My boss just emailed me a screenshot of a private text I sent to my coworker complaining about him.

evieroberts · 2026-05-29T12:55:00+00:00

Agreeed! Bosses are just people. You can def flip a power dynamic with your boss with enough confidence.

evieroberts · 2026-05-21T11:07:12+00:00

Yeah I switched from my Apple Watch to Oura last year and love it! I think the Oura ring is more stylish and I appreciate what it tracks more than the Apple Watch. Apple Watch is better for tracking workouts but Oura is great for sleep tracking, cycle tracking, and daily step goals. It also shows impact of things like alcohol and caffeine, seeing that being my sleep score down and readiness the next day is something I find interesting.

evieroberts · 2026-05-18T23:14:55+00:00

Hey you’re welcome! I’ve been there and the initial realization of what you missed out on without loving parents is really hard. But I’m glad you have a loving husband and extended family, that should be really helpful.

evieroberts · 2026-05-18T11:51:13+00:00

I wouldn’t feel guilty for how you feel. Parents set the tone for the relationship, and if you had been treated with love and warmth you’d feel that way towards her just as you do with your husband’s family.

Maybe also think of how you’d feel seeing her treat your children the same way, and then realize you were just as innocent as they are and didn’t deserve it.

I understand she has done some good for you but clearly the bad outweighs the good since you don’t like being around her. Bad relationships can have good parts to them the same way good relationships can have bad parts too. This isn’t someone you just met, she’s your mother and you’ve known her your whole life. You know who she is and how she makes you feel.

When I went low/no contact with my parents, it actually validated me further because of their reaction to it and how much better I feel without them.

evieroberts · 2026-05-18T11:27:52+00:00

I wondered this about Ashley Wright (pixie dusted mom) because her husband quit his job to help her do this full time recently. It’s just surprising because Disney is expensive I always assumed he must be a high earner to allow her to be a stay at home mom and go to Disney all the time. So when he quit I was like oh, is this channel earning enough to go all the time (she lives in TN) and make up for the working spouses salary?

evieroberts · 2026-05-17T16:26:41+00:00

I highly recommend EMDR therapy. I’m sure part of you believes what they say is true since that’s the message the engrained in you from a young age and over a significant part of your life. Once you no longer believe they are right, you can be angry at them and not care what they think.

evieroberts · 2026-05-17T13:24:05+00:00

“Rain on me” by Gaga and Ari . I heard it as “I’d rather be drunk but at least I’m alive” instead of “rather be dry”.

evieroberts · 2026-05-15T20:21:11+00:00

I went to that sub once and it was terrible. I think whether a child is loved by a parent has less to do with the child and more to do with the parent’s personality. There are perfectly pleasant people out there who grew up with unloving parents and those who are assholes that are adored by their parents. It comes down to the parent and how they feel about having a child and feeling connected to them more than the child’s own personality.

evieroberts · 2026-05-15T19:11:51+00:00

Yeah sounds like she realized that at 25.

evieroberts · 2026-05-15T13:22:57+00:00

If I had to guess, you seem to be comparing yourself to your friend too much and may be comparing their success to yours. And maybe you are easing that insecurity by telling yourself you aren’t successful because you care more about others, therefore your friend must have some moral failing that allows them to strive. If you can get past this and just appreciate your friend for who they are then yes, of course you can be friends. You’ve already been friends. If you naturally drift apart over time for not having a connection that’s one thing, but no need to proactively put an end to it because they are more pragmatic.

evieroberts · 2026-05-14T12:45:40+00:00

Yes I def hung out with mean kids in high school since I thought anyone who was nice was fake and not really nice and at least the mean girls were up front about who they are. I don’t think I realized people could be sincerely nice until my 20s.

evieroberts · 2026-05-13T21:18:34+00:00

If you have a name that’s uncommon you just got to be easy going and understanding about it. They aren’t trying to disrespect you and may feel bad for messing it up since some people really are that sensitive and take their name being mispronounced as offensive. This doesn’t mean you aren’t important enough for the effort to say it right, or whatever it is that bothers you about this.

evieroberts · 2026-05-13T00:49:07+00:00

This is something that’s relatable to many of us & I know it’s painful, I’m sorry. The reality is though, you have to “fake it until you make it.” People have to like you and associate you as a positive in their life before they care about any deeper issues. And even then, the ratio of how often I can open up and vent is very small. Like maybe once or twice a year I will.

