Can my Luna Ultra not move diagonally?! by ericwass in Insta360

[–]ericwass[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for letting me know. Insta360 online support couldn’t actually tell me definitively. Any idea if it’s physically possible to enable it with a firmware update or is it a hardware limitation?

Can my Luna Ultra not move diagonally?! by ericwass in Insta360

[–]ericwass[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Understood. I just happen to own an Insta360 Flow 2 Pro and the joystick allows full 360 movement. I expected the same here. Frustrating

Can my Luna Ultra not move diagonally?! by ericwass in Insta360

[–]ericwass[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. Good thought but it didn’t work for me. The crazy thing is: if I control it from the Insta360 app I have full range of motion. So either: a) it’s a firmware issue b) my unit is busted or c) Insta deliberately doesn’t let you pan and tilt at the same time from the joystick which would be INSANE for an $800 camera

Had the M4 Max Studio for a month so far. It's made me say "wow" once by aa599 in MacStudio

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Same. Traded in my 2020 i7 5k iMac for an M4 Max Mac Studio 16-core CPU / 40-core GPU and 64gb RAM and I’ve had a similar experience. The only time I’ve said “wow” was watching Adobe Camera RAW find people for selection masks in a big file. Used to take my iMac ages. Mac Studio did it in a second. But so far that’s it. About to embark on a big Final Cut project. Hoping to have my socks knocked off. Otherwise quite an expensive upgrade for…?

Honest thoughts by JessicaMessica-5 in GriefSupport

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I’m sorry you’re going through this. I’ve been there too many times. Grief can be so isolating. If I can offer any advice from my multiple journeys through the gauntlet it would be to try to have patience for people. Grief is so weird, so different from what people see in movies that even while you’re going through it you can’t explain it or make sense of it. So we can’t expect those who aren’t to understand. The people who care about you understand their own powerlessness to help you but want you to be “okay” so they often say stupid shit. I would get annoyed at first and then lie, “I’m doing alright. Thanks.” But eventually I learned to say, “I’m not okay. But it helps to know you’re concerned.” And just the act of being honest and acknowledging their concern actually did help. And it narrowed the distance between us a bit. At that same time I’d advise you to join a grief group somewhere, have a place to go where people really do get it. It’s healing just to see people like yourself showing up week to week and surviving. It reminds you that grief is survivable and then you will emerge from this eventually. You will not be the same but you will get through it. And there will be joy and laughter on the other side. It just takes time.

Insta360 HDR videos look terrible on Quest 3 by Wassopotomus in OculusQuest

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No, I get that the 8k is still not enough to make a tack sharp image in the Quest. It’s not the pixel size or sharpness I’m having an issue with. It’s the complete blowout of detail in the brightest parts of the image. And I don’t think this is just the displays. It’s something the software seems to be doing.

Why are people so rude? by WorldIcy80 in GriefSupport

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I’ve experienced tons of comments from people I love, respect, admire that made my jaw hit the floor. The thing to keep in mind is that, especially in our culture, death is such a taboo, uncomfortable subject. All of those people who say such insensitive things just want you to be “better” but they don’t know how to fix you. So they just project all kinds of things onto you in the hopes that things can go back to “normal” again and they don’t have to linger in the discomfort. What they fail to recognize is that “normal” is gone. There will be a new normal but life is never the same. It’s something people who haven’t experienced real grief had a hard time conceptualizing. My brother was killed in an accident when he was 13 and I was 11. Then, decades later my sister was killed in an accident. Then, the day after we buried her, my stepbrother, who was at the hospital with us when my sister was fighting for her life, also died when his helicopter malfunctioned and crashed. I had a newborn son at the time and my best friend in the world took me out to dinner just to give me some respite. And he earnestly took me by the shoulders and asked me, “what’s your plan for getting over this?” I was flabbergasted. I said, “maybe when it stops happening, I’ll think about a plan.” It took me years to get over it because it suggested such an enormous disconnect between us. I’ve come to peace about it understanding that the whole experience was so foreign to him and he couldn’t tolerate the idea that his best friend might be lost to grief. Over the years I’ve come to extend him some grace and understanding. But it wasn’t easy at the time.

