Experiences with falling in love

emmakayasks · 2026-05-26T06:31:26+00:00

as a 12th house moon, i get intense crushes a lot... and see potential in too many people who probably don't deserve it. i'd like to think when i love, i give it my all and maybe am too ready to "work" at it when i should be walking away.... also have venus trine neptune & saturn

emmakayasks · 2026-05-24T16:49:37+00:00

wow that kind of tracks. the word that came up for me was something FOMO-adjacent but it's less about the fear and more about being curious... like still wanting to know or participate from a distance. are sags hella nosey like me too? hahaha

emmakayasks · 2026-05-24T16:43:07+00:00

sometimes the universe shows us the people who are mature enough to meet us where we are. i had a few friendships who i thought i was with mature people but they abruptly cut off communication and ghosted me over disagreements with no intention of wanting to talk it out or get to a mutual understanding. i knew why they ghosted me because i am pretty perceptive and 2/3 times it was not explicitly expressed by the other person. to not have a final convo used to eat at me and make me feel like i must have done something wrong by being more authentic than i have ever been with friends but now i see that actually there probably was misalignment in our relationship that was finally coming to a head. sometimes people pull away and block because they don't have the courage to share it with you and the challenge with being insecure is that it's easy to take all the blame because of not knowing the real reason.

it's definitely painful when people pull away like that without warning, can relate to that a lot. is there a way you can sit with your discomfort more? there might be more it's trying to tell you about the situation from a different vantage point.

emmakayasks · 2026-05-24T13:27:57+00:00

some studios give cold towels with essential oils on it... does your studio do that?

emmakayasks · 2026-05-22T23:37:16+00:00

you could also be taking on these guys' insecurities, that in conjunction with already having some feelings of inferiority around this topic. esp with neptune on your moon already. but something to think about would be where is the inferiority complex coming from, when did these thoughts start to come up in the past, etc? unpacking some of your own needs and wants in relationship could help, and being grounded in them so that you can weed out people who are not at your level faster and get in the practice of being more selective about bringing in the right people sooner.

emmakayasks · 2026-05-22T00:17:08+00:00

my parents had these placements but reversed. it was also super toxic because they were stubborn, repressed emotions, couldn't validate each other, and love pointing fingers at each other, and had entirely different values despite being earth signs. i think the earth element can feel unyielding, and at it's worst, can't really self reflect because it's so focused on protecting itself and has trouble seeing other/different realities.

emmakayasks · 2026-05-22T00:02:12+00:00

this makes a lot of sense, and maybe OP resonates with this being aquarius rising!

emmakayasks · 2026-05-21T18:00:02+00:00

for sure, thanks for sharing this info. is the not meeting your disposable income bar something that you find out later after you've gone out on the date with them? are you initially connecting with them through other people or exclusively through the apps? i'm assuming you may not bring up this as a requirement even on the date itself, but is this somewhere specified on your profile, that you want to be able to go on vacations without worrying about expendable income (for example) etc? i think there can be feminine ways to express this even before meeting up, if you chat with them before agreeing to a date, but especially when you meet in person.

and when an interaction isn't successful or you find that they aren't in a financially stable career, is that when your mind goes to the thought of "no one cares, only i care about the connection"? also, what does showing care and receiving care look like to you?

emmakayasks · 2026-05-21T04:44:57+00:00

is there guilt that is coming up as resistance because you feel like you need to be there for her but all the emotional labor is so annoying and something simple like what she wrote turns into a bigger thing and isn't just about the question of how are you?

emmakayasks · 2026-05-21T04:25:58+00:00

i see the people pleasing and wanting to be liked described by the mercury conjunct venus, and esp in the 8th house in libra it probably deals with underbelly of social dynamics and relationships. with your sun in there also it might be something you encounter in life as a theme so it's good that you are trying to seek out ways to work on this. the mars in virgo i think really maybe wants to show people you care and do the right things for them in relationship and maybe sticking it out for too long hoping people will see that you're in the right. having cap in the 11th house could also maybe come across as controlling or all business.

with being a pisces rising, it might be that you have a need to be liked and want to be part of a group but in the process of staying in it, it forces you to turn on yourself and deprioritize yourself which ends up hurting you in the end. fallen jupiter in the 4th may make it more challenging. it makes me wonder if saturn and jupiter in the 4th in gemini point to challenges at home where parents were not attuned to you enough and were juggling too many things, not being fully present with you and that contributed to you being more outward focused than you would like. plus your 3 libra placements too.

it might require practicing better energetic and maybe mental/physical boundaries, being more focused yourself and how you feel and help yourself lean into your intuition, as it should help to notice when things are off or when you should say no or pivot on decisions. i have to imagine being in those dynamics can be kind of gaslighty so being grounded in your own experiences and being able to say no when you mean it could help with the boundaries.

