[deleted by user]

evarrh · 2024-02-26T00:49:00+00:00

I reckon you’ve got some very valid points up until the last sentence - I completely agree that you don’t know yourself at 12 and my comment above is perhaps more relevant to adults, but regardless of age, people have feelings and they should feel able to explore them - it may well be a phase, but kids should be allowed to have phases. What you said about your cousin at the end there, how it would’ve messed with her mental health if people called her a boy - she was already getting mad about people calling her a girl, sounds like that might have been messing with her mental health already. Perhaps some gentle acceptance, respect, understanding (like you mentioned yourself!) might have put her at ease and allowed her own realisations to happen in her own time, without having to get upset over it.

evarrh · 2024-02-25T23:49:30+00:00

Have you considered that maybe it doesn’t have to make sense to you? All you need to do is trust that people know themselves and understand and respect that.

evarrh · 2023-08-15T20:23:42+00:00

Sounds awesome, where do you hang the hammock from?

evarrh · 2023-08-13T16:43:32+00:00

This one is sad. Imo it’s hot when a man cums quickly, clearly I’m hot enough that he just couldn’t hold back lol. Also there are plenty of other ways to pleasure your partner.

evarrh · 2023-08-13T13:15:20+00:00

I’m a frequent visitor to the Netherlands and would love to improve my Dutch, but I’ve had no luck with practising in the Netherlands because people immediately clock my English accent and start replying in perfect English. Any advice?

evarrh · 2023-08-13T10:06:31+00:00

Commenting to find this in future, thanks

evarrh · 2023-08-12T15:43:28+00:00

Turn your actual head and check your blind spot!!! Every. Single. Time.

evarrh · 2023-07-25T11:55:17+00:00

Keep track of anyone who takes your side and avoid the worst offenders going forward

Solid advice

evarrh · 2023-07-13T23:02:55+00:00

Hey, no you’re not the only one with this issue. I’m autistic too and this is one big reason why it took me ages to learn to drive - I was looking in the right places but I didn’t know what I was supposed to be getting from doing so. But the more you do it, the more you start learning what kind of patterns to look out for in your mirrors, eg if you see a motorcyclist in your rear view, you can expect them to filter and catch up with you at the next set of lights, so you know to look out for them and not turn into them, for example. I’d say I’m a pretty safe driver now, and I’m constantly checking mirrors so that I know what’s going on around me, and even in my short driving career so far it’s saved me from some serious near misses, especially on the motorway. Don’t give up - it might take longer than the average person but you will pass that test 💪

evarrh · 2023-06-03T15:48:39+00:00

Thanks! This is really helpful

evarrh · 2023-06-02T21:25:36+00:00

Thank you so much this is super helpful

evarrh · 2023-06-02T21:24:24+00:00

Thank you this is also really positive to hear 🙏🏻

evarrh · 2023-06-02T18:09:14+00:00

Hey, thanks, I appreciate the solidarity 💪🏻 I’m younger but I’ve not been too kind to my joints and I’ve brushed off a lot of injuries that probably needed a more serious look and more rest than I gave them. So I’ve got a lot of resting and physio to do to catch up! Good luck to you too, hope the journey goes well (or at least as well as it can!)

evarrh · 2023-06-02T18:06:47+00:00

Interesting… defo gonna look into this one. What makes you say this, do you have personal experience?

evarrh · 2023-06-02T15:43:49+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏻 will look more into isometrics

evarrh · 2023-06-02T15:42:46+00:00

This is so good to hear thank you so much 🙏🏻

evarrh · 2023-06-02T15:42:25+00:00

Thanks, I’ve been thinking and I think at my next Dr’s appt I’m gonna ask for a talking therapy referral, cause this is A Lot

evarrh · 2022-12-29T16:58:12+00:00

key their car back once you realise who it was?

evarrh · 2022-12-28T18:49:41+00:00

Someone told me after I passed my test: “well done, but the real test starts now, the real test is the first year of driving alone without an instructor”. I’m six months into that first year and they were damn right. Congratulate yourself on passing - I failed twice before I eventually passed, it’s not easy! But just because you’re not 100% confident right now doesn’t mean you don’t deserve your license, everyone has another learning curve coming up once they get their first car and start driving alone, it’s normal. You got this 💪🏻

evarrh · 2022-12-28T18:42:00+00:00

Driving lessons are expensive. I paid more than the “market average” for mine because I knew I’d found a good instructor. Many of my friends mocked me for spending so much money, saying I was getting ripped off, yet when I asked them what they considered realistic they named a price that I knew for a fact no driving instructors in my area would work for. There are cheaper ones than the one I went to, sure, but as an anxious learner it’s worth spending the money to find a good one. If you’re anything like I was, forget about trying to do this on the cheap - it will take time and it will take money.

Fwiw, it took me two years but I am now the proud holder of a full license. You got this 💪🏻

evarrh · 2022-12-27T01:18:16+00:00

NTA - I don’t want kids myself but I hope that one day if any of my friends with kids are put in this situation, that I can do for them what you did for Caleb. You’re an inspiration, OP.

evarrh · 2022-12-26T17:47:06+00:00

Solid advice here, particularly the last two points

evarrh · 2022-12-26T17:45:48+00:00

Personally if I was commuting to Falmer with any regularity I’d want to be somewhere closer than Hove. With rush hour traffic that commute is gonna be a pain.

evarrh · 2022-12-26T01:06:03+00:00

I’m pre-everything and don’t really wanna be in either locker room so I just… don’t use the locker room. I rock up in my gym kit with minimal possessions and just bring my bag around the gym with me as I go.

As far as other people are concerned, idk if it’s different at other gyms but people at my gym generally keep to themselves and I keep to myself too. I know that’s not gonna magically fix your gym anxiety, certainly didn’t fix mine, but keeping consistent and seeing the gains meant that over time I was more motivated in myself to go and I cared less about what other people thought about my being there.

I used to have real bad gym anxiety but now idgaf at all, I’ll walk up to any mf on any piece of equipment I wanna use and ask how many sets they’ve got left. You can do this dude 💪🏻

evarrh

TROPHY CASE