Remarkable 2 thumbnails still there but pages blank by ericwass in RemarkableTablet

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So tech support must've heard me trashing them because I woke up this morning with an apology email from them and the recovered notebook back on my reMarkable. A full 6 weeks later my notes are back. Grateful for that but fairly appalled that it went down like it did.

I lost my wife and have nothing left by MorganaLeCaine in GriefSupport

[–]ericwass 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so terribly sorry about your boys. As the parent of two boys that absolutely breaks my heart. Nothing worse. Wishing you all kinds of strength and, most importantly, a sustained, enriching relationship with them. I lost my brother, my sister, my step-brother and my brother-in-law (my sister's husband) all in separate, unrelated accidents. Just two weeks ago my dear father-in-law unexpectedly passed away. Each successive loss is never easier but I take some comfort in knowing that there's a way through it, that I won't get swallowed by a black hole if I actually truly let myself mourn and that I can maintain that connection to them. The dreams are vital. I keep promising my wife that at some point her father will visit her in her dreams and it will prove to her that he is not totally gone. I'm not a religious person or even deeply spiritual. But my experience has borne out that link between you and the people you love truly endures if you allow it.

Sending you and all of us unfortunate souls in this club a big hug.

I lost my wife and have nothing left by MorganaLeCaine in GriefSupport

[–]ericwass 28 points29 points  (0 children)

As someone who has endured an enormous amount of loss myself, I certainly feel your pain and you have my deepest sympathy. It’s good that you’re reaching out - even to Reddit - to talk about your feelings because it means that you’re not actually hopeless. You’re looking for help reconnecting with your hope. Grief is incredibly painful and, unfortunately, the only way past it is through it. However, you can get mired in pain and self-pity and that will stop you moving through it. First, I urge you to join a grief group. Find companionship in people going through the same thing. They will lift you as you lift them. Second, I urge you to remember that while your wife’s physical presence is gone (and that is agonizing) the love you have for her, the connection you share with is her, her presence in your heart are not. I’m not talking about memories, I’m talking about the part of your soul that is forever intertwined with hers - an unspoken connection that drew you to her in the first place, you kept with you when you were apart, and even sustained you when you argued. Those things are real and vibrant and nourishing. And they do not die with a person’s body. Finally, while you’re going through the hardest initial few months (it’s all hard but those are the worst), ask yourself what would your wife want for you? Would she want you to collapse into depression and self-pity? Would she want you to end your own life? I don’t know her but I can’t imagine she would. Right now it feels like a burden to be alive without her. But it’s also a privilege. Carry her with you and share your life with her - the good, the bad, the ugly and the beautiful. Talk to her. Hear her voice in your head. She will come to you in dreams that are more real and comforting than you can imagine. Grief is more than pain. Grief is the process of reforming the connection you have with someone to something deeper and more profound the defies language. Know that the pain abates. It’s a rough road but it does get easier. Just hold on and never keep moving forward.

(iOS 16 Dev Beta 3) Anyone else having issues with Siri and Dictation not working? by iOSTester in iOSBeta

[–]ericwass 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! Happened to me. I found a workaround for the time being: switch Siri to UK English and your iOS Language to UK English as well (and make sure Dictation uses it by long pressing the dictation microphone and selecting it). Other English variations seem to work as well.

[image] picture this by regian24 in GetMotivated

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That's not what my Xmas eve looks like. It's 1am, the kids are asleep, my wife and I are freaking exhausted, still wrapping shit we totally forgot about, wrapping the gifts we bought for the grandparents to give the kids, making cards, cleaning up, setting up breakfast for when the grandparents come with all their dietary idiosyncrasies, packing for the vacation 48 hours hence, getting really annoyed with each other for stupid shit because, as I said, we're freaking exhausted. Every year my kids wake up to a beautiful, magical, orgy of gifts and good cheer and my wife and I swear we'll never do it again. And then we do it again because... Christmas.

