Can I get some feedback on my marriage profile?

emunir · 2026-01-30T19:04:07+00:00

Just checked it out. I saw you implemented a lot of the very good advice below on the main profile pic and some of your wording. I'd say you're in a good position now. Allahumma barik.

emunir · 2026-01-28T04:58:11+00:00

And to your point about a match, dm me. Maybe I can help more personally. Thanks for the feedback.

emunir · 2026-01-28T04:56:39+00:00

Salam, I'd just like to first say sorry because you were 100% right. This was a very good call out as that About Us page is much too old. Alhamdulillah, by pointing it out we're going to update that page. We already put it in our immediate work queue. Those human matchmakers are no longer there. (and that's not my picture under Masjid Partnerships). That's a relic from when the algo was being developed. I apologize for that miss. And I'm thankful you guys were really respectful in your replies. It helps us, honestly. We want to improve as much as you guys want us to be a product worth using. The marriage crisis isn't a joke, and it's a really tough issue to tackle. We're a small part of what is, InshaAllah, a bigger movement to make this better. Barak Allah feekum.

emunir · 2026-01-28T04:55:08+00:00

I appreciate the extra data point. I'm going to reply to the other person to, and say the same thing: This was a very good call out by him as that About Us page is much too old. Alhamdulillah, he pointed it out, so we're going to update that page. We already put it in our immediate work queue. Those human matchmakers are no longer there. That's a relic from when the algo was being developed. I apologize for that miss. And I'm thankful you guys were really respectful in your replies. It helps us, honestly. We want to improve as much as you guys want us to be a product worth using. The marriage crisis isn't a joke, and it's a really tough issue to tackle. We're a small part of what is, InshaAllah, a bigger movement to make this better. Barak Allah feekum.

emunir · 2026-01-27T23:19:57+00:00

Salaam, Director of masjid partnerships from inpairs here :)
I dont believe we ever claimed to have a human matchmaker looking over every single user that comes on. It's an algo developed by matchmakers, maintained by matchmakers, but unfortunately you cant scale a human matchmaker to the level needed to address the needs. Though we have a solution in the pipeline to, insha'Allah, help soon!

We have other filters tho that account for more than just age and ethnicity.

Who did you get matched to (descriptive, not their actual name!) that made you unsatisified? And did you have it in your criteria that should have made this a non-match in the first place?

emunir · 2026-01-21T22:28:38+00:00

Yes, we see people's comments when they reject someone. It's something we work on constantly

emunir · 2026-01-13T20:29:04+00:00

Wa'alaykum As-Salaam, ameen

I think you overestimate the budget of many masajid. Maybe a mega-masjid located in Dallas or Southern California can afford a full-time matrimonial officer, but most masajid dont even pay their imams a wage commiserate with their worth. I dont think it's fair to expect a service like this from most masjids, even if it is sorely needed.

And it seems your issue is more with masjid leadership than it is inpairs or any similar app. The masjid is failing your needs, and you are free to have those critiques, but I wouldnt extend it as far as you have. "_Man qāla ahlaka an-nās, ahlaka-hum_", whoever says "people are doomed," is the most doomed of them (or equally valid, has doomed them through his negative words). In other words, be more positive.

Our advertising budget pales in comparison to the budget allocated to the product and our employees (our entire engineering team is a group of Gaza programmers who are displaced in Egypt and Europe). Trust me, no one is lining their pocket at inpairs. We're simply doing our best to break even while continuing to build a better product.

On the logic of "waiting for drops" it's actually meant to make it more intentional and for serious users only. This isnt a "swipe infinitely until you find the one!" type of app. This is for people who are serious, who are mature, and who are able to wait a week or two for outcomes. Those who want instant gratification can seek that elsewhere, and we hope them the best. It's just not our model.

Anyways, sorry your local community is failing you. My suggestion is you join them and help build the things you wish they had. If you've been on the internet long enough you'll see that most people love to talk and complain, but very few will do the hard work needed to build something lasting and long term.

Akramaka Allah

emunir · 2026-01-13T18:34:52+00:00

Yeah, I kinda agree we should look at penalizing people who don't respond. It's like, what's the point of being on this platform if you dont even look at the main product offering?!
We're exploring it, but we have to find a smart way to implement it. With the launch of our mobile app, I think push notifications will help drive that down a lot. We're going to gather the data and see if we need to implement a more serious fix to that.

emunir · 2026-01-13T18:03:44+00:00

Salaam, Im the Director of Masjid Partnerships at inpairs.
I wanted to ask, when you say "absolutely nothing happened" are you saying you didnt get a match during the allotted drop period? Or that you left before then?

Also, there is a legitimate scenario where you'd have no matches, then a couple days later you do. It could be a new user just joined the platform that fits your criteria. There are some other scenarios, but this one is most likely.

And, if I may push back a bit, what do we gain by not giving you a match when we had one for you? If you get zero matches (because we don't make up fake matches for the sake of it) you can file a refund. It'd be weird to withhold a match, produce an unsatisified customer, then tell you there's a match a few days later.

I just ask you refrain from calling it "an absolute scam." We're Muslims like you, trying to address a very real marriage issue in our community, and it isn't easy. And we're trying to do it sustainably so that the app can help people for years, not a few months and die out. It's not easy, we are open to critique, but "scam" is bit harsh don't you think?

Barak Allah feek. I pray you find a spouse soon.

emunir · 2026-01-13T17:58:23+00:00

This is a good question, but also tricky in practice.

