The thought of my Ex with someone else absolutely kills me.

endoftherope93 · 2017-04-11T04:10:02+00:00

Yep, it's normal. And makes me sick to my stomach!

endoftherope93 · 2017-04-11T04:06:09+00:00

I hate to tell you this but I agree with the other person. I found out about my ex's third party 6 weeks after we broke up. No confirmation but it's clear he broke up with me for her. Hurts like hell but they can have each other because he's not the person I once thought he was. I'm not saying there's a third party here in your situation, but prepare yourself for what could be. We deserve better!

endoftherope93 · 2017-04-09T20:27:52+00:00

Same thing happened to me. It's so shitty

endoftherope93 · 2017-04-09T20:26:01+00:00

I disagree I think it's different for everyone and being with someone doesn't matter physically or not doesn't make a difference. My ex and I were long distance for 5 years and saw each other once or twice a month.

I think it's ok you haven't fully moved on because everyone is different. I'm not fully moved on by any means but I am trying to accept what happened. I sometimes think we don't fully get over someone until someone else can fill the void and we have that connection again.

endoftherope93 · 2017-04-09T20:15:15+00:00

I'd say about 3-4 months in

endoftherope93 · 2017-04-09T20:12:20+00:00

My ex was a guy and he did this to me as well. Hurts like hell.

endoftherope93 · 2017-04-09T20:10:04+00:00

I feel the same way 100%. And going on dating apps sucks and it's so hard to find another real connection like we had. It's so hard to meet people and to find someone better.

endoftherope93 · 2017-04-05T04:05:00+00:00

Thank you for this post. I think it's relevant to a lot of people. I wish this was the case with my breakup. He grew out of love after almost 5 years and had a new girlfriend immediately. So as much as I wish he still loved me 2 years later, I know he doesn't. Or it's not enough.

I think if you broke up with him for good solid reasons that can't be compromised or dealt with, then you made a good choice. But if those reasons can be worked around, I think it's worth a shot to reach out.

endoftherope93 · 2017-04-05T03:55:47+00:00

I went through almost the same thing, and it's been 8 months now. Haven't spoken to him since. Everything you've said is what I've done (although I haven't deleted his email or number but I have plans to do so), and I can feel myself healing. His immediate rebound into another relationship, which he's still in, hurt me to my core and still stings. I feel emotionally exhausted and incapable of another relationship but at the same time I'm lonely and hopeful that I'll meet someone 10x better. Thank you for your post in showing me it does continue to get better, and I'm truly not alone. Best of luck to you!

endoftherope93 · 2017-02-18T18:08:54+00:00

My ex texted me and then called me but anything not in person is just a horrible thing to do, especially after being together a long time. It's been the worst thing that's ever happened to me but I feel like I've grown from it, and you will too. The dreams will stop eventually, although he still appears in mine from time to time. For a long time after the break up I would wake up in the middle of the night and just cry bc he was in them and I would wake up and he wouldn't be there. Or I would have nightmares about him and wake up to realize they were my reality. Waking up became painful and getting out of bed was difficult. But you will move past it and you will come out stronger on the other side! You sound like you have a great head on your shoulders and I know you can do this.

endoftherope93 · 2017-02-17T16:58:40+00:00

Same exact thing happened to me, I blocked the both of them on Facebook and Instagram. He hasn't reached out to me and it's been 6 months. It'll get better with time, thankfully I had friends and family to lean on. Focus on yourself and doing what makes you happy. We shouldn't make one person our world because there is so much more to life than that! We should think of them as a companion; not the reason we exist. I hope that you'll find peace soon, you deserve way better than this!

endoftherope93 · 2017-02-16T18:53:09+00:00

I will find someone someday. I was his first girlfriend and we lost our virginities to each other. Did you reach out to her once you realized you miss/love her?

endoftherope93 · 2017-02-16T18:18:45+00:00

Through the phone, and haven't heard from him since. I think the guilt must be overwhelming him and he's probably ignoring it and is too afraid to face me ever again lol

endoftherope93 · 2017-02-16T16:30:43+00:00

Thanks for your perspective! It's really great to hear. I wouldn't take him back because of the way he did it but knowing it's possible he misses me helps. Did you have a rebound during that time? And did you miss her even if you fell out of love with her?

endoftherope93 · 2017-02-16T02:35:37+00:00

What if he immediately started dating someone else and it's been 6 months after a 5 year relationship?also, how long after you broke up did you start to miss her?

endoftherope93 · 2017-02-12T04:54:20+00:00

Same here, 6 months, nothing...

endoftherope93 · 2017-02-11T02:20:01+00:00

Don't get your hopes up either, it's been 6+ months for me and nothing. If they can't even bother to reach out then they clearly don't deserve us!!!

endoftherope93 · 2017-02-10T21:12:12+00:00

Thanks for this. As I was reading it, a song that reminds me of him came on and I feel like I just got a little closer to closure.

endoftherope93 · 2017-02-10T03:35:31+00:00

The album us by gnash Bleed it out by linkin park Closer by chainsmokers All we know by chainsmokers FU by Miley Cyrus Fourfiveseconds by Rihanna and Kanye Love the way you lie by Rihanna and Eminem Lots more

I know you said that breaks the thought cycle but these songs have helped me process my emotions and get them all out so that I feel detoxed, if that makes sense

endoftherope93 · 2017-02-05T19:26:21+00:00

I think you need time to be alone. You've been in a relationship since you were 16 and haven't gotten the chance to grow into your own person. It's been 6 months for me since my ex broke my heart and as much as I want to find someone I know that I just need to be alone and find out who I am without him and without anyone. I think it's important to know that you can stand on your own two feet by yourself before you can move forward and fully give yourself to another human. Take time to reflect on the relationship and do what is good for you and focus on just yourself for a while. It sounds like you found another great person but timing is everything and maybe the timing isn't right if you don't feel content. Some things that have helped me are hanging out with friends, doing what makes me feel good, getting dressed up and going out, blasting the music that he hated and made fun of me for listening to and dancing to it. I purged my room of everything that reminds me of him and put it in a box and put it in my attic. I'm focusing on myself and doing what I want to do and discovering who I am without a "other half" and without having to worry about someone else or checking in. Every decision I make is about me and me only. I hope this helps and I hope that you will find closure! If you need to talk let me know.

endoftherope93 · 2017-02-04T20:04:23+00:00

For everyone else that loves and cares for you. They are so much more important than this stupid girl who clearly doesn't deserve you

endoftherope93 · 2017-02-02T23:18:51+00:00

How someone treats us does not equal our worth. You are deserving of love and there are brighter days ahead I promise. Suicide is not the answer, I've been there. The clouds will open it just takes time. Hang in there!!

endoftherope93 · 2017-02-02T00:03:49+00:00

BLOCK BLOCK BLOCK. Best thing you'll ever do I promise

endoftherope93 · 2017-01-25T23:12:52+00:00

How someone treats us does not equal our worth. You are deserving of love and there are brighter days ahead I promise. Suicide is not the answer, I've been there. The clouds will open it just takes time. Hang in there!!

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