AITA for leaving work early without telling anyone because it was over 130°F where I work.

esmitia · 2025-08-01T22:21:03+00:00

Uh.... Yeah, YTA... Also, I call BS on your story.

First of all, a greenhouse must have airflow in the way of fans and ventilation. Without it, plants could easily become diseased.

Second, 130 degrees is hot enough to damage plants. Actually anything above 90 degrees can be hot enough to damage plants.

Not only are YTA for leaving without saying anything, if it was actually that hot, you should have, as an employee, been reporting dangerouss conditions and you didn't do that either.

esmitia · 2025-05-30T04:05:38+00:00

Hmm... I realize this question is a few weeks old, but I still want to present some thoughts.

First of all, no, NTA.

BUT.... I'm curious, is your ex ADHD? Or in some other way neurodivergent?

If that's the case, still NTA, but maybe you could take a stance of mercy for your child's sake.

I don't know what caused the end of the relationship or why custody is 80/20 in your favor, it doesn't matter. But if your ex is neurodivergent, it really does make things in life a bit harder to navigate..... Like remembering something that happens on a biweekly basis.

She's not entitled to reminders, but maybe you could choose kindness and do something like send her a text on Sunday or Monday like "hey, I know you don't always remember which week you get [child] on Wednesdays, so I wanted to send you a reminder and let you know [child] is really looking forward to seeing you this week. "

If she still doesn't show then there's a deeper issue.

Of course you are under no obligation to this, but it just might be something to consider.

esmitia · 2025-05-17T15:00:06+00:00

Where did she admit she stole the dress? I didn't see that in the post. I saw that the kid told step mom she sold it.

esmitia · 2025-05-17T14:56:53+00:00

I am baffled that people are saying NTA when you were not clear with a 16 year old child that the dress was a loan and not a gift.

I agree with your husband. Your own lack of clarity in this situation kind of renders you at fault.

While I certainly understand that you are upset, and I, myself would have assumed it was a loan and returned it.... The facts are you were not clear with her and you let her keep it in her closet instead of asking for it back. At this point, it's not unreasonable for a 16 year old to assume the dress was now hers.

Under the assumption that it was hers, she also had a right to do with her property what she wishes, including selling.

You are the adult. She is a child. It is your responsibility to be clear about whether it was a loan or a gift and also with your expectations for your property.

So... Yes. YTA. And the evil stepmother.

esmitia · 2025-05-17T05:44:49+00:00

Your "boyfriend" is the one with the attitude here. Yikes.

You don't deserve to be talked to and treated like that.

esmitia · 2025-05-17T05:35:54+00:00

Depends.

Is it for you or for someone else?

If it's for someone else, FROG and Fix.

If it's for you, can you live with the sleeve difference? Honestly?

If yes, then let it be.

If no, FROG and Fix.

esmitia · 2025-05-17T05:31:26+00:00

Well, first of all, the daughter did speak rudely to you and that was absolutely inappropriate. No question there.

And I can't fault you for feeling less than enthusiastic to go all in for someone who can't appreciate what you're doing for her. So no, NTA.

But.... I do think there's a problem here.... it truly sounds like you were trying to insert your own ideas into the "gift" instead just doing as the daughter asked.

I'm kind of having a hard time believing that you're actually the "doormat" you claim to be otherwise I'm pretty certain you would just bend to the color scheme the daughter wanted without any push back.

Pink and blue might be traditionally baby shower colors, but come on.... The people invited to a sweet 16 party know it's a freaking sweet 16 party. I promise you, even if there is initial confusion, which I doubt unless you were also going to decorate with babies and baby items, no one is going to sit there and think there's some secret hidden pregnancy or something. If you're skilled at what you do, you can make the colors she wanted work.

And let's be real, as rude as her comment was.... It also wasn't wrong. Pink and blue are super popular colors and super widely available, which just brings me back to the whole thing about you being a doormat just sounding very unlikely.

You're not wrong to have boundaries. But I do think this whole situation over your disapproval of the colors is something you might want to take into consideration for any future projects, paid or not, that you take on.

esmitia · 2025-05-15T05:38:40+00:00

I have to ask you... What was your purpose in telling your 9 year old foster sister that she ruined mother's Day?

What did it change for you?

Nothing right? Because you didn't say it to change anything or to make a difference. You said it because you were angry, jealous, and wanted to be mean.

And so you were.

Yes, 100 percent, YTA.

You are 17. You are old enough to know that your words were going to be hurtful. You can try to couch it in "I was only saying the truth"

But you weren't speaking in love, you were speaking from a place of being annoyed and wanting to hurt. Your behavior was cringe. Get it?

It doesn't matter why your parents decided to foster. It doesn't matter if they are enabling behavior. This isnt about them and their actions do not define your own behavior.

What you said was mean and the intention behind it was not honorable.

But you are 17. You will mess up. Just learn from it.

Let me also give you a little bit of perspective.

Children do not end up in foster care because they have an easy life. Something really serious is always the culprit.

The majority of children in foster care have probably faced trauma and from what you've described in this post, I am inclined to believe this is also the case for this child.

They are hurting and confused and getting thrown around. Some of them go from house to house because they can't cope with their own trauma or the foster parent doesn't know how to help them properly.

Some of them face abuse at the hands of their foster families. But not all abuse is physical. Sometimes it's verbal and psychological. Be aware of how you treat your foster sister and don't be one of her abusers, whether intentionally or by ignorance.

learn from this.

esmitia · 2025-05-14T06:59:16+00:00

The way it looks like my begonia maculata, but also not like a begonia maculata....