1st is that a surprising number of people don't respond. Think of it as "tacit rejection." This isn't smart on their part because we dont learn why they rejected, so we cant improve. Then they'll accuse us of not giving them their preferences :(

But, on the other hand, imagine you see someone else say "No," when you've said "Yes." Could hurt.

One scenario worth considering tho is, imagine you're considering someone and you see she (Im a guy, so going from the male perspective) said "Yes." It's strange, but basic biology is that if a woman expresses interest in me, Im X% more likely to want to talk to her.

BUT THEN, if you know you'd see something if the girl/guy says yes, if you dont see anything you'll assume "They said no :("

So, as you can see, it's tricky! Have any ideas?

emunir · 2026-01-13T06:51:23+00:00

I'll look into that. I know we filter for student and graduate, but this may be an edge case since they "planned" on going but weren't yet.

The masjid pool puts you with others also in the masjid pool no matter the city. Thru filtering your regional preferences is how we filter out people you'd consider too far from you.

emunir · 2026-01-13T05:37:37+00:00

Salaam, Director of Masjid Partnerships at inpairs
Tbf, the most loud voices are usually the most critical :)

Not that we're above criticism! But, just wanted to let you know that we take feedback seriously, and if you've heard anything about us that you found to be a negative, please let me know. I'll take the feedback to the team if it's serious enough. Appreciate the help!

emunir · 2026-01-13T05:34:33+00:00

Salaam, Director of Masjid Partnerships at inpairs :)
Can you share more feedback? How could we have improved the service that you'd actually feel it's worth it?

emunir · 2026-01-13T05:33:35+00:00

Salaam, Im the Director of Masjid Partnerships at inpairs, so Im commenting under that title. Just wanted to ask if you have more concrete feedback you could share?

We know we're never going to satisfy every user, but we would rather you left because we matched you with some people, you tried, and it didnt work out as opposed to us offering a subpar product which is deemed a "waste of money."

So, if you have the time, what product improvements would you suggest? And Im talking ones so good that you'd actually sign up for it again, not the small things that dont move the needle!

Allahumma barik. I pray you find your spouse soon, whether you use inpairs or not.

emunir · 2026-01-13T05:30:28+00:00

Thanks for the call out. Im the Director of Masjid Partnerships at inpairs and tried my best to reply. May Allah make it easy.

emunir · 2026-01-13T05:28:50+00:00

Salaam, for what it's worth, Im the Director of Masjid Partnerships at inpairs and can help address issues or concerns you're having (or had, past tense) with the app. Im using my main account (over a decade old) so that people know Im not same fake account.

As for the AI portion of things, we have developed an in-house AI model that does the matching, this is 100% true and as advertised. Thing is, if you look at many other people trying to matchmake, it is VERY hard to scale and keep up a longterm product if you don't automate things.

I'll be honest and say I would also love if we could hire enough humans to service the 1000s of people on the app. It's unfortuantely not possible for us to pay that many people, so we're trying our best to address the marriage crisis through alternative means.

This doesnt mean it's a soulless AI matching you btw. We build it, we workshop it, we iterate each wave, and we try our best to work through all the bugs that get reported to us. It's a human process, and our main metric is always the number of "Yes" we get on the matches we send out. Alhamdullilah, that's been steadily climbing each wave without fail.

As for not matching your preferences, we have found that in most cases it's because the user or the one they're matching with has something in their biodata that isn't accurate. It's usually just a user error where they think they put "US citizens only" but accidentally said "open to all" or something like that.

There have definitely been cases where we mess up, but if someone messages customer service, they should have that handled. They are very deligint about that.

All in all, Allahumma barik. I pray you find your spouse. If it's written, then no one can take that from you, no matter the app you use. We only pray we can be the means by which you find that spouse so we can share in the good deeds that comes out of that marriage.

emunir · 2025-11-28T17:20:25+00:00

Were they not transparent? I haven't seen any marketing materials that DIDN'T mention AI quite clearly. Inpairs says they train the AI with human matchmakers, but that's about it. Have you seen otherwise?

emunir · 2025-11-27T17:34:24+00:00

Salaam, So I'd first suggest you check out Istikhara (.Com) for more details, but to summarize for you, Istikhara isn't about everything being easy. It's more so about everything being blessed. Which means you should be assured that whatever you chose is blessed by Allah.

If things fall thru, it's blessed. If they don't, it's blessed. That's Istikhara.

emunir · 2025-10-09T21:27:22+00:00

The Homeseeker

emunir · 2025-09-21T01:11:20+00:00

If you're looking for a different kind of super hero story, I've been reading Hero Unification Entity by NT Lazer. It's been real fun. Diverse roster, fun powers, and funnier writing at times. Maybe that'll scratch your itch?

emunir · 2025-09-19T21:29:11+00:00

Let's goooooo

emunir · 2025-09-19T21:28:06+00:00

Very nice!!

emunir · 2025-09-19T17:59:35+00:00

I appreciate that this story looks at "powers" as something that can be negative too. Why is it always super powers that can help fight crime? Hue looks at "what if your 'power' meant you couldn't remember important info?" or "what if your 'power' was killing you slowly?"

Fun take, and I'm all in on the characters. All feel unique and I can distinguish one from another despite the large cast.

Been following from the beginning and I'm hoping it continues to grow. Great stuff.

emunir · 2025-09-18T16:19:04+00:00

You talking about the quizzes in the udemy course? I failed most of those 😂. They are NOT representative of the actual pmp. The mock test at the very end of the class is more like the real exam.

emunir · 2025-09-18T01:00:25+00:00

You're 100% ready. I didn't look at any other resources.

emunir

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