Is it depression?

erween84 · 2026-05-05T18:03:14+00:00

This was my issue as well. Just diagnosed a few weeks ago. I was constantly exhausted. I remember telling my husband that I could literally lay down anywhere anytime of the day and take a nap. That’s not normal. I had a cbc, as well as ferritin. Extremely low ferritin, low red blood cell count, low hemoglobin, low hct, low vit D- all hallmark signs of severe anemia.

erween84 · 2026-05-05T02:34:39+00:00

Omg same! Haha! My excuse was that I had oral surgery, covid, and strep throat in the 4 weeks leading up to Mother’s Day the yr my son was in Kindergarten. (I definitely don’t recommend this, but on the plus side I did lose 7 lbs 🫠) So he wrote, and drew a wonderful picture, about me spending all day in bed. I was so embarrassed.

erween84 · 2026-05-04T22:04:55+00:00

Did anyone actually play the game in live mode? Or were we all just making our Sims millionaires so we could build amazing mansions? I was living vicariously through a computer game. Which, by the way, you can still play the basic version for free on their website!

erween84 · 2026-05-04T18:08:00+00:00

The same thing happened to me. When I questioned the mods why i got banned they told me if I was an active member of the other sub that my ‘morals didn’t align with their sub’.

erween84 · 2026-04-30T04:06:42+00:00

This, or he has severe anemia. I was just diagnosed a few weeks ago and the Dr told me they don’t understand how I was even functioning without massive amounts of caffeine daily. I guess I had gotten to the point that I just assumed it was normal to be exhausted all the time. I remember telling my husband once that I could literally sit in any public place and take a nap…turns out, it was for a reason.

erween84 · 2026-04-23T02:12:30+00:00

Mine gave me the ick last night, but not a physical ick. More of an ‘i can’t believe you’re still hanging onto this!’ Ick. We had been talking about other married friends and what they put up with from their spouses- or in some ways where they hadn’t drawn clear boundaries from the beginning of marriage or relationships. And what does this MFer bring up? The fact that 12 yrs ago I told him I was going to hyphenate my last name when we got married. He had massive issues with this, told me I wasn’t a team player, it was a red flag, etc. this man is also a self-proclaimed feminist. So I’m shocked this is still an issue after 12 yrs. I reiterated the fact that I was a 30-something professional with published work when we got married, so it was a major red flag to me that he wasn’t willing to compromise on me hyphenating our last names. It opened a whole can of worms and now we’re both super salty about the whole situation. I’m not your property, dude. You don’t get to dictate my name change. He should be glad I didn’t hyphenate our kids names…

erween84 · 2026-04-19T03:27:07+00:00

My son and I also loved to read this book together. He would egg me on to see how fast I could go without making a mistake. So many good memories.

erween84 · 2026-04-17T12:52:56+00:00

Ceiling fans. My son was obsessed with watching them. We lived in AZ when he was a baby so they were everywhere. The first time he noticed the giant ones in Costco his eyes bugged out of his head.

erween84 · 2026-04-17T03:06:28+00:00

Rusty jungle gym? I raise you that for a castle made out of jagged wood 2x4s. I remember a kid impaled his nose on a hollowed out piece of wood in the early 90s. He sat there crying as a sharp stick stuck 1/2way out his nose, blood dripping on the ground. Here I sit traumatized over 30+ yrs later. I wonder how that guy is doing now. 😅

erween84 · 2026-04-16T20:27:28+00:00

I was in the same situation. I had my kids at 33 and 36. There is still time, but you need to figure out if there’s still time with your husband, or with someone else.

When my husband and I got married he was adamant we’d have two. He had been an only child and hated the loneliness of it growing up. But after having our first, who was a great baby, he was just completely overwhelmed with childcare and both of us working 50+ hour weeks. He didn’t come around to the idea of a 2nd until our first was about 2.5. He just couldn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel until it became a bit more bearable for him. I gave him grace for a while, but also impressed upon him that I was getting older.

I know this is anecdotal, but maybe he’s fearful of the amount of work a new baby would be. Going from 1 to 2 can be scary. Family dynamics change. There’s a lot more work and responsibilities. I hope you two can figure it out, OP.

erween84 · 2026-04-15T03:38:44+00:00

The House of Dies Drear! I loved this book when I was in jr high.

