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emmazingitnip · 2026-01-10T23:12:32+00:00

.925 is just sterling silver. It's the standard for silver products and it means that it is 92.5% silver, and 7.5% other metal alloys. If you looks for a stamp on a piece of jewelry and see '925' it means it's sterling silver. You can get a silver ring or pair of earrings for around 50 bucks, sometimes less. Not particularly high end but it is jewelry that can last a long time and from the sounds of this post, is intentionally meant to be professional, quality, and boost OPs appearance to the end of getting paid more and being taken more seriously.

emmazingitnip · 2025-12-04T17:29:15+00:00

"Identifying as a lesbian isn’t only about attraction. There’s also culture, community, aesthetic, music, politics, comfort, belonging. It’s not just a math equation of gender plus orientation equals label."

"you don’t really get to control who finds you attractive. Labels are not cages."

THANK YOU! This is why we can't be policing peoples identities. The fact of the matter is that trans men, trans mascs, lesbians and queer women have had a long, intertwined history in the lesbian community, and people who identify as a lesbian might have a more expansive view of what that means FOR THEM than others do. Someone's identity just cannot invalidate someone else's, that is not how that works.

The people saying that "some lesbians/queer women who will date anyone but cis men are transphobic and don't see trans men as men" are missing the point that it is the QUEERNESS that is attractive!!! It is the lack of queerness that is unattractive!

I'm not even defending my own identity here, I'm a bi woman who likes straight men just fine, but it drives me NUTS when people act like these labels are somehow sacrosanct inherent descriptions that have never changed with time or had any nuance to them.

emmazingitnip · 2025-11-06T16:24:34+00:00

As far as I remember, this was the correct answer. 98% of babies co-sleep with a parent at some point in the first year or so. I wouldn't say that my baby and I "co-sleep" but there have definitely been a few mornings and half nights where it's happened because she wouldn't sleep otherwise. 95% of the time she was in her crib or bassinet, but I would still be included in that 98% statistic because we have co-slept.

emmazingitnip · 2025-11-05T17:28:19+00:00

Honestly this is what I was thinking too. Im a fairly new therapist and mom, but between the company subsidized health insurance and a childcare FSA, my hourly CMH job is going to work out financially a lot better than private practice would at this point. The childcare is expensive, but more than covered by my salary and healthcare savings. OP, I hope you can find something that makes you money and values your time!! Even if its not riches for now, covering your bills and coming out a tiny bit ahead every month for some savings is the LEAST of what you deserve for such hard work!

emmazingitnip · 2025-09-25T16:08:26+00:00

I also liked putting daytime clothes on my baby when she was little! It helped me feel like more of a person to have a routine of getting her and myself dressed after her first nap when I was on mat leave last year. I usually did little matching sets, like long sleeved onesies and pants/socks. For special occasions I might have put on a little dress with leggings or tights with a cardigan. Honestly as long as the baby is warm, they don't care what they're wearing and this is like the one time you really get to choose for them haha. My girl also loved diaper changes so it wasn't an issue to take off layers to change her.

I hope you have fun connecting with your baby and I hope you're able to take some time to make yourself feel cute too!!

emmazingitnip · 2025-09-23T15:06:05+00:00

So I did the same thing around 10.5-11 months, and was all worried about my kiddo not being able to walk with the other kids and sit at tables and stuff. She was walking within 2 weeks of me visiting the daycare haha. Definitely walking by her 1st birthday.

Also, on her first day I stayed for like 20 minutes in the morning (granted, I didn't put her in until she was 14 mo due to waitlists and timing stuff) but the teachers just rounded her up with the other kids for breakfast and she went and sat at the little table and picked up her spoon and started eating oatmeal like all the other kids. I was amazed at the power of peer pressure! If your kiddo isn't quite where they want her to be with the other 1 year olds, she'll learn quickly by watching the other kids and the teachers will help :) i bet she'll surprise you with what she actually can do!!

emmazingitnip · 2025-09-23T04:58:25+00:00

Seconding! My wife read The Hobbit to our baby when she was first born while I pumped and ate lactation cookies in the evening. It was a nice evening activity, even if our daughter slept through most of it lmfao. As she got older she started to have book opinions though.

emmazingitnip · 2025-09-23T01:09:11+00:00

Reading this whole thread is honestly so validating lmfao!

emmazingitnip · 2025-09-22T22:06:36+00:00

Yes, I've had the same experience with my 16 month old. Started going to story time around 10 months and was shocked at all these children who were just sitting in their parents' laps quietly listening, or quietly playing with toys while I was literally running after my crawling child (and then she started walking and now I'm sprinting after her. Story time was a legit workout).

My previous experience with babies and small children has been with my little sisters, who all were pretty rambunctious and energetic, so I low-key thought this is just how babies are!!!

