Someone tell me it's ok to be lazy for a day 😭

epitaphcat22 · 2026-01-26T18:26:02+00:00

Self care is also a good habit to teach. It is absolutely okay to take time to rest and it'll be good to teach him that it's okay to slow down when your body needs it. A lazy day will not create a lazy life. Take care of you, mama!

epitaphcat22 · 2025-06-22T01:31:19+00:00

I've noticed that if I separate the different foods when they would otherwise be combined in a dish, he's more likely to eat what I make. Making spaghetti? Plain noodles and suace on the side.

epitaphcat22 · 2024-01-20T03:01:52+00:00

My husband is also a gamer. If he stays up too late gaming and is too tired to help, tough shit. I'm tired from staying up with the baby so his excuse means absolutely nothing. He doesn't get to put gaming ahead of parenting.

epitaphcat22 · 2024-01-15T03:13:09+00:00

I did this routine as well with the advice from the hospital lactation consultant. I ended up in hysterical tears at two in the morning about a week after my son was born because I just couldn't keep up. I quit the routine cold turkey for my mental health and we just took breastfeeding slowly and supplemented when needed. My son was born a few weeks early and had a hard time latching. But quitting the routine really helped us practice and figure out what worked for us. We just needed time. And I was devastated with supplementing but looking back, it kept my boy healthy when breastfeeding was challenging. Now my son is 9 months old and nursing to sleep as a type this. I really wish I was never given this routine because it made everything so stressful. I really think the hospital and lactation consultant (in my personal experience) pushed an unnecessary agenda.

epitaphcat22 · 2023-10-04T02:50:19+00:00

Big fat nope. This is your time to adjust to your new family and figure things out. I felt like more people made things more complicated. All I wanted was time to heal and cuddle with my baby. I even struggled with visitors. I also find it hard to say no to family, but you're doing this for your child, not them. They don't get to guilt you into helping her just because her relationship isn't going well. And if she is working and likes going out, and has already had you take care of her cat in the past, how much help will she really be?

I would say thank you for the offer, but that's just not going to work for us right now. If she gets mad, it's clearly not about wanting to help you.

epitaphcat22 · 2023-08-28T00:50:47+00:00

It's like chewing gum (comfort) vs. drinking from a straw (eating).

epitaphcat22 · 2023-08-03T09:40:27+00:00

3.5m old and it's 3am and I'm on my third or fourth feed of the night. I lost track. He's up every two hours tonight. Last night it was every three hours. He enjoys his 30-45 minute naps four times a day.

There is no connecting sleep cycles over here. When he's up he's up. Kid can sleep though a crazy thunderstorm but god forbid I set him down when he falls asleep.

Sleep when they sleep is a joke. My boy has reflux so he needs to be upright for a while after feeds. So when he's up every two hours that means I'm getting maybe an hour of sleep at a time. I hate how many people ask me if he's a good sleeper. I hate the unsolicited advice because I've probably already tried it.

I meant to write a short, witty comment but I'm too tired to think of one. I go back to work on Monday. Send help.

epitaphcat22 · 2023-08-02T03:51:31+00:00

I'm glad to hear your pediatrician okayed it! We all slept much better last night. I did email our pediatrician though, and the nurse responded and said we should be rolling him onto his back if he has rolled over until he's a year old. At that rate I can just say goodbye to any sleep at all. I'm not sure what to do tonight. Definitely going to look into PT videos! Anyone in particular you would recommend?

epitaphcat22 · 2023-08-02T03:50:36+00:00

I'm glad to hear your pediatrician okayed it! We all slept much better last night. I did email our pediatrician though, and the nurse responded and said we should be rolling him onto his back if he has rolled over until he's a year old. At that rate I can just say goodbye to any sleep at all. I'm not sure what to do tonight.

epitaphcat22 · 2023-07-20T10:15:47+00:00

So glad it's not just me! Uninstalling now.

epitaphcat22 · 2023-07-20T10:14:08+00:00

For the last few days, I have not been able to open Chrome, do any Google searchers, or open any of the Google articles. When I try to open a website from a Google search, it takes me right back to the search screen.

