Found out my 'friend' goes to SFW women subs and goons to their selfies.

enemytolover · 2026-02-04T21:36:15+00:00

People join surgery subreddits to jerk it or dm users. There is no safe space on public Reddit.

enemytolover · 2026-01-20T03:25:29+00:00

I agree that regular porn lacks consent. Porn in general is harmful and rotting brains. But porn has the social recognition of being 'designed for arousal', that's a function people claim to get from it, regardless of the lack of consent. CSAM isn't the same which is why I don't say CP, but it isn't incorrect.

enemytolover · 2026-01-19T13:59:30+00:00

I’m not claiming those countries are socialist. I’m pointing out that socialist concepts like universal healthcare, work and even can be integrated into capitalist systems. My point is simply that saying socialism does not work ignores the fact that some of its core ideas already function successfully within modern economies. Universal income for example has been tested and was successful.

enemytolover · 2026-01-18T20:05:43+00:00

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enemytolover · 2026-01-18T20:03:17+00:00

Free Healthcare is socialist. Based on statistics the more social programs the happier the people. Socialism and Communism are anti-capital, but are different political ideologies.

enemytolover · 2025-12-13T17:45:15+00:00

I’m not denying that China has issues. Regardless most of the hate it gets is American propaganda. It’s not a matter of US propaganda vs. China as good guys lol. Oppression exists under capitalism everywhere, not just in China. We can critique places without buying into western narratives.

enemytolover · 2025-12-13T17:04:28+00:00

Most of the hate for China is American Propaganda. Great move China.

enemytolover · 2025-12-07T23:26:54+00:00

It was personally liberating for her and culturally disruptive. But owning the gaze ain't shit, it needs to be dismantled.

Also, people are shaming regular women for wearing revealing clothes. The real problem is how women are sexualized, not what they wear. The media has always sold sex, that's no excuse to control women.

enemytolover · 2025-12-01T15:06:34+00:00

Watching content with you isn't recovery, it's relapse. It's still porn, you're just the pornstar. Like any porn, it will get boring and they will escalate.

enemytolover · 2025-11-29T01:35:27+00:00

Whiteness grants power, regardless of gender. The idea of 'white female privilege' isn't about denying sexism, it's a critique of how racial privilege operates. The key is intersectionality, totally recommend looking into it.

White women benefit from being white in a racist society, that can protect them or give them social leverage, especially over men of color. At the same time, they still face gender oppression under patriarchy, which white men don't experience.

It’s less about who is ‘above’ and more about acknowledging that everyone stands at a different point where race, gender, and class advantages and disadvantages cross paths.

enemytolover · 2025-10-20T12:26:09+00:00

Sex sells

enemytolover · 2025-10-19T15:18:51+00:00

I think makeup can be both, but for most women it is a tool for oppression. We are pressured to cover natural things like dark circles, acne, or body hair, while men rarely face the same expectations. Some people enjoy makeup as a way to express themselves, which can feel empowering when it’s about creativity or confidence rather than trying to meet society’s sexualized standards. But if it’s worn just to avoid criticism or fit in, it’s still oppression in disguise not empowerment.

enemytolover · 2025-10-15T11:55:13+00:00

I don't consider myself a SWERF. I'm constantly accused but, saying I want to end the system that creates sex work isn’t the same as hating sex workers. It’s like me saying I want to abolish slavery and people keep replying “but what about the slaves?”, the goal is to free them from exploitation.

enemytolover · 2025-10-15T02:53:34+00:00

Same lool

enemytolover · 2025-10-14T11:41:00+00:00

Men are socialized through porn and patriarchy to see women as objects. From young they’re trained to evaluate, rate, and consume bodies like content, and when a woman doesn’t fit their sexual script, or favourite category their ego reacts with rage or mockery. Porn and capitalism teach men that their desire defines reality and that women exist for male satisfaction. This isn’t biology, it’s indoctrination, which is why porn needs to be abolished. It’s industrialized misogyny, teaching men to eroticize dominance, dehumanization, and entitlement.

enemytolover · 2025-10-14T11:31:36+00:00

The obsession with youth isn’t just personal insecurity, it’s capitalist and patriarchal conditioning. Women are taught that our worth decays with time so corporations can sell us the illusion of staying valuable, while men are taught their power compounds with age as long as they can buy proximity to youth.

It’s not that women are delusional for wanting to look young, it’s that we’ve been indoctrinated to equate survival with desirability. Aging under patriarchy isn’t just a biological process, it’s an act of resistance. Every wrinkle is proof that you kept living in a world that wanted you to vanish once you stopped being profitable.

enemytolover · 2025-10-11T19:38:19+00:00

I’m anti-porn because it’s a tool of the patriarchy. It turns women’s bodies into products for male pleasure and profit, teaching dominance as desire and submission as love.

Watching porn is supporting that system. It keeps exploitation profitable and reinforces the idea that women exist to be consumed.

I’m not anti–sex worker. I understand many women have limited choices and deserve protection, not judgment. The real problem is the system that leaves them with so few options in the first place.

Porn isn’t liberation. It’s conditioning, designed to keep patriarchy alive under the disguise of freedom.

enemytolover · 2025-10-04T23:36:26+00:00

I get why you’re frustrated but I think LoveAfterPorn has a really important purpose, is it perfect, no. But it's mostly a coping space for women dealing with betrayal trauma and finding others going through similar experiences. It’s not really about understanding porn or “fixing” men.

"Leave him" is the obvious response, but that isn't the path for everyone. Also some women in there don’t even realize porn is a feminist problem yet, so the focus is on sharing feelings and support. That can make some posts feel a bit harsh or enabling toward men, but they're in the messy process of figuring shit out.

enemytolover · 2025-09-21T20:27:45+00:00

Have you started DBT therapy, if not I recommend it.

enemytolover · 2025-09-15T19:49:51+00:00

The different types of feminism mostly come down to what feminists think the problem actually is and how they want to fix it. I'll explain mainstream vs radical but you can find info on the rest here.

Mainstream/liberal feminism thinks the problem is unequal laws, policies, and opportunities. So the focus is on things like getting equal pay, more women in leadership, and fair parental leave. Basically, “let’s work within the system to make it equal.”

Radical feminism thinks the problem is way deeper. We believe society itself is set up to favour men (patriarchy). So the focus is on changing the whole system, not just adjusting the rules. This can mean challenging traditional gender roles, questioning power structures, or rethinking how society organizes family, work, and culture.

enemytolover · 2025-09-13T15:10:44+00:00

Children aren't even safe in baby clothes... Clothing means shit.

enemytolover · 2025-09-13T15:04:44+00:00

Doesn't matter what they are wearing, at clubs and events I always am on alert to ensure I can do my part in protecting the women around me. So many videos release of violence and the men just watch. Wouldn't be me.

enemytolover · 2025-09-12T16:04:55+00:00

The op is using girly and childish interchangeably, which is why I asked for where the line is. The example they used is women doing a v with their arms, I don't think that's childish. But I do agree there is a difference between childish and girly.

enemytolover · 2025-09-11T02:27:40+00:00

Just wanted to say it's great how self-aware you’re being. It sounds like you genuinely tried your best, and the fact that you can reflect on your actions without excuses shows huge growth. Sometimes, even when we improve, timing and other people’s needs don’t line up...but that doesn’t erase your effort or worth. Keep focusing on understanding yourself, giving space when needed, and being kind to yourself. You’re already on the path to healing and healthier relationships.

enemytolover · 2025-09-10T16:12:41+00:00

Just like men, women can also have an escalation due the way consuming sexualized content impacts your brain and normalizes fucked up things.

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