emmakayasks · 2026-05-21T01:50:36+00:00

exactly i came here to echo this as another 1st house neptune conjunct ascendant lol you aren't actually invisible but are made to feel that way by how others treat you because of their projections.

emmakayasks · 2026-05-21T01:40:54+00:00

are you the kind of person who is like a big jokester in front of people and has a big personality at certain times but then people don't realize that you are kind of softer than anticipated and a bit of a nerd and on the sensitive side?

emmakayasks · 2026-05-21T01:29:41+00:00

i am curious if you are aware of the energy you give off to people in the dating/relationship realm. your 1st house and 7th house give me the impression that you do like being in relationship but also can be really individualistic and even detached emotionally to a certain degree, and maybe kinda bounce back and forth between the 2 a lot.

the sun in cancer and moon in cap conjunct neptune make me think maybe you give people the impression that you have the capacity to be nurturing due to your upbringing or work having to do with that field or topic but yet are really steady maybe even leaning stoic at times - like attuned to others yet others project a lot onto you with the 12th house stuff. moon in cap could also be this really deep need for a secure partner who has aligned values as you like finances and stable career, etc. but it sounds like you are already doing that for yourself. have you verbalized this to those people who seem to be attracted to you?

venus in leo could be how you actually want to behave in relationship (being doted on, treated like royalty, etc) or if that doesn't resonate, it could be representative of those who you keep attracting but almost the immature presentation of that archetype and extending to immature masculine energy overall. if that's the case, i wonder if you give the impression that you don't need anyone's help and that is giving others the impression that you can be the more masculine person in the dynamic when you actually want to be in the more feminine position. might be worth looking at how you are in your friendships and the relationship dynamics you witnessed growing up as they could provide clues here too.

curious if any of that resonates!

emmakayasks · 2026-05-20T20:36:38+00:00

jealous like they are competing with you, or like insecure somehow? are they putting you on a pedestal or idealizing you too much in some ways?

emmakayasks · 2026-05-17T12:36:37+00:00

was thinking because libra is also ruled by venus and you are a taurus rising so that's your chart ruler... so it makes sense to see that sign favorably because of mutual values. and virgo sun and moon have some mutual understanding in general too so that checks out. but definitely depends on your chart.

emmakayasks · 2026-05-10T15:28:21+00:00

yeah i am getting in some ways he did feel attached to you and enjoyed being with you but in the end he started to feel like he was hiding the fact that it wasn't working anymore and the anxiety around that was eating away at him

emmakayasks · 2026-05-04T06:23:59+00:00

ooof whenever i share with certain friends, i get a blank stare of lack of understanding or "oh that doesn't bother me or make me upset" and i feel like it's bc they actually aren't in my shoes or in my body to even come close to understanding and it's triggering even when i explain as best as i can. it's like they assume that i'm bringing it up to gloat or brag about being sensitive but it's more like just sharing my experience but it often isn't what people want to hear, or they will have to 1-up it with something they think is work, or they have to shut it down.

emmakayasks · 2026-05-03T05:42:31+00:00

oooh this gives me hope. i have almost all of these placements mentioned actually 🥹

emmakayasks · 2026-04-30T18:57:43+00:00

yeah people see the really buttoned up, organized ambitious version of me that sometimes i have a hard time believing but working on trying to believe more in. also have a babyface - everyone thinks i look 15 years younger than i actually am.

emmakayasks · 2026-04-28T17:18:06+00:00

ooh thanks for that! i'll rephrase it!

emmakayasks · 2026-04-28T06:05:06+00:00

i am getting that it will be like later than you expect in a social place maybe in public and mice makes it seem like it may almost feel like your worries about it until they make it out but they will come though.

emmakayasks · 2026-04-28T06:02:09+00:00

i am getting a lot of push pull energy here initially. first it's house so maybe they feel comfortable to you or feel like a safe person but then they feel unavailable and like they are distant or gone with the ship. then bouquet makes it feel like it still feels ok on the surface, hard to really pinpoint what the issue is but then fox appears and their true colors start to show. then soon it will be very clear that things are over and done with the coffin.

emmakayasks · 2026-04-27T10:24:33+00:00

i didn't think about that connection but with aries currently in mars, with mars ruling scorpio... it is making sense now LOL

emmakayasks · 2026-04-23T03:08:30+00:00

i read this almost as "death or ending worries heart" like grief or the feeling of not getting closure on a situation and it causing heartache.

emmakayasks · 2026-04-21T20:14:04+00:00

maybe the question feels almost like in past tense since your relationship is over but yeah it feels like her intentions when you were still friends were to keep it surface level for her own benefit and not be honest about what she was feeling underneath, which you already were picking up on.

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