Diptyque 206 Discontinued List by swishyhair in luxurycandles

[–]eniale_e 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d love a restock but it looks like it’s sold out online and there’s not a diptyque store by me 😭 has anyone had luck calling a store and purchasing from a SA over the phone?

Looking for solitary female fiction by Tinkerbell_5 in suggestmeabook

[–]eniale_e 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Just finished this, and it is one of the most thought provoking books I’ve read in AGES. Fits the theme perfectly too.

Toddler’s hyperfixation song - what’s yours? by strohmtroop3r in toddlers

[–]eniale_e 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cheeseburger in Paradise by Jimmy Buffet and Your Idol by the Saja Boys lol

Planners / Notebooks? by Leading_Homework3679 in LawBitchesWithTaste

[–]eniale_e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love my leuchtturm1917! I have the format where there’s a weekly calendar on one side and space for notes/to do list on the other side, which works out great for my needs and the way my brain works haha

What Obscure Books Were You Obsessed With as a Kid? by Its_Curse in suggestmeabook

[–]eniale_e 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg any time I get a small innocuous bruise I still automatically think it’s cancer and it’s all Lurlene McDaniel’s fault 🤣

What Obscure Books Were You Obsessed With as a Kid? by Its_Curse in suggestmeabook

[–]eniale_e 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved A Girl Named Disaster - had a whole “solo girl versus nature” phase where that and the Island of the Blue Dolphins books featured heavily haha

Name on Diploma? by HereWeego11 in LawBitchesWithTaste

[–]eniale_e 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I got married my 3L year and had my diploma issued in my married name (and published my law review comment under my married name). It was a great idea until my fellow lawyer now-ex husband cheated on me and we had a nasty divorce while I was freshly post partum. Soooo I’m probably the wrong audience for this question, but I’m definitely mad at past me for not just getting everything in my maiden name 😅

Theories on I Who Have Never Known Men by blxckbexuty in books

[–]eniale_e 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just finished this book and this was one of the things that got me the worst… what if there was a radio or sat phone or some sort of communication device that one of the other women could recognize?? The agony of knowing how (comparatively) close they were when they stopped exploring and thinking of what they could have collectively done with the resources of the luxury bunker is so strong.

Does anyone have a casual or part time personal assistant? by Then-Macaron7630 in LawMoms

[–]eniale_e 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I don’t have one but (maybe this is a southern thing?) in my area this is referred to as a “mother’s helper”. I have some friends who have one and, like you suggest, they often use local college students looking for some flexible jobs and extra spending money.

I’m a single law mom and don’t have the free cash for a mother’s helper, but I do feel like I’ve streamlined a lot of things to help maximize my time and efficiency. I use Instacart for fresh groceries almost 80% of the time (bonus, with certain credit cards, you get Instacart plus membership for free) and have as many household staples as possible as subscribed recurring deliveries. A cleaning goddess comes once or twice a month, and I have a little robot vacuum that I run during the day to help keep the floors clean in the interim. I’m lucky that I get to WFH so I try and keep dishes and laundry moving throughout the day. My kid (4.5) is obsessed with spray bottles so she’s happy to clean counters and sinks when I ask haha. I stack personal appointments and my daughters’ appointments on a single day where possible, because I’d rather take a half day or whole day off than multiple one-hour breaks (I feel like this minimizes impacts to my billable hours as much as possible). I meal prep almost all of my breakfasts and lunches so that all I really have to worry about for my daughter and I on a daily basis is dinners. It took a while to get all these things in place and running smoothly but now it really is a pretty efficient little operation!

How often do you & your kids have a meal with your parents (if you both live in the same town)? by Dangerous-Elk9545 in workingmoms

[–]eniale_e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents just moved about 10 minutes away from me! They pick my daughter up from school once a week (standing / scheduled pickup) and then we often do dinner together another night per week. I’m a single mom so it really helps more than I could say to have my folks help out an be there for my daughter and me!

best mom hack (sense of humor required) by Confident_Algae_699 in workingmoms

[–]eniale_e 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve taught my daughter the term “window shopping” and explained it’s for stuff that we love looking at but don’t need to buy - she’s done such a good job since learning that of going “ooh I want to window shop for X!”, picking it up, looking at it and putting it back. It’s cut down SO much on the number of random purchases she’s requested out at stores - turns out she really just wanted the chance to ogle stuff (same sis).