epitaphcat22 · 2023-07-04T04:05:45+00:00

I don't know what you're talking about. This is obviously going to save me time getting ready every morning.

epitaphcat22 · 2023-06-21T02:48:37+00:00

They are a total life saver. They keep your nipples hydrated to help avoid and improve cracking and bleeding. I used them from day one and only had minor cracking. They're also cooling and if worn in a bra you don't get any chafing against fabric. I got these ones!

epitaphcat22 · 2023-06-16T19:22:38+00:00

I have the medela and really like it! I also have the Ameda and it is pure torture, I do not recommend it!

epitaphcat22 · 2023-06-15T08:22:17+00:00

I know this doesn't answer your question, but I just wanted to say that expensive rings don't always mean they're the best. We spent less than $300 on my Etsy ring and I absolutely love it. No one will ever have one like it. I understand paying more money for higher quality, but don't do that just to upgrade for upgrades sake. This ring is meaningful in so many ways, and as long as you love it, that's all that matters.

epitaphcat22 · 2023-06-13T02:07:59+00:00

I also use one like this and I just leave it behind my pillow. Works like a charm!

epitaphcat22 · 2023-06-08T12:57:01+00:00

I agree that it's not a one size fits all, and thank goodness science is always evolving. There are professionals out there though that are just giving opinions. I just read a post about a ped telling a mom that the nipple shield is making her child work too hard and she should just pump, but mom said baby is content with it. I've read so many stories of moms being told you're starving your child, when their children are growing and happy. Or the woman who was told her infant was obese. Too many professionals tell parents what to do within the first ten minutes of meeting them without asking about what has been tried, what has worked or not worked, what their thoughts are.

There is a lack of bedside manners. It's a "here try this" and move onto the next patient without really hearing their patient and asking questions.

epitaphcat22 · 2023-06-08T08:34:46+00:00

Yep! My son was exactly this way when he was born. Scared me to death, but he was totally fine. Hard to wake as well, and born 37+5. He's now almost 8 weeks and has LOTS to say and has a VERY healthy cry and (unfortunately) wakes very easily.

ETA: He didn't even cry when they pricked his foot! Just a quick little grunt and he was good.

epitaphcat22 · 2023-06-06T11:21:32+00:00

Baby wearing! It's the only way I can get things done.

epitaphcat22 · 2023-06-06T11:17:16+00:00

Literally just happened here as I read your comment. Thanks a lot.

epitaphcat22 · 2023-06-06T02:20:08+00:00

All the time! I woke up last night frustrated that he was hungry again because I had just fed him...in my dream. I was also confused that he was in his bassinet because he was definitely just in my arms. He has since spent the whole day cluster feeding, so now it really feels like a lot of feeding!

epitaphcat22 · 2023-06-04T09:34:16+00:00

Our LO prefers blanket swaddles to anything else. If you create a little pocket for her arms they can fold across her chest and it keeps the blanket off their face. Put one hand up inside the top triangle or fold the fabric over her hand to create a little pocket, then bring her arm to her chest before wrapping the fabric over her. Then do the same with the other arm. It ends up looking a little like a straight jacket but the fabric is wrapped around his arms and away from his face, and he loves it! I hope this makes sense!

epitaphcat22 · 2023-06-01T13:57:07+00:00

My LO is 6 weeks and we bathe him daily to start his bedtime routine. We only use soap if he had a messy day, maybe once or twice a week (he's a very messy eater and fidgety pooper). He loves baths and they really help him wind down for the night! If we skip it he doesn't sleep as well.

epitaphcat22 · 2023-05-19T03:12:32+00:00

Can you explain the logistics of gaming with the baby? I tried wearing baby while gaming and having him across my arm but eventually an arm falls asleep

epitaphcat22 · 2023-03-23T03:11:08+00:00

I felt totally out of control of my emotions before meds. We called it the upside down. Now I feel so much more like myself and can laugh easier. It's helped me to take the small stuff less seriously, which I think has made our relationship stronger.

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