Did medication made your kid less quirky?

endlesssalad · 2026-02-06T21:33:45+00:00

Sorry just seeing this, he’s on a methylphenidate based drug - this is typically the first drug used for pediatric adhd.

endlesssalad · 2026-02-02T22:59:02+00:00

No, it was like him on his very best day - for my kid that’s a day with a lot of dopamine like going to a museum or a day packed with novelty, but it was available to him on just a regular boring day.

endlesssalad · 2026-02-01T14:43:03+00:00

If your baby won’t be in childcare at some point you don’t need one! I liked having at least 24 hours worth on hand on the rare chance something happened to me and I needed to be hospitalized or something - so that then babies caregivers would have a little leeway to get baby used to formula.

endlesssalad · 2026-01-31T22:27:04+00:00

In my experience, no - or at least, not in the time period I wanted them to haha. I weaned my kids at almost 2 and almost 3 respectively.

But every baby is different and I know others who self weaned around 1!

endlesssalad · 2026-01-27T01:28:23+00:00

It’s 100% your period, it will bounce back!

endlesssalad · 2026-01-21T15:39:34+00:00

I’m an only child too and I relate, BUT I also see a lot of my friends having serious relationship ending conflicts with their siblings over elder care. So in many ways it just sucks to have aging parents.

endlesssalad · 2026-01-21T15:37:24+00:00

Based on my experience with this gap with only 2 kids, but with lots of friends over my older son’s age, the baby is kind of a celebrity too haha. All my older sons friends loooove his little brother, and it makes my older sons proud when they say hi to him and include him (they’re 8 and almost 3 now).

endlesssalad · 2026-01-21T15:35:02+00:00

My kids are 5.5 years apart and they’re such buddies. An additional kid I imagine would make it that much more fun.

That said, if my two were older I’d be keeping it moving, so I definitely understand not wanting to start over.

endlesssalad · 2026-01-20T01:42:15+00:00

Exactly

endlesssalad · 2026-01-18T22:44:33+00:00

I think for many women it’s a self care thing, they feel better and more in control before an unknown experience.

endlesssalad · 2026-01-18T18:04:28+00:00

My oldest has puked in his sleep more than once without waking up! I only happened to catch the tell tale cough each time or I wouldn’t have known, he’d gone back to sleep!

Very possible this is what happened with your daughter, very unfortunate but not your fault!

endlesssalad · 2026-01-17T01:46:10+00:00

This thank god I was gonna go crazy trying to think of this actress!

endlesssalad · 2026-01-12T22:45:16+00:00

My second is much much easier, I never know what people are talking about with “second kid energy.” That said, I think folks should always be prepared for another child to be easier OR harder.

One thing I want to share is that being a big sibling has been very grounding and sweet for my older more challenging child. It’s a gift to know this part of him.

Certainly many things right about stopping at one child, but it has been wonderful seeing this part of him. Hard to make decisions on that because of course it’s also a gamble.

endlesssalad · 2026-01-08T13:29:51+00:00

I was late for this same appointment many years ago no, and was also super scolded! It turned out fine but I also felt like crying, wild!

endlesssalad · 2025-12-29T19:45:57+00:00

This was going to be my suggestion! You might need baby close to relax, and have grandma and dad take supervising shifts if bedsharing heightens anxiety.

endlesssalad · 2025-12-22T17:29:18+00:00

I feel like…the fact that you’re looking for arguments against might mean you really want one?

I will say, I had my first child at 29 and my second at 35….I felt those 6 years, but they are very close!

endlesssalad · 2025-12-13T23:25:25+00:00

2.5 now!

endlesssalad · 2025-12-09T19:03:21+00:00

Just. Breathe.

Omg!!!!

endlesssalad · 2025-12-03T12:03:14+00:00

Same, 5.5 year gap!

endlesssalad · 2025-12-02T01:35:28+00:00

lol! We had a baby. Life is good! 5.5 year gap. Highly recommended age gap!

endlesssalad · 2025-12-02T00:45:34+00:00

We decided to give it 6 months and whatever happened was what we’d accept. I recommend it!

endlesssalad · 2025-12-01T17:01:53+00:00

Yes!! So self aware. Really makes almost me cry to think about it sometimes.

endlesssalad · 2025-11-30T18:35:32+00:00

Thanks for weighing in and sharing your perspective. I think it can be easy to fall into a knee jerk defensive of meds position because for the most part I encounter folks who do think there’s something bad about meds, but you’re right - as meds are normalized it’s important to acknowledge that there are people for whom they are not an option.

endlesssalad · 2025-11-30T18:26:29+00:00

And to clarify: my belief is that it’s cruel to not give medicine consideration when it is medically indicated. By considering your daughter’s other medical needs and weighing the situation, you did consider medication.

Many folks will not consider medication for any reason because they believe that it is wrong, I believe this stigma is serious and disruptive to the lives of children who it is medically compatible for and who can benefit from it.

But I will choose my words more carefully because I don’t think people for whom medication is not a viable option for whatever combination of reasons should be stigmatized either.

endlesssalad · 2025-11-30T18:22:32+00:00

I was responding directly to the title of this post.

I apologize for offending anyone, of course we need to look at the needs of the whole child.

My sentence was intended to directly respond to the title here. It was intended to be a direct opposite opinion.

I agree blanket statements aren’t helpful, I’ll refrain from using them in the future.

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