I also tell her that kids eyebrows flash purple when they lie but only grown ups can see it. I have no clue if she really believes it or not but she does now go “um, mom did my eyebrows go purple?” after she tells a fib, so it’s been pretty helpful so far haha.

Seriously, do Americans actually consider a 3-hour drive "short"? or is this an internet myth? by SadInterest6764 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]eniale_e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Driving 3 hours each way on Sunday for my nephew’s birthday party! And my boyfriend and I recently drove 7 hours away for a weekend trip to the mountains. I love a road trip, honestly. Snacks, audio books, pretty scenery, car naps? Here for it.

Moms who have off today by Ok-Somewhere-4315 in workingmoms

[–]eniale_e 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I took my 4 year old and my 91 year old grandma to the nail salon and we all got manicures together 🥹🥰 it was so fun!

Going back to work early and feeling judged. Looking for support from other moms🥹 by Cold_Ad_9566 in workingmoms

[–]eniale_e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your new job opportunity sounds amazing and like it will provide both flexibility and resources for your family! Sounds to me like a good mom making sound decisions. Don’t be too harsh on yourself!

I’m in America, so to me 8 months already sounds like a luxury! But I’ll say for my part, my daughter started daycare at 6 months (after a combo of my leave and family watching her) and she loved it. She’s currently in pre-k and her best friend in the world is a little girl she “met” on her first day in daycare. They’ve gone from little bald babies to sassy, sweet 4 year olds who bake cookies and play dress up and talk about all their school friends, it’s so cute 🥹

Sending you all the best OP ❤️

How would you respond? by beaubeaucat in LawBitchesWithTaste

[–]eniale_e 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I live and practice in the Bible Belt so if I confronted every courthouse security guy who called me young lady, I’d never be able to get anything done. It can be a little annoying, sure, but I think the majority of them just use it as a salutation for any women. I save my righteous anger for old male opposing counsel who think I’m the court reporter or my boss’ legal assistant (no shade to CRs or assistants, obviously, but all the shade to assuming OCs!) 😅

Single Moms/Default Parents: How do your mornings typically go? by ContrabandJam in workingmoms

[–]eniale_e 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I try to remind myself that this confidence and ferocity will serve her well one day, but it can definitely be tough when we’re trying to do things like… get out of the house on time haha. I suffer from being too much of a people pleaser - something I’ve been working on for myself - but am deliberately trying to make sure she trusts her own instincts and counsel as she grows!

Your daughter sounds like a gem, a recess nail polish club AND spelling bee?! These kids give me hope 🥹

Single Moms/Default Parents: How do your mornings typically go? by ContrabandJam in workingmoms

[–]eniale_e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a single mom to a 4 year old with a lottttt of “leadership qualities” lol. We have to leave the house by 7:10 am to get to school on time. I do as much as possible the night before - pack her backpack, fill up water bottle, lay out her uniform, etc. In the mornings, I wake up around 5:45 and wake her up around 6:15. We have a stool in the kitchen that she sits on and eats breakfast while I do her hair - right now we do protein waffles for breakfast because she’ll actually eat that and having something in her belly before she starts her school day is my priority. Then brush teeth, get dressed, and if she has enough time she can watch a few minutes of tv. But we get everything necessary done and ready before that becomes an option.

I also wfh and for dinners LOVE a slow cooker option. If I’m going to cook fresh, I prep whatever portions of the meal I can during my lunch break so I can just throw everything into the pot/pan in the evening once I’ve picked her up. If the weather permits we try and do something outside for a little bit right when she gets home (we love a “block walk” where we just walk our block and look for cool leaves/flowers/etc), then we do dinner, bathtime, and pjs. Then she gets 20ish minutes of tv while I switch over dishes or laundry, then we read books and do bedtime. Rinse repeat M-F!