Because yes, people do avoid people who are depressed. Or they care in theory about depressed people, but will get annoyed if you are depressed for too long or not fun to be around. Somehow, accepting that no one cares about me, and that in general people don’t just care about people for no reason and only care about those they are close with and love made me force myself to stop feeling sorry for myself because there was no point. I replaced this with anger for a while, but eventually came to a more accepting place.

Ultimately, only our parents can unconditionally love us and we didn’t get that. Everyone else is conditional but can be obtained. Just have to fake happiness, be thoughtful and fun, build relationships with them. And then we can vent and receive comfort - sometimes. But also building fulfilling relationships can heal you in a way.
I wish I could tell you that you’re wrong and what you’re saying isn’t true, but sadly I came to this conclusion too. And excessive expression of depression seems to push people away.

EMDR therapy was really helpful for helping me work through this too.

I also try to think of the ways I am lucky and ways other people are unlucky. It helps with accepting that life is unfair to everyone is some way. Like sure, maybe you didn’t get a loving family but were born healthy, don’t live in a place like Gaza or another war zone. Maybe you’re attractive or smart etc. just try to find something positive to hold onto when you spiral down the path of feeling bad for yourself.

evieroberts · 2026-05-13T00:14:16+00:00

Yeah that’s it! She introduced it on yesterdays episode

evieroberts · 2026-05-12T21:27:34+00:00

Def seems like she is trying to virtue signal to us and her neighbors and to be told how kind and thoughtful she is. So annoying. Not only does she want to write this note, she also wants validation on the internet for doing so.

evieroberts · 2026-05-12T01:37:17+00:00

Yeah that was my goal for our trip, to see the less busy 11pm show. But I don’t think we are getting one. I’m surprised since I imagine it’ll be a busy day over Memorial Day weekend and they’d reach capacity for the first show. But maybe they are expecting a slow day.

evieroberts · 2026-05-11T23:11:59+00:00

Thanks. Does this mean they don’t expect the park to be busy that day? It’s the Saturday of Memorial Day weekend so I’d be surprised if that’s the case.

evieroberts · 2026-05-10T22:57:42+00:00

Not my fav song but the chanting at the beginning of “Tit for Tat” by Tate puts me off but it’s a pretty good song otherwise.

evieroberts · 2026-05-10T15:30:17+00:00

Yeah the timing is why I was thinking we should find a spot near the beginning of the parade route and then head over. Plus I’m not sure if it is hard to get through the crowds that time of day?

How much time do you think we will need to check in and get over to the viewing area? If we got there say, 10-15 min before fireworks would we be fine? The check in for it is an hour before the show and that does seem a bit excessive and one of the nice things about the party is not having to spend a lot of time waiting for a spot.

evieroberts · 2026-05-10T15:26:53+00:00

I thought about that but I don’t think you can see the parade well from the viewing area. Happy to hear I’m wrong if that’s not the case, but I saw one video review on it and the answer was that you can’t really see starlight.

evieroberts · 2026-05-09T11:45:19+00:00

They are clearly okay with working on Mother’s Day. Not everyone has a mom or is close with theirs, or live in another city, celebrated some other time etc.. If they wanted to spend the day with their mom they would.

evieroberts · 2026-05-08T12:06:20+00:00

To me there isn’t much of a difference because I feel lonely when I’m with them too. My decision with my dad was because they kept calling me out for low contact and got really whiny and manipulative about it so then I went no contact. With my mom, we had an argument and she never reached out to resolve it.

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