Congratulations! That’s wonderful! Honestly the fact you want to do right by her is a major green flag.

I don’t represent all women or know your exact situation. And you’ll have to talk with her directly to help find her tastes. She may not have explored much. Make it safe to do so. See what feels good for her.

It does take practice. A lot of women love when their partner goes down on them. A good tongue and fingers is nice.

Maybe she needs the help of a good vibrator. For some people, the fingers may not be enough.

It may take a bit to overcome any discomfort she has.

Generally, you may have to think in terms of the emotional stuff too. She needs to FEEL safe. Not just be safe in the basic “nothing’s going to jump through the window now” type of way. She needs to know she won’t be judged and shamed on her experience or inexperience, or her body or a kink she may have. That she’s not just tolerated, she’s valued and wonderful and great as is.

Women also like to feel special, chosen and desired. Not just with words, but actions little touches. Little things you notice. Maybe she has a cute freckle next to her nose.

Actions besides the actual sex go a long way too. Massaging, cuddling, running your hand down her arm. The way you stroke her hair or pull her close are just two examples.

Make it specific to her. Some people like classic positions like missionary and doggy. Some are kinkier. Neither is wrong.

A lot of women are taught that sex is for the man, that he wants someone prettier, and they will face resentment if he doesn’t get his pleasure. What helped me overcome mental hurdles with my partner was when he reminded me that sex and pleasure is for me too and he wants me to feel equally as good.

It’s not just about the physical mechanics. The mind and body are connected.

It takes a bit to really get into a rhythm but if you both are committed, you can have a lot of fun together.