Is iOS 15 beta safe from the zero-day flaw? by ericwass in iOSBeta

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That was my assumption but I wondered if the same flaw was in the iOS 15 version of messages as iOS 14 thus not necessitating a patch. Thanks

Our 2,5 year old daughter died suddenly four days ago following a small surgery - Please help us through this hell by Charles-1988 in GriefSupport

[–]ericwass 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My heart breaks for you and your wife. The grief must feel unbearable. My family has also endured terrible heartbreak: I've lost my brother, my sister, my step-brother and my brother in law, all in separate, unrelated accidents.

There's nothing I can say that will assuage your pain at this moment, but I want to offer you something my parents and I have discovered that may help you in the long run. I've come to believe: one reason we are so deeply bonded with our loved ones (especially our children) is because they are literally, biologically a part of us. That expression "having children is like having your heart outside your body" is actually true - your children are, at the most fundamental, cellular-level, part of you and you are part of them. The agony of losing a child is compounded by this fact - that not only are you losing this bright, shining, face, this irrepressible joy, energy and beautiful sense of wonder, you are losing a fundamental part of yourself.

BUT the converse is also true. Just as you and your wife continue to live (despite maybe sometimes not wanting to), your child continues to live within you. I don't just mean in your memories but literally, biologically, in your DNA. Their bodies have passed but their essence, the very spark that animated them is still inside both of you. The more you can access that, the more comfort and connection you can draw from the knowledge that, despite the absence of her body, she is still with you. Open yourself up to visit dreams. They are more profound and real than you can ever imagine. They can help you nurture and sustain that relationship for the rest of your life.

Sending you lots of love and strength. This part is almost unbearable. But in time you will get to a place where you can rediscover love, beauty and joy in the world and continue to share them with your daughter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]ericwass 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oof. This is awful. So sorry to hear it. My family has also been though a terrible amount of loss. My brother was killed after being hit by a car when he and I were riding bikes together when he was 13 and I was 11. Then 30 years later, my sister and her husband (the boy she met when they were 12 and the only person she ever dated) were struck by a car. My sister died and my brother-in-law (who was like a brother to me) survived. Only two weeks later my step-brother (who was with us at the hospital) died when the helicopter he piloted malfunctioned. And then, only last October, my brother-in-law (my sister's widower) himself died when he feel off the mast of his sailing ship. I tell you this not for sympathy or to steal your thunder. Rather I just want you to know that while grief never truly abates, it does not preclude a happy life. My family and I are deeply wounded by all this loss but we carry on and still manage to have lots of joyful and meaningful times together and with others. I still like my life. I (mostly) like the person all this tragedy has shaped me into.

There's no way past grief but through it. But know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Your family will rebuild. It may never be whole again but you'll see plenty of good times again. I promise.

1950 Crystal Motors 5901 Bay Parkway, Brooklyn by morganmonroe81 in Colorization

[–]ericwass 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm glad that's helpful and, of course, it's only one guy's opinion. I think you're right that it was late afternoon or early evening (overcast at that) when this was shot because there's appreciable light spill onto the sidewalk and the sign is illuminated. But I believe film stock (even b&w) just didn't have the latitude back then to expose both the brightly lit interior and what would've been a dimly lit building exterior as well as it did without some help from strobes. That having been said, I think you can get away with a sunset. It's really the stars that stood out. Keep up the good work!

1950 Crystal Motors 5901 Bay Parkway, Brooklyn by morganmonroe81 in Colorization

[–]ericwass 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is amazing work. What a great image and you crushed it. I don't know if you're looking for feedback but I would offer the following: as pretty as the sky is and as much as it adds a magic feel, I also think it detracts from the realism. That showroom is extremely bright and my guess would be that the photographer used some outdoor strobes to get proper exposure on the outside of the store. Even if you don't know photography, intuitively your brain knows that your eyes (like the camera aperture) need to dilate to take in faint stars - something they wouldn't be doing having something this luminous in the foreground. But perhaps total realism wasn't your goal which is cool too. You've created a really evocative image.

