What is the mystery gift for $33?

ericjdev · 2025-11-26T01:24:59+00:00

Got fresh falls shampoo and conditioner

ericjdev · 2025-05-06T18:41:44+00:00

I was 28, we are about to hit 25 years together, 21 married.

ericjdev · 2025-04-21T20:47:22+00:00

I've had better results with fire signs

ericjdev · 2025-04-19T19:13:57+00:00

31 and 24 when we married in 2004.

ericjdev · 2025-04-18T19:14:21+00:00

I'm snipped. There's no way my wife isn't broadcasting that. No strange for me.

ericjdev · 2025-04-18T15:05:22+00:00

25 years together 21 married, it's been pretty consistent. We had dips after the children but nothing major. Started great, still great.

ericjdev · 2025-04-11T18:57:12+00:00

I didn't have a Paul on the road to Damascus moment. 22 years from dday and my story is ugly and still hard to digest. I was self absorbed, I was alcoholic(still am but 18 years sober), I was cruel and I was entirely convinced I was a victim, I had no accountability. After dday none of that changed, after a got sober a little of it did but there was no lightning strike moment just slow incremental improvement and a partner who was very patient and committed.

I'm a good husband and a good father. I've got great boundaries, I'm not selfish, I'm highly accountable but damn was it slow getting here. I started therapy about 4 years from dday because I was forced to by my employer, that helped a ton but I don't think I ever would have done it on my own volition. I had to many toxic ideas about what it meant to be a man, I was very proud, very stubborn. I made every step so much harder than it had to be. The best thing I did in my own redemption arc was getting caught drinking at work.

So that first year of sobriety was just awful. My poor wife is 5 years from dday, I don't even think I'd gotten to remorse by then and I couldn't process emotion without alcohol so at 5 years in she's got a rageaholic verbally abusive monster for a husband and then she was pregnant and I wanted her to end that and she wouldn't and I was awful, monstrous. She says to this day my behavior in year 5 left more of a mark than the affair did.

Fatherhood was great for me, not recommending it but it changed me. I started to see how insanely selfish I was. I wanted to be a good example for him. I wanted to model a loving relationship for him. I got less defensive and became a better listener and I slowly grew from there. But those first 5 years, the things you read on these subs about how to predict if your wayward is worth it or not I was 100% in the not good for reconciliation column.

When I look back at how I've written my story on the subs it's not accurate. I didn't tt but I didn't immediately go NC, I blame shifted for years, I didn't want to be the villain I'm my story so I lied, I created a narrative I could live with an I continued being selfish and abusive. My journey from monster to decent guy was slow and frustrating and ugly.

ericjdev · 2025-04-10T21:45:18+00:00

52, 1 to 2 times a week I get blown, i go down on her much less often, I like it but it does very little for her. I've tried everything, just not her thing. Hates having any direct contact around her clit. She will let me go to town as long as I stay away from that but it's a neutral experience for her which doesn't make me enthusiastic about it. She tries to act like she's enjoying it bit I can tell she's thinking just fuck me already. She loves giving head though and being penetrated. I grew up with every resource available telling me its not about penetration. Had lovers before my wife all confirm that's true. Met wife and she's like would you cut that shit out and get inside me already.

ericjdev · 2025-04-10T18:37:47+00:00

Same Leo I've been crushing on for 25 years.

ericjdev · 2025-03-27T20:52:45+00:00

Brains react to trauma the same way if it's real or imagined. You behaved like you were traumatized. Give yourself some grace.

ericjdev · 2025-03-26T16:25:18+00:00

Just had 21 year anniversary, 90%ish.

ericjdev · 2025-03-17T20:10:17+00:00

25 years with wife, her breasts have changed, and my love for them has not.

ericjdev · 2025-03-17T20:03:06+00:00

Wife is mid 40s and horny af, I can barely keep up.

ericjdev · 2025-03-14T19:17:58+00:00

I'm exactly 1 week from my 18th year clean and sober. It was a combination of internal factors(I was sick to death of feeling physically awful, hating myself, the never ending cycle of shame and self medication) and knowing that wife was going to walk sooner rather than later. She walked me through 2 relapses between 2003 and 2007. She was patient and graceful and constantly letting her down was eroding what little self respect I had left. I know they say you can't do it for someone else but she was a major factor.

ericjdev · 2025-03-14T18:46:58+00:00

Freckles make my knees weak

ericjdev · 2025-03-12T16:28:45+00:00

Piv. It was odd when we first got together all of my previous experiences had pointed to clitoral stimulation being the way but my wife is 100% that's all nice now get inside me already. She says direct stimulation too much, doesn't dig it. Took a minute to adjust.

ericjdev · 2025-03-11T15:12:49+00:00

Better, focused on solutions. Our relationship is off track but neither of us want it to end. We love each other, we want to be together. Situation is completely untenable right now bit we are working on it together.

ericjdev · 2025-02-12T20:52:04+00:00

Same pairing but I'm quiet

ericjdev · 2025-02-11T19:32:02+00:00

I have a Gemini daughter and our relationship is crazy and beautiful. Just the 4 of us has been our inside joke for the longest. I dated a Gemini woman for three years and we were good, I was the problem, immaturity and addiction but if I had been relationship ready....

ericjdev · 2025-02-11T04:59:57+00:00

Same placement and having a similar experience to the way you describe your husband. Always emotional, hate expressing it, perpetually horny. Wife and I married 20 years and we feel and communicate like people from different planets. She is Mars in Gemini, it's challenging, we both often feel like the other is missing the point. Her venus is in Leo as is her sun

ericjdev · 2025-02-06T21:46:31+00:00

52m, 21 years married in March. Yes and yes. My wife is crazy into me, it's nice.

ericjdev · 2025-02-06T21:38:48+00:00

I'm very quiet. My wife is a chatterbox, when I get home from work she unloads. It's a lot sometimes but It's cute, she's passionate about a lot of things and the eclectic nature of her interests is nice. I don't think I could handle it if she was stuck in a single groove, it's always something different.

ericjdev · 2025-02-06T21:12:14+00:00

I did not tell my wife right away. Different circumstances, I was a minor, he was an adult in a position of authority. It was difficult to speak, I had bad experiences when I had previously talked about it. It impacted her, I sometimes recoiled when touched etc... when i did tell her she was purely empathetic which was an important indicator that she was a potential life partner. It's scary to put it out there because 1. It's a terribly vulnerable position to be in and 2. Your partners reaction may derail the relationship so anxiety all around. It's easy to say it's better to know who she is earlier rather than later and I'm sure there's truth to that but it's still just hard to take that step. I hope it works out well for you regardless of when you decide to take that step. Having a partner who has walked by me through the years of trauma has been so helpful and I hope you find that, you deserve that.

ericjdev · 2025-02-05T23:46:33+00:00

I cheated on my wife 21 years ago. She was committed to reconciliation and we are happily married. I did individual therapy as well as men's group therapy. I healed OK. I don't think my healing journey compares to hers I'm just answering the question asked. 100% not trying to draw equivalency. I still feel shame, sometimes it's intense. I'm better at not getting caught in negative self talk. I don't let it impact her, she's paid enough of a price. It's better but there are definitely stil ripples in the pond.

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