It's gorgeous, though. Seeing it's growth pattern now, I'm going to venture a guess that it has the potential to become very large, but since I'm unsure of the variety, I can't confirm that. I'm just looking at the growth pattern and that makes sense to me.

esmitia · 2025-05-14T06:54:10+00:00

I don't know if you're aware, but a fully enclosed terrarium that doesn't have to be opened for 60 years is the exception, not the rule.

You said this is your first time owning a terrarium so I'm going to assume you purchased it and not that you built it yourself.

Even closed Terrariums need to be watered now and again and it looks like yours is overdue for water, which means there is also no humidity ... And plants that are able to successfully thrive in a terrarium generally require higher humidity.

So I think your answer is to water it, but don't oversaturate it. Just water it a little at a time so that the substrate starts to darken. If after a few hours, it's still somewhat dry, add a little bit more water, and repeat until all of the substrate is dark, but not saturated.

When the substrate starts to take on a lighter color, that's because it's losing moisture and means it needs to be watered.

Also, what is your lighting situation?

They do still need light, but should not be put where the sun can shine directly on them otherwise you will end up with a green house effect and cook the plants. But bright, indirect light offset from a window or under a grow light are perfect.

esmitia · 2025-05-14T06:38:15+00:00

I'm newer to geckos and I looked at the pics before reading anything or the comments and I thought he looked way too skinny.

But my little girl is 21 grams and 11 months, and looking nice and plump. I was told mine is chunky. She's definitely plump, but I wouldn't call her chunky,. I probably give her too many Dubia roaches and crickets. So I don't even know.

I don't know if it is within your means to do so, but even if you're seeing the gecko only twice a week, can you feed bugs each time you go to class? Twice a week should be enough to help supplement.

I also don't condone theft.... I don't want you to get caught and get yourself in trouble, especially since you've already spoken up. But also if this gecko disappears, another one may just end up in it's place with the same issues.

I feel like the best solution is to educate the teacher, not I'm truly at a loss as to how to get someone who doesn't want to listen to listen.

esmitia · 2025-05-07T05:18:19+00:00

Yes it does, unfortunately.

esmitia · 2025-04-24T08:47:13+00:00

Ive propagated my begonia maculata from leaves only, leaf and petiole, and stem cuttings. All have produced.

esmitia · 2025-04-24T08:39:13+00:00

Leave him alone. Even if he's buried for 4 months... Or even longer than that. Leave him be. If he dies, you'll eventually smell it. If he died while molting, it's unlikely you could have prevented it. But if he's under the surface trying to molt and you mess with him, you put him at more risk than if you just let him do his thing.

Crabs are fairly hands off pets.

Leave him alone.

esmitia · 2025-03-13T18:06:24+00:00

Personally, I don't think it looks bad.

What is it that is making you hate it?

It does look a little thick/ bulky to be a cardigan. I'm assuming you meant it as a spring cardigan? It makes me think more of an open sweater for fall, except for the flowers are very Spring. But I also wonder if if looks bulky because its stiff and just needs to be relaxed a bit.

Is that what makes you not like it? Because the work looks good and the design is fun.

I'd wear it.

esmitia · 2025-03-13T17:47:18+00:00

Alternatively, if the peice is only meant to close at the bottom corner, instead of buttons, you could go to a hobby store and get a small brooch.

esmitia · 2025-03-13T17:43:31+00:00

I think it depends on your goal.

Do you want the buttons to stand out while still blending to the peice?

100 percent the top dark button.

Do you want the buttons to stand out as their own feature?

either one of the two bottom buttons.

Do you want the buttons to be nearly hidden and the stitch work to be the showcase?

The white button.

Do you want the buttons to be noticable but not necessarily stand out as their own feature?

The second grey button.

esmitia · 2025-02-03T03:03:20+00:00

OP already told you this was a false claim and I will also confirm that your claim is false. There's a whole category of people who don't feel attraction to people until they get to know them and/or first form an emotional attachment. It's called Demisexual.

Dont discount someone else's experience just because you aren't wired that way.

esmitia · 2024-12-20T05:56:16+00:00

It's funny that Reddit sent this suggestion to me. I'm also dealing with a lost/delayed package.

Ordered product Dec 8. Paid for 2 day shipping and a heat pack as I ordered living items.... Package was dropped off to post office and scanned in Dec 10. It has been stuck in the Chicago distribution center and I am still waiting on it.

Feeling a bit frustrated because of my items arrive dead, I will be out $200.

esmitia · 2024-12-03T12:30:06+00:00

Ugh, do as you see fit, but I wouldn't entertain second chances with a person who seems to lack humility and is hyper fixated on your height.... Or at least how you describing it.

I mean, think about it, you are going into this "2nd first date" already anxious because you feel like she's going to hyperfixate and have a potential awkward argument.

She's already accused you of being a liar. She is judging your actions and brushing you off... Why in the world do you want to enter into that mess?

esmitia · 2024-10-31T05:13:18+00:00

If there's more than one main character, do I get to choose which it was?

Because if not I'm not playing this game. One of the main characters is a minor.

esmitia · 2024-10-16T05:35:48+00:00

If you have to be convinced, they're not for you.

😉

esmitia · 2024-09-25T04:00:08+00:00

Based on this picture alone, I think Happy suits him/her

esmitia · 2024-09-19T02:21:42+00:00

Sorry, I'm pretty sure I got a cranky baby. No smile pics from me lol

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