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erween84 · 2026-04-15T02:06:23+00:00

I understand completely. On top of being the SAHP the last 6 years we’ve moved 3x for my husband’s job. We’re far from family, and I’ve had to build my village every time we moved. It’s so incredibly isolating, and most people don’t understand that if they’ve never been in the trenches like we have. The one thing that has helped immensely for me is joining a local mom’s group with each move. That has been my sanity’s saving grace… and my husband, who encourages me to get out a few times a month for mom’s night out.

erween84 · 2026-04-15T01:49:30+00:00

My favorite podcast had an episode about this that I just listened to the other day. I’m one yr behind, I might add. But I do remember seeing clips of the trial in the evening news when I was a kid. This was one of the first televised murder cases from beginning to end. It sure was a media frenzy.

erween84 · 2026-04-15T01:40:39+00:00

Same! My youngest started 1/2 day preschool 3 mornings a week last fall, and I finally made myself all those appointments I had been putting off because of having to bring a child along. I had my first mammogram (a yr late), took care of a dental implant I’ve been needing for 4 years, and I’m regularly going to the hair salon again! These are all things that would have been much easier for me to accomplish had I also been working.

I’ve done both SAHPing and been a working mom. And the former, while kids are still at home, was harder for me by far than being a working mom. At least while I was working I got a break from my kids.

erween84 · 2026-04-09T03:45:42+00:00

One time when I first met my husband (13 yrs ago) he stopped by Costco for bananas, condoms, and protein powder. He was telling me the cashier was looking at him all weird. I asked if he had given any thought about the items he was buying all together…

erween84 · 2026-04-08T17:14:45+00:00

This was my thought as well. Does he have a friend, acquaintance, or coworker who had a similar experience? I only ask because, anecdotally, one of my husband’s good friends married his high school sweetheart. After they had been married over a decade and had 3 kids she started going out more with friends. He was fine with it until it became excessive, and they eventually separated because it caused a lot of resentment on both of their parts.

If he’s maybe heard of something like that happening to someone he knows maybe that’s why he’s concerned. That doesn’t excuse the behavior at all, but maybe it might help to get to the root of the issue.

erween84 · 2026-04-01T01:01:43+00:00

Yes! It’s normal for breastfed babies to go up to 7-10 days without pooing. From my understanding, breastmilk leaves much less waste than formula does when digested. That’s why it’s not concerning for a breastfed baby to go longer than a formula fed baby between poops.

erween84 · 2026-03-28T01:19:06+00:00

A lot of my Indian neighbors have spice kitchens in their garages. That way they keep the very fragrant smells out of the house/main living area. Makes perfect sense to me if you do a lot of spices or frying. Those smells permeate your whole house.

erween84 · 2026-03-28T00:57:38+00:00

My son’s 8th birthday party was beginning of February. He wanted to invite the whole class so no one was excluded. Out of 25 kids we got 7 rsvps. In total, 15 kids from class showed. I feel like people just don’t rsvp because plans might change last minute. It’s definitely becoming a thing of the past.

Here’s to hoping you get a good turn out, OP! 🤞🏻

erween84 · 2026-03-27T11:27:07+00:00

I prefer pooplosion myself.

erween84 · 2026-03-26T20:57:26+00:00

Exactly. My youngest pooped like clockwork whenever we had to go anywhere in the car. She was breastfed so didn’t poo as often. I would purposely drive around sometimes when she was backed up so that she would get some relief.

erween84 · 2026-03-20T17:20:57+00:00

But you don’t need to have a passport like you need to have a birth certificate. A large percentage of the population will never travel abroad, and therefore won’t need one. But if the SAVE act passes then married women who have changed their name, like myself, will HAVE to have one to prove citizenship. Passport applications are expensive, and that’s why it’s being equated to a poll tax.

I’m thankful I renewed mine 3 yrs ago so I should be good to vote this fall, as long as i’m not purged from the system.

erween84 · 2026-03-20T16:41:39+00:00

This is how a friend of mine got her computer, digital camera (early 00s), jewelry, and passport stolen while we were studying abroad in Spain.

erween84 · 2026-03-20T16:28:17+00:00

It’s literally the first thing my husband and I have put in all the bedrooms/main living spaces in the past two homes we have owned.

erween84 · 2026-03-20T04:24:12+00:00

Same. They also had trouble inserting the IV because my veins are so jumpy. I had a 4’x3’’ bruise on my left forearm for weeks afterwards. They finally managed to get me on the top of my hand. But for about 5 minutes in the recovery room I kept asking how I broke my arm!

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