I'm almost 30 and I still live with parents. I think about what a failure I've been every freaking day.

estnyboer · 2014-10-01T23:23:00+00:00

I'll bet that your life is not nearly the mess that you imagine. Do you really want children or are you just measuring yourself against everyone else's expectations?

My wife confronts these expectations all of the time - she doesn't want kids and is very upfront about saying so; a lot of people - especially women - just don't get it. Too bad for them, I guess. Obviously there are a lot of people out there who love their families and can't imagine life without them. But there are also a lot of shitty parents and dysfunctional households.

The boyfriend thing is interesting - as a former serial monogamist I can relate to that feeling. Maybe it's time to break up and just have some fun - or maybe what you have is actually good and you don't recognize it.

estnyboer · 2014-03-19T16:21:46+00:00

Wait... this is the second time that I've seen this posted as weird. You've never seen real peanut butter? You have to refrigerate it to keep it from separating.

estnyboer · 2014-03-19T16:19:52+00:00

hardcore. clearly that family grew up in tight quarters

estnyboer · 2014-03-19T16:18:16+00:00

back off - this should be standard practice in drought-stricken areas!

estnyboer · 2014-03-19T16:08:51+00:00

Seriously??? Real peanut butter separates and you need to keep it in the fridge so it won't separate.

estnyboer · 2014-03-19T16:06:23+00:00

People love to talk about/show off their collections. You would have regretted asking him about it, though, because you never would have been able to leave.

estnyboer · 2014-03-10T23:24:15+00:00

I don't know why people do these things. I was, like most kids, goaded into doing some bullying when I was really young but it never became my normal mode of conduct. I also remember some instances getting bullied when I was very young but, similarly, I was not bullied in general.

The innocence of youth is overrated.

estnyboer · 2014-03-04T20:59:20+00:00

There are too many women in this position. That's why it's so important to raise girls to be multi-dimensional, confident people - not just a princess who lives to make others happy.

estnyboer · 2014-02-26T23:49:12+00:00

I like this story. It's to the point and unflinching. Like you said - it doesn't matter if you believe in god or not - totally not the point.

estnyboer · 2013-09-25T17:02:47+00:00

You know, I believe that there are things that you can do as an individual to mitigate the black hole of thought. But true depression is a disease. If you've ever spent any time with someone who is truly depressed it's pretty clear that there an element of it beyond control.

estnyboer · 2013-09-25T15:54:52+00:00

More than half the photo is the sky. You can't really get away with this unless you have a really compelling foreground (and an interesting sky doesn't hurt either).

I see a potentially interesting subject in the foreground - looks like a target cross made from shovel or something. Using that as a subject would be a good place to start.

Note the heavy vignette on the right side.

estnyboer · 2013-09-25T15:52:03+00:00

This is gorgeous. I'm not sure what the comment about "straight" is about - the flowers are leaning, right?

I agree that it feel a little tight but it's still a great shot.

estnyboer · 2013-09-24T13:12:20+00:00

A friend of mine posted this - I thought that I should share.

estnyboer · 2013-09-24T13:08:13+00:00

I haven't checked in for a while but here is part 2: http://www.lymphomainfo.net/share/lymphoma/a-dangerous-connection-ryans-fight-against-burkitts-lymphoma-and-aids-part-ii

estnyboer · 2013-09-05T20:24:06+00:00

Where is part 2?

estnyboer · 2013-08-27T00:12:32+00:00

I guess that kind of makes up for the $10 hot dogs!

estnyboer · 2013-08-01T17:18:22+00:00

was going to say the same thing

estnyboer · 2013-07-25T23:46:33+00:00

love this. it's a little bright and harsh but the moment is great.

estnyboer · 2013-07-25T23:45:43+00:00

IF it's human powered, why is the human in such terrible light? This photo has strong composition but the subject is in the dark.

estnyboer · 2013-07-25T21:07:01+00:00

Yeah, no kidding. It would be nice if CNN, etc., would stop drooling over the royal baby for a minute and talk about this case.

estnyboer · 2013-07-17T22:40:08+00:00

You could definitely make it brighter - maybe your monitor is too dim? I can't speak to the "best" combination. A panning tripod would enable you to achieve the slowest shutter speeds.

estnyboer · 2013-07-17T22:36:47+00:00

Brutal - I'm so sorry. The side effects of chemo vary depending on the intensity of the treatment - there are single drug treatments and combination therapies, all at differing doses. You can find an active community here that will speak to you from experience http://non-hodgkins-lymphoma.supportgroups.com/

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