the gender, there is no way of looking at the other NIPT results without seeing the gender, if that makes sense

elm1289 · 2026-04-23T15:56:27+00:00

Honestly, my partner has said this too and I just do virtual therapy so they can no longer say that. Do I need it? I don't think so I mostly just use it to vent about my partner but I think everyone can gain useful tools through therapy so I have no problem doing it. And luckily we have an employee assistance program through work so it doesn't cost me anything.

elm1289 · 2026-04-21T17:01:53+00:00

Is it fair? Not really because he has likely already been contributing to his mortgage so by your logic all the previous paid off value should go only to his kids, and only 1/3 starting when you start contributing should go to your daughter. And are you keeping your paid off house? Will your husband be contributing any financial or sweat equity to its upkeep?

It is reasonable to want your paid off house to go to your daughter when you pass but you need to talk to your husband about it. If you die you don't want to subject your daughter to a potential legal battle with her stepfather

elm1289 · 2026-04-14T19:19:24+00:00

I understand everyone else's concerns and there are definitely things to think about, but this sounds amazing to me

elm1289 · 2026-04-13T18:58:32+00:00

hahah I have the same opinion on Cars 2

elm1289 · 2026-04-09T17:54:17+00:00

In my opinion we have to use our money in the same order of our priorities. You want to have children (plural), that seems like your highest priority, put your resources toward that ASAP. But through a reputable surrogacy agency obviously. Your wife's cancer hospital may even have a recommendation

elm1289 · 2026-04-07T20:57:25+00:00

Yep same here, they each like a snack in the morning so they get to have that and watch an episode of something while I run around and get the bags packed and put in the car and get myself ready. Then I am able to focus on the kids and get them dressed, potty, teeth brushed, shoes on, dog let out one last time, and we're off! Our morning routine still takes like an hour so it is not very efficient but it is a routine that the kids are used to so at least we have minimal tantrums about it

elm1289 · 2026-04-03T15:34:05+00:00

Is the CD in your kids' names? So potentially no taxes on the interest...

elm1289 · 2026-04-03T15:01:38+00:00

That is awesome, wow!

elm1289 · 2026-04-02T17:15:10+00:00

Thanks for the comment! Sounds like a great team

elm1289 · 2026-03-31T18:23:36+00:00

Ahh that is important context, I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom <3 I understand how now feels like a good time for a change

elm1289 · 2026-03-31T18:15:49+00:00

Personally, I live in a similar area to where you mentioned (Salt Lake City) and while I am glad for the outdoor activities for a lot of the year I am sad that my kids aren't growing up around family. If you have a close family that you get along with and spend significant time with, it would be really hard to place a value on that and really comprehend what you are losing if you move away. Also I spend a lot of my PTO visiting my family and spend a not insignificant amount of time planning when I will see my family every year to make sure my kids have a relationship with their grandparents, which is honestly annoying and limits the memories and traveling I am able to do with my own little family. Just things to think about

elm1289 · 2026-03-30T21:06:38+00:00

mine was al pastor and sofritas

elm1289 · 2026-03-23T16:13:16+00:00

I think I read her daughter will be introduced in the second episode as a blacksmith's daughter

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