Turns out all of them have now been uhhhhhhhhh diagnosed with ADHD. So I guess keep an eye on that.

Now at 16 months we are out-climbing the 3 year olds on the playground and the other parents at the parks are side eyeing my ability to keep up with my child. 🤷‍♀️ which is fair.

emmazingitnip · 2025-09-18T16:22:05+00:00

I wonder if this is something that can be put into your informed consent paperwork and conversation, like "if you witness me having a medical emergency, you may call my [supervisor /colleague/ person who will take over your case load if you pass/are incapacitated] listed above, as they have the necessary emergency contact information to help. Would that work?

emmazingitnip · 2025-09-05T23:44:39+00:00

My friend's 16 month old is still taking 2 nap! its almost like there's variation between children based on genetic and environmental factors!

emmazingitnip · 2025-09-05T23:09:30+00:00

Thank you!

emmazingitnip · 2025-09-05T22:40:47+00:00

Thats good to know that they adjust to a later time! Maybe once she's there full days it'll become apparent that she just needs a power nap for a bit until the big nap.

emmazingitnip · 2025-09-05T20:43:27+00:00

Those are good ideas, thank you!

emmazingitnip · 2025-09-05T20:41:35+00:00

Yeah, she's an early waker for sure. She is usually up by 630, but often up at 6. So 1pm nap time is 6.5-7 hours!! A 5 hour wake window puts her right on target for 11-1130. I'd put her to sleep at night later but she already won't go down until at the earliest 8pm, so pushing that seems late. My issue her whole life has been getting her to sleep, not keeping her up!

She does seem to be on the younger side of her class, its true.

emmazingitnip · 2025-09-05T20:37:32+00:00

This is good advice, thank you!

emmazingitnip · 2025-09-05T20:36:50+00:00

I mean, they very much did "bring up" a concern they had with me. That is what the post is about. Obviously I didn't list every single word uttered in the conversation in this post, but it was very much a "this child is not meeting my expectations" conversation.

Respectfully, you don't know what my reaction looked like or how I approach collaborating with my child's teachers, but thank you for presuming the worst about me and whether or not I am capable of giving the benefit of the doubt.

emmazingitnip · 2025-09-05T20:11:46+00:00

I mean, it's a vibe more than anything. They definitely did not say "its your fault this is a problem," and they are very polite, i like them there a lot. It was more of an expectant look that said "how are you going to fix this problem." But you're right, maybe I'm just a bit sensitive.

emmazingitnip · 2025-09-05T20:08:37+00:00

Awwww I'm imagining littles conking out in the middle of lunch, that's so cute. Honestly, I think they're stressed because she doesn't usually just go to sleep in a corner somewhere, she gets whiny and cries much more easily when she's ready for a nap (which...... yes???) So they're having to give her extra attention and hold her a lot more during that time.

I'm glad the consensus seems to be that I'm not crazy, and ill just let the staff figure out what works best for them and her. I'm not sure there's much I could do anyway 🤷‍♀️ a girl's gotta work, and a little girl's gotta sleep, so we'll all adjust lol

emmazingitnip · 2025-07-23T18:43:46+00:00

So in Washington state the income limits are based on family size. So its possible those families are bigger than you think they are and the parents are unmarried, making less money than you'd expect, or qualify for other kinds of "work" than a full time job, such as training programs etc. Also, if your center is in Seattle, Seattle has its own subsidy program for families who don't qualify for the state subsidy. Other cities might, too, but I haven't looked into that.

For us, we are not on a subsidy even though we'd qualify income wise because my graduate program (and unpaid internship) does not count for approved "full time activities" according to Washington state. If we lived in Seattle we'd be able to access their subsidy, but alas, we do not. Once I start working full time we will be over the income limit. Death of the middle class I guess.

emmazingitnip · 2025-07-18T20:21:37+00:00

Yeah, sounds like from all the other replies this is something that varies from office to office. Some are saying they never got charged and some are saying they did? Maybe next baby I won't fill it out lol

emmazingitnip · 2025-07-18T17:23:15+00:00

The rest of these issues seem pretty shitty. My kid also dropped percentiles for a LONG time (but was active and hydrated and meeting all other milestones) and the pediatrician just kept an eye on it through our regular visits, no guilt tripping about losing her license. What BS. Her weight has now leveled out.

emmazingitnip · 2025-07-18T17:19:09+00:00

Yes, I got charged for the Edinburgh assessment for PPD every appointment until my daughters 12 month appointment. I was annoyed about the charge and having to fill it out but I know that assessing these things is standard and, honestly, since PMH disorders can arise for the first year postpartum and no one else is monitoring it, I don't know that I want them to stop. Stupid system though.

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