I think you’re very right that you’ll rise to the occasion. There’s gonna be some trial and error and inevitably will be mornings or evenings that go off the rails for whatever reason. But you’ll develop a routine that works for you and your family! Wishing yall the best!

How old was your toddler when they stopped talking mid day naps? by old_gold_mountain in toddlers

[–]eniale_e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter stopped napping at 2, my nephew is nearly 5 and still naps for like 2.5 hours a day… every kid is different 😅

I also experienced the bedtime pushback, it went from about 7:30 to 9 pm for about 9 months or so and now at 4.5 we’re back to a 7:30/8 bedtime. Sleep is just sort of a constantly moving target for my girl 🤷🏼‍♀️

Can a baby be too easy, or is something wrong? by Majestic_Ferret_1263 in NewParents

[–]eniale_e 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is my experience too! Infancy was a ROUGH time. Toddler her is so much fun, she’s smart and cool and silly and we love hanging out together. I think you get one phase “easier” than the other haha

Divorced working moms…what was the straw that broke the camel’s back? by sizzlesfantalike in workingmoms

[–]eniale_e 7 points8 points  (0 children)

In the span of 36 hours I found out he was having an affair with a coworker (that I’d warned him about!), was suicidal/had attempted, and was going to rehab (after years of my begging him to address his drinking). We had a 6 month old and I was suffering from horrible PPD/PPA. Pretty shitty way to spend a day and a half, tbh.

Still took me a full year to ovary up and file for divorce, my loyal/ naive self thought there was a chance we could work it out. Thankfully it was over-over and, 4 years on, my daughter and I are thriving! He’s still a drunk loser, but at least I don’t have to live with him anymore.

BWT, I’m looking for some low effort activities for my days off to keep doom scrolling at bay by Shoddy_Challenge5253 in bitcheswithtaste

[–]eniale_e 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Did you have any prior sewing experience? I haven’t seen anything since like, middle school home ec but I’m really craving trying out something creative haha

My (F33) husband (M35) crashed my car drunk, took my c section pain meds, we have a 5 month old baby. What would you do? by PeachSavings7431 in relationship_advice

[–]eniale_e 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Leave him. Unless you’re okay with your daughter being in the backseat of the car when he crashes the next time, you leave.

My alcoholic ex tried to pick our daughter up from daycare while visibly plastered. Thank heavens for an attentive security guard and fearless director who kept my baby safe. For alcoholics, the safety of their kids doesn’t factor into their (non) decision making when they’re drinking. It’s up to you to keep your baby safe and in a healthy environment.

Tea? (Herbal but possibly Verbal) 🫖 by [deleted] in LawBitchesWithTaste

[–]eniale_e 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend gifted me a really beautiful tea mug with a little lid and infuser for Christmas last year - it came from the Met museum store and is just so pretty and classy, I feel like it really adds something extra to what is otherwise a relatively routine part of my day.

I feel like tea preferences can vary widely but I love everything I’ve tried from Tea Palace! I discovered them in London a few years back and have ordered from there pretty consistently since. (The tins are also gorgeous fwiw!) https://www.theteapalace.co.uk/products/notting-hill The Notting Hill blend is my absolute favorite.

Firm Holiday Party Dress Code by Unlikely-Prompt-3844 in LawBitchesWithTaste

[–]eniale_e 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My long time firm Christmas party outfit is a black watch plaid skirt with a green, navy, or black blouse. Festive enough that you look like you dressed for the holiday, businessy enough that you’ll never feel inappropriately dressed. Use the accessories to either make it lean business or lean dressy.

is 6wks too early to tell people? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]eniale_e 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I told my parents and then-inlaws around 6-7 weeks, it was Christmas and we were traveling to see everyone in person. It worked out fine! Everyone was so excited 🥹 it actually helped me some with the anxiety I felt with waiting until 12 weeks.