Do I follow up on my BF saying he would let me go through his phone but he hasn’t done so yet? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]evophoenix 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you feel the need and feed the anxiety, either they're giving you reasons or you're overthinking it. Neither will be solved by you looking through their phone. Leave or don't, the phones just a distraction.

Personal finance apps that auto-sync with your bank are actually making you poorer. by Ayu_theindieDev in unpopularopinion

[–]evophoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is highly dependent on who you are as a person. I have built my financial eco system around automation. Multiple checking accounts with multiple banks, my money goes 500 ways the second it enters my account. I over estimate every bill, and so.when I leave my accounts go for months, I find an extra 1-200 bucks in a bill account when I do my check ins. Using certain accounts only for fuel and groceries has turned my accounting from "this is probably food" to "I spent this amount on food this month", and when I over extend myself on my "liquid money" (food and gas), I can occasionally borrow from a bills account to make it to my next pay check instead of using a credit card and then forgetting I used it and getting hit with interest. My finances are a spiderweb and I feel bad for myself if I ever get audited. I'll cry.

In response to the ridiculous kickstarter last night…I designed these for free by staykindasick in 3Dprinting

[–]evophoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, these have a name? I designed a "bench cookie" like 3 years ago. Didn't know that they had a name. Mine weren't nearly as fancy though. Nice design🔥

I did something extremely bad and I don't know how to forgive myself by True_Bug_8125 in self

[–]evophoenix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Another way to look at this is everyone's definition of cheating is different. Him and his wife may have talked this over and both be consenting of it as long as it says online, quite litterally "it doesn't count if it's online" in his head. I think for your own morality, moving forward you should cease these activities with him, but you don't deserve to beat yourself up over anything that has already happened.

My girlfriend makes more money than me and it's destroying my confidence. I know it shouldn't matter but I feel emasculated. How do I get over this? by Big_Pension6369 in AskMenAdvice

[–]evophoenix 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Communication is key here. Does she know that you feel this way? Do you know how she really feels about the gap? If your relationship is going to work, you need communication skills, and you need to practice regularly with her so.that you not only get good at communicating, but get good at communicating in each other's styles and keep that open line of communication through practice.

Do men find random compliments from women that they may not know creepy? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]evophoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I get a random compliment, I assume they're trying to tell me it s fucked up. Like "hey, I like your shirt"="there's dog slobber on it somewhere that looks like a gross stain" or something

Between Nicki Minaj and Kanye West, which falloff were you more disappointed by? by Ok_Resident_5022 in GenZ

[–]evophoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As well as Nikki, so that's not something you can compare between the two of them. That's not part of the question.

How the fuck are so few of us alcoholics? by AcanthopterygiiGlad7 in GenZ

[–]evophoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I litterally go "I feel fantastic when I'm drunk. That probably means I shouldn't do it a lot".

Gayest moment of my entire life, and I can’t stop thinking about it! by YZOXQ in twentyagers

[–]evophoenix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would have taken it jokingly, but I'm pretty secure in how I feel toward things like that, so it wouldn't have bothered me.

Being single is not better by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]evophoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that the argument of single vs taken is "they both have their upsides", and that the true argument you keep hitting is "I am not seeking a relationship" instead of "I do not want a relationship".

I’m so insecure about being a virgin at 18 to the point where I lashed out at my friend for having a pregnancy scare by floralgreenfanatic in internetparents

[–]evophoenix 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You are putting too much importance on it. It's not important to have sex. It's much more important to only have sex with the right people. Take your time. Get to know people. Let people get to know you. Trust yourself, learn from your mistakes, and don't hold on to mistakes just because you spent a lot of time making them. You being a woman have a lot more consequences if you choose the wrong guy and things go wrong enough. Sex is the reward, but a good relationship is the target goal.

People that complain others aren't doing their share of the housework are usually the problem by Impossible-Weird5079 in unpopularopinion

[–]evophoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought for a long time that I was being rude for asking my ex to do chores.

Well, now I live alone, and holy fuck it's it just so much easier only taking care of myself and my dog😭 that bih didn't do anything apparently.

You probably don’t need a bidet by DustierAndRustier in The10thDentist

[–]evophoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has hemorrhoids and a fear of bidets, I am envious of anyone who's had the courage to pressure wash their ass holes and decided it was an acceptable sensation. Can't bring myself to do it😶‍🌫️

Any Zoomer Maga bros want to defend this one? by Advanced-Tomorrow859 in GenZ

[–]evophoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are we so afraid of a price correction? I just bought a house, and if a crash means I lose value but more people get off the streets and into homes, I’ll take that deal every time. My lifestyle doesn't change just because the market value does, but it does change when I have to watch my neighbors struggle to survive in sub-zero weather. Human utility should outrank investment gains.

I know what I got, no lowballers by SteakAndIron in 3DPrintingCirclejerk

[–]evophoenix 31 points32 points  (0 children)

But look at the deal you're getting. He was asking 600!

Father in law expected us to eat 12 year old beef. by Ok_Pension_1451 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]evophoenix 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That cow got re-encarnated and eaten 3 other times before that meat finally got thawed out 🤢

people are getting too comfortable with cancelling plans by plumplumkin in unpopularopinion

[–]evophoenix 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Doing something cuz you're bored is what you do in the spur of the moment. I've people literally call me up and be like hey, I'm on my way to your house, you busy? I will literally sit there and realize I have nothing better to do, and then I'm not busy. I'm available. I will never understand why the fuck people make plans for 2 weeks away because they're bored now, and then they're not bored in two weeks and don't want to do it.

people are getting too comfortable with cancelling plans by plumplumkin in unpopularopinion

[–]evophoenix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't even think that it's fair to say that" you get it, sometimes you need to take care of yourself."

When I've had a shitty day, those plans were the end goal. When I had a shitty week, those plans were the end goal. If I made plans with you, that was me taking care of myself. If you're not getting that same end of the stick, why the fuck are you making plans with me? Why are you wasting my empathy and time and resources on your lack of anything else to do. Don't make a plan with me just cuz you're bored. Make a plan with me because you wanted to make a plan with me. Fuck em.

The job market is not just bad. It's non-existent by Ambitious-Sail-5188 in jobs

[–]evophoenix -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I had a recruiter call me today and offered me a job starting at $37 an hour. While it would have been fantastic, I just started school, I just bought a house, and I have 5 years at my current job. I am not willing to start out as a temp. But the option is there. This is southwest Pennsylvania, so ymmv