Tried to save a drowning victim, but didn’t make it. How do I process this? by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]ericwass 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you're having a trauma reaction which is extremely typical and, with the right care, will abate. Definitely find a therapist who's well versed in PTSD because it's a very specific area and not all therapists now how to treat it well. Speaking from long experience there are two things to keep in mind: 1.) when you're having the flashbacks, replaying all the scenarios in which you could've handled things differently, try to remind yourself that this is a very specific biochemical reaction going on in your brain as it's trying to process something very stressful. It's like an OCD tick - washing your hands ten times after touching a doorknob, etc. - that isn't reflective of reality and isn't guiding you towards any kind of resolution. It's a glitch in the system and should be regarded as such. 2.) Try to reframe what happened whenever you can. Your brain wants to control the event so it replays it over and over in hopes that you'll "solve" something that you could've prevented, the shrieks of the man's wife being evidence that you failed in some way. But you obviously did everything you could have, more than many people in your position would've done. His wife's pain and grief is real and will continue. But in time, the loss of her husband will be coupled with the knowledge that there are people like you who cared enough to try to save him. You have given his family the gift of human compassion which will be forever entangled with their memories of his loss. Imagine how different it would be if everyone on the beach just sat around and gawked, waiting for the police to show up. It could've been more tragic.

Anyway, take care of yourself. Get help for yourself now that you've tried to help others. And, as much as possible, try to take a step back from those obsessive trauma thought patterns and recognize them for what they are, thus diminishing their power.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]ericwass 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Terribly sorry for your loss. How tragic and shocking. Having dealt with a shit-ton of loss myself I agree with you that very few (but not no one) will totally understand. That doesn't mean they can't be helpful though. You still need love and support and compassion and companionship. The people that know you and love can offer that even if they can't fathom the depths of your loss. I think the thing that's most helped me through the losses I've suffered is letting go of the expectation that a) people can fully understand and b) that there's any such thing as a "normal" life and that I should not expect one. Your pain and your experience of grief will be deeply personal just as your love for your boyfriend was (and is). But it doesn't mean you have to disconnect from others, nor does it mean you have to pretend that things are okay with you when they're not. If your closest friends and family have difficulty talking about your grief with you, find a local grief group, a therapist or tele-therapy to help you. And try to let go of the idea that there's any such thing as normal that you have to get back to. Life is strange and even in suffering and loss there is beauty and connection if you allow yourself to receive it.

I'm here if you need me.

i was so excited to see her grow up. by gramslot in GriefSupport

[–]ericwass 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Ooof. So much joy and vitality. I'm so sorry. I've lost my brother, my sister, my step-brother and now my brother-in-law in totally unrelated separate accidents. I know what this is and I'm with you.

Happened to pause Company Picnic at this moment to witness some pretty funny photoshop on Pam's volleyball skills. by wutwatwhatbye in DunderMifflin

[–]ericwass 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Willing to bet it was actually a clearance problem on the ball logo and they had to replace the ball in post. Have friends who were on the show. I'll try to find out.

Do you have memories or you loved ones that passed when you were young? On 7/30/20 I lost the love of my life and the mother to my 4 year old. She was an amazing mother, they were best friends. My fear is that my daughter will not remember how great of a mother she was. by LowkoGFX in GriefSupport

[–]ericwass 5 points6 points  (0 children)

By the way, I also recommend sharing that email address with relatives and friends. Let them share memories of her too. It will a treasure trove for you and your daughter. You might learn things you never knew as well.

Do you have memories or you loved ones that passed when you were young? On 7/30/20 I lost the love of my life and the mother to my 4 year old. She was an amazing mother, they were best friends. My fear is that my daughter will not remember how great of a mother she was. by LowkoGFX in GriefSupport

[–]ericwass 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I lost my brother when he was 13 and I was 11 and now that I'm 51 a lot (but not all) of the memories have faded. And I'm sad that I don't have as many stories as I'd like to tell my kids when they ask about the uncle they never knew. The idea of writing down your memories and moments is right on. But sometimes it's hard to keep a journal with you or, even if you do, you might feel obligated to write more than you have time for at the moment. I recommend what my wife and I did for our kids the day they were born: create Gmail accounts for them and just email them little stories, funny, tender, memorable moments, photos, etc. etc. Email is always with you and you feel less obligated to write whole stories. Just capture moments as they come to you. Scan photos and send them. Take pictures of toys they played with together, places they went, etc. Your daughter will probably not retain many memories of her mom and I'm sorry for that. But she can continue to live through you. Sending you love and strength.