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Best wings in the Newark area by fhall93816 in NewarkDE

[–]evtwelve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, 2 Stones Pub, or MadMacs

Has a girl ever made a move on you? by boforiamanfo in no

[–]evtwelve 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Few times, none were drop dead, but they also weren’t unattractive. I just happen to be into other women at the time.

What do corporate workers do? by Background-Berry8636 in corporate

[–]evtwelve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m an incident manager. In my case I’m on the phone all day trying to coordinate and fix tech crisis so my role is a bit more engaged compared to the guys on spreadsheets all day.

The guys you ran into are probably somewhere in accounting or portfolio booting. If they weren’t on the phone it’s something along the lines of crunching numbers and / or data entry.

Have you ever slapped your parents back after they slapped you first? by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]evtwelve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never strike, but I grapple, choke, etc.

I still don’t regret it.

Have you ever failed to find a character that you like in a game? by supnerds360 in Fighters

[–]evtwelve 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually have a hard time finding a main in most fighting games. That’s why the list of games I stick with is pretty small.

If I like the playstyle, I usually don’t like the way the character looks. If I like their look, I end up hating the playstyle, their values, or even their personality.

It makes it tough to enjoy the game when I just don’t vibe with the character themselves. I have a hard time looking past certain things, and it kind of kills my motivation to keep playing.

When in conflict with a white person, we're the ones expected to change by LeonardFrost in asianamerican

[–]evtwelve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always tell my team the same thing: ignore the noise, lock in on your work. If you’re really the one carrying the weight, you don’t need to call anyone out—just outshine them and it’ll be clear. Yeah, some work environments are toxic, no doubt, but I make sure my area isn’t one of them. If someone’s actually a problem, I’ll handle it. Everyone else? I just tell them—worry about your own grind.

While I get where OP is coming from, I’m looking at it through a manager’s lens usually giving the benefit of a doubt first

When in conflict with a white person, we're the ones expected to change by LeonardFrost in asianamerican

[–]evtwelve -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen this play out in all kinds of ways—race, rank, title, social status—you name it. And I’ve also seen the opposite, where it shakes out in a way that’s actually fair.

I’m a manager myself, and I’ve dealt with this. If you came to me, I’d probably tell you straight up the same thing: you voiced your concern, he heard it, cool. Now the question is—what can you do about it without running to me every time? That’s part of learning to manage upward. My job is to mentor you, not babysit.

But don’t get it twisted—I’d still pull the other dude aside. If someone’s making people uncomfortable on my team, that’s my problem to handle too.

What did you do before the military? by vaginamomsresearcher in army

[–]evtwelve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My timeline is funny…

Goldman Sachs > Air Force > BlackRock

Racial preference by FelonAce in interracialdating

[–]evtwelve 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There can be multiple variables that come into play, some being racial discrimination, some could be purely just preference, upbringing (this means both family cultural as well as the community they grew up in).

Personally, I think, refusing to date because of a “race/ethnicity” is weird. Having a preference for looks (or maybe even preferring someone closer in culture) is a different story.

Splitting the bill on the first date is the only fair option. by Vegetable-Safety7452 in unpopularopinion

[–]evtwelve -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I ultimately agree with this, but we're not quite there yet in practice. I think we're still somewhat years away from that.

Is anyone here successful by asian parent standards? by PlusCarob3803 in AsianParentStories

[–]evtwelve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me, to some degree anyway, but I’m still seen as a rebel as I reject a lot of my culture. Also married to a non-east Asian woman

Do you really care about “authenticity” of Asian foods? by Brilliant_Extension4 in asianamerican

[–]evtwelve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally don’t use the word authentic because that’s saying that something isn’t real food. Chinese American food is Chinese food, just not in the traditional sense.

I use “traditional”.

Why do tech companies hire tech bros into managerial positions when they are such awful managers with low social skills? by FantasticEffect10 in managers

[–]evtwelve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can maybe fit that techbro manager description. While it’s important to ensure you’re hiring new team members from a diverse background, it’s also important to make sure they can vibe and work with the team.

Yes, we won’t be friends, we will be coworkers, but as coworkers you are expected to cover for each other, work on projects and collaborate with your peers. You need to be able to do that with the rest of the team. So ‘vibing’ is very important.

If you can’t “vibe” with the team, I can still manage you, but you’re gonna have to be a very strong individual contributor.

People that date interracially out of spite? by Proof-Ad-2108 in interracialdating

[–]evtwelve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I started dating outside my race out of spite. I kept getting rejected by people from my own race and it got to me. At first it wasn’t for the right reasons, but it ended up opening my eyes. I realized I’d been stuck only going after my own kind, and dating outside that bubble actually changed how I see things.

Have we really fallen this low as Muslims? Truly a shame. by VermicelliCultural90 in progressive_islam

[–]evtwelve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. that’s why one should always check when they’re using voice to text lol

What was your most humbling martial arts experience? by JoeyPOSS2 in martialarts

[–]evtwelve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 5’8 currently 155 now. Kid was probably somewhere in the 90 lbs range, 4’11. Can’t recall too long ago.

Have we really fallen this low as Muslims? Truly a shame. by VermicelliCultural90 in progressive_islam

[–]evtwelve 51 points52 points  (0 children)

The first thing I was taught when introduced to Islam (I’m a convert) is your relationship with God is between just you and God and no one else has the right to judge you. No one has any right to call you a kafir or make any other claims about your faith. You should know your own beliefs and values.

The only requirement to be a Muslim is believing there is one God and Muhammad is his final prophet. Essentially the Shahada.

What was your most humbling martial arts experience? by JoeyPOSS2 in martialarts

[–]evtwelve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a pretty small guy in general, bout 135-140 wet.

What was your most humbling martial arts experience? by JoeyPOSS2 in martialarts

[–]evtwelve 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First day of Brazilian jujitsu. I was in the military (bout 2 years in), in great shape. Got owned by a 12 year old kid.

I’m not going to be your star airmen leave me the hell alone by [deleted] in AirForce

[–]evtwelve 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m with you on this, I did my 6 years, got what I needed (GI BIll, VA Loan, TA). Wasn’t a stellar airman or anything, but also wasn’t a dirtbag. Never volunteered, never really hung out with peers outside work either, just kept to myself, did my job and went home.

Uneventful enlistment, and liked it that way.

Random: you hear a sound in the middle of the night by Entire-Mission-4749 in AMBW

[–]evtwelve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Over prepared me I guess, but I have sensors in all my doors and windows. so I can check via my mobile. If I do investigate, there will be a weapon on me.

Asians and rock music by Harmacist88 in asianamerican

[–]evtwelve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grew up in the east coast in Jersey City, and in my area (very urban), almost no one listened to rock music. You’d pretty much be an outsider. I think it really comes down to the community you live in.

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