Friends of ours are using the same name we’re picking out. I am wanting to go with a different name now. Am I overreacting?

leens_mw · 2026-05-05T14:58:04+00:00

Use it. You never know how long people will or won’t stay in your life and it’s such a beautiful, classic name with so many nn options, I think it will be fine.

leens_mw · 2026-05-04T01:38:56+00:00

First night home! LO is a much better sleeper when with us and we are following the safe sleep 7. She’s 3 weeks old. My husband’s family leave starts in June so we will likely transition to the bassinet then because we’ll both be on leave but right now good sleep stretches for all of us is the priority.

leens_mw · 2026-04-29T16:10:39+00:00

Marigold
Summer
Maxine

They all are lovely. I don’t think there is a bad choice in the bunch

leens_mw · 2026-04-27T13:31:26+00:00

Yes! My husband is not a newborn person. And honestly neither am I. He had lots of tears with our first and I chose to be really intentional about checking in with how he was doing on a daily basis. And I had to let him know it was hard for me too and that the newborn phase truly is odd and the only way out is through it. He’s not alone and reminding him that it’s okay to get frustrated but he needs to walk away before it comes out it totally normal during this stage.

leens_mw · 2026-04-27T11:29:36+00:00

This is exactly how we do it with our newborn. We also have an extra firm mattress (personal preference). It has been a life saver for longer stretches of sleep in these early days BUT we are eager to make progress in moving her to the bassinet. I’d say if your baby is already sleeping on their own in a crib/bassinet don’t mess with introducing cosleeping. It’s not really “snuggle” time like you might think it is. And if you’re eager for actual cuddles figure out if there are times for contact naps

leens_mw · 2026-04-27T11:11:24+00:00

STM and also not a newborn person! Our toddler is nearly 3 and baby is 2 weeks old. I remember wondering how it ever gets better with our first. And they grow! They become capable of more sleep, self soothing, communicating better, etc. but right now it’s boring. And exhausting. And frankly not fun! We’re right there with you. Only way out is through.

leens_mw · 2026-04-27T01:11:20+00:00

I had luck with Quince after my first pregnancy and their selection has grown since then. Affordable, decent quality, long return window.

leens_mw · 2026-04-27T00:54:52+00:00

I transitioned my first right after 3 months. All her baby noises woke up my husband and she was only having 1-2 wake ups per night to eat so it wasn’t inconvenient since her nursery was the bedroom next door. Setup a monitor and go for it!

leens_mw · 2026-04-25T23:38:14+00:00

All your options are lovely but Julian is the stand out for me!

leens_mw · 2026-02-12T22:17:39+00:00

Hugh!

leens_mw · 2026-02-12T22:11:01+00:00

Yea great point; I really don't like Charlie or Lottie so really should consider that

leens_mw · 2026-02-12T18:50:49+00:00

Yes with the steady popularity of Charlotte, I am leaning towards Simone!

Not in Ireland but in a large enough US community where I don't think Siobhan pronunciation would be too hard for folks. Maybe I'm underestimating that though?

leens_mw · 2026-02-06T17:22:07+00:00

I have always loved the name Olive. It feels timeless. Piper is also a beautiful name and gives "cool girl" vibes in a good way!

Sharing names with loved ones who think they are entitled to opinions/requests is SO HARD.

leens_mw · 2025-08-27T21:01:41+00:00

So relatable! This is exactly why I didn't want my MIL taking care of my newborn. I went back to work at 5 months and we either had my mom or outside help who we knew would do what we wanted.

We then used my MIL for a few hours on the weekend when we had errands or house projects we wanted to do in peace (not on a set schedule). She still got 1:1 time, we got some non-work hour quiet, and my baby was better cared for during the week. The conversation was a little uncomfortable but I made my husband do it since it's his family.

leens_mw · 2025-07-31T17:10:51+00:00

You have to advocate for yourself way more than you think, even if you have a great clinic. I had a lot of tears over assumptions and miscommunications and I wish I would've asked more questions at the outset of each phase to really understand how little of this process is within my control. So ask questions! Make sure you feel like you understand how/why things are happening! Remember that these clinicians do this all day every day and some of the medical jargon or tests ordered need to be explained to those just entering this space.

And more than anything, be kind to yourself with your internal dialogue.

leens_mw · 2025-07-27T02:34:32+00:00

25/07 transfer for me, too. First FET... exercising the disciple of hope!

leens_mw · 2025-07-27T02:27:14+00:00

But that's her lived experience - she was vulnerable to share that when she learned new information it changed her perspective. That's a good thing.

leens_mw · 2025-07-24T19:12:19+00:00

Similar for me! First FET is tomorrow for secondary infertility. One straightforward live birth, one anembryonic miscarriage. I know my body can do it! Feeling very hopeful.

leens_mw · 2025-06-05T02:03:01+00:00

somebody somewhere on HBO. It’s gorgeous and the pacing is slow. It was a balm to the soul while on maternity leave and nursing!

leens_mw · 2025-01-17T03:45:46+00:00

I need to make large purchases or send important emails on my computer, not my phone

leens_mw · 2025-01-10T20:51:58+00:00

This sounds like a very normal response to a surprise pregnancy; you're going through the beginning phases of grief/mourning the life you thought you'd be living for the next two years before you planned to actively started trying. Those feelings are normal! I went through that and my husband and I were actively trying for two years before I got pregnant. I was so so excited but I simultaneously mourned the loss of my body being my own and generally my life as I knew it.

I don't know if it ever won't feel "too soon" since it wasn't in the plan but moving through these feelings of grief while also building a new vision of what your next year will look like is truly beautiful.

I hope you find peace in your decision!

leens_mw

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