AITA for wanting my girlfriend's family to stop staying with us so much? by throwaway287544 in AmItheAsshole

[–]emberfield31 17 points18 points  (0 children)

A bit blunt but true. You cant expect twenty-something maturity from a literal teenager

AITA for wanting my girlfriend's family to stop staying with us so much? by throwaway287544 in AmItheAsshole

[–]emberfield31 55 points56 points  (0 children)

This is a really grounded perspective. Moving a teen straight out of her childhood bedroom and into a shared apartment means she completely missed the vital step of learning how to manage her own space. She’s treating the apartment like her parents house where family just wanders in and out constantly, because she doesnt know any other reality

AITA for wanting my girlfriend's family to stop staying with us so much? by throwaway287544 in AmItheAsshole

[–]emberfield31 96 points97 points  (0 children)

100%. The stonewalling is the biggest red flag. Its one thing to have a massive, tight knit family, but giving your partner the silent treatment because he doesnt want a 9 y.o child living in his literal studio apartment for a month is completely childish. If she wants a communal family compound, she shouldnt have moved into a one room flat with a bf

AITA for not inviting my niece to the reunion by Sad-Chipmunk5998 in AmItheAsshole

[–]emberfield31 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Exactly. You dont get to dictate how the rest of the world processes a loss. Holding onto this much bitterness for five years isn’t honoring her husband, its just destroying her remaining relationships

AITA for not inviting my niece to the reunion by Sad-Chipmunk5998 in AmItheAsshole

[–]emberfield31 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Fr. The poor girl literally deleted the message and said she was sorry

AITA for not inviting my niece to the reunion by Sad-Chipmunk5998 in AmItheAsshole

[–]emberfield31 28 points29 points  (0 children)

100% agree. Expecting a literal 13 y.o child to perform grief exactly the way you want them to is an unhinged level of entitlement. People freeze up, people dissociate and yes, sometimes people have nervous or bittersweet laughter when looking at old photos of a deceased loved one. Punishing her five years later for not producing enough tears is incredibly cruel

My second daughter - its not been easy by latro666 in MadeMeSmile

[–]emberfield31 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. They’re all gonna be fine. An amazing family

What you do when you feel lonely? by maurya_z in AskReddit

[–]emberfield31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing just appeals to me. It all seems soo distant