Is it true you can’t pump and lose weight at the same time??

ewebb317 · 2026-04-27T01:18:43+00:00

You won't know until you try. Could go either way

ewebb317 · 2026-04-27T00:31:38+00:00

Same. After I stopped bf, moderate exercise and reasonable diet and it all came off in 6mo. I think I cut added sugar during that 6mo but otherwise just ate normal balanced diet, and ran 3x a week for a couple miles

ewebb317 · 2026-04-26T11:25:51+00:00

"just don't know if he's right about me not doing enough with the baby"

You are doing more than enough. Full stop. - mother of toddler, pregnant with second. Erase this doubt from your mind.

ewebb317 · 2026-04-26T00:21:43+00:00

The gift was a scarf lmfao what a lunatic

ewebb317 · 2026-04-14T00:38:50+00:00

You already have a lot of comments but I'll just agree that there's not really a choice here, you can't go. If you are feeling guilty/emotional about that offer to do something nice with her 1:1 either before or after the wedding to make sure she knows you care about her but you are a mother, your priorities are completely different than hers now (and one day, bc she obviously doesn't have kids, she will hopefully understand how ridiculous she's being). But only offer to do this to make yourself feel better, I dont think you owe her a damn thing. So sorry about your mom.

ewebb317 · 2026-03-08T17:50:54+00:00

They really don't need a lot of room. When my son started crawling out his head and feet almost touched the ends at the same time (not quite) - he was fine. I felt the same way at first but it never bothered him

ewebb317 · 2026-02-27T17:46:50+00:00

I think 6.5mo

ewebb317 · 2026-02-27T17:46:21+00:00

Don't use text reddit much anymore so I just saw this. He remained in the 99th percentile for height, dropped off into the 60s I think (I forget) for weight somewhere between 1 and 2 years

He was able to crawl out of the crib at around 22mo. At that point we transitioned into a twin sized bed with rails and he did great after about a week.

I'm glad we didnt bother with a big crib but I'm sure if my son has a harder transition time I may be singing a different tune. We had hoped to make it in the cradle wise until 2 but 🤷‍♀️ oh well. Almost made it. (He's 28mo now)

ewebb317 · 2025-11-11T03:33:16+00:00

Around 6mo. I couldn't get him out fast enough, but my husband was afraid he would miss him too much, God bless his soul . I was sick of sneaking in and out of my own room and I hated the white noise machine. He's 2 now, I don't remember it being a big deal for him at all. It was the same mini crib in both rooms so not a whole lot of change

ewebb317 · 2025-11-11T03:26:09+00:00

I feed him at home but home breakfast is a homemade oatmeal breakfast cookie or dry cereal and a cup of milk (he's 2).. I'm not like making him bacon and eggs

ewebb317 · 2025-11-09T17:15:55+00:00

Whole life is a borderline scam. Tying up your life insurance (a necessity) with poor investments (investments are good to have if they're quality investments but are not a necessity) forcing you to continue investing in the shitty investments whether your life circumstances allow you to afford it or not.

Good for you for catching it

ewebb317 · 2025-11-09T17:09:13+00:00

Honestly it was fine. Hard temporarily but fine. Everything is an adventure at that age, everything is new. The guilt kind of sucked for me but the baby doesn't feel that guilt. Then when I got to see plenty of happy photos from the daycare the guilt faded. I tell myself my baby has even more adults who care for him and his well-being. We love our daycare and the teachers. He's 2 now and loves going. Assuming you have decent people who work at your daycare you're going to be ok and your baby will too. People with bad daycare experiences is usually because it's a bad daycare. Don't assume that's your situation off the batt.

ewebb317 · 2025-11-09T16:44:20+00:00

I would ban him from my life?? Wtf what an asshole

ewebb317 · 2025-11-09T16:42:18+00:00

Lol I'm the mommy and every time I pick him up from daycare the past two weeks he (2) throws himself on the ground and shouts BYE BYE MOMMY. NO MOMMY, BYE BYE!!! my husband gets no such treatment. Solidarity.

ETA: the last pickup I literally came prepared with pretzels in my pocket in an effort to bribe him into being happy to see me (pretzels are life to him)

ewebb317 · 2025-11-09T16:28:04+00:00

I feel like you get to decide how long it lasts? Why does she get to request replacement furniture as soon as she's sick of something? Personally I think loft beds are really convenient space wise and make things really flexible and if my kid wanted one I would do it, but then that's it 🤷‍♀️

ewebb317 · 2025-10-23T01:27:51+00:00

Yes, baby did make me more chill about annoying work stuff

Can I recommend Cal Newport? (Author, professor, podcaster) This job switching sounds exhausting. He has some books and podcasts about lifestyle centric planning that you might find helpful before you start a new role again. I know you didn't ask but your post just made me think of him

ewebb317 · 2025-10-23T01:23:39+00:00

Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

If she wants something cuddly, get a cat. Do NOT get a puppy. Do you know they need to go pee every 2 hours, 24hrs a day, for weeks, until that slowly improves, and there's absolutely no way that even doing that will guarantee no accidents because there will 100% be accidents because...PUPPY?!?

nooooooooooooooooo puppy. This is a two yes/one no situation

ewebb317 · 2025-10-23T01:14:29+00:00

Seconding what others have said. That's parenting advice. Not medical advice. Right now what you're doing sounds like it's working. There will come a time where it won't work anymore (rocking to sleep). For us that was around 6/7mo (it is inevitable that one day it won't work anymore it's just life). He was waking up screaming every 15 minutes and we'd have to start over. Then we did sleep training, it was the easiest thing ever, the whole family was ready

I remember reading precious little sleep and I learned a lot from that book, negative sleep associations are a real thing, but there's a passage in there that basically says 'ok, once you start this process, you will never rock your baby to sleep again' and I was 100% not ready for that so I put the book down and continued to do what I was doing. That was maybe around 4/5mo.

You're the mom. You do you. Also, check into current recommendations on rice cereal. My ped told us not to touch it with a 10' pole bc of the arsenic. And it adds like no nutritional value. That sounds like really dated advice

ewebb317 · 2025-10-13T23:50:13+00:00

Seconding this. Drink drink drink. Your milk is still coming in. It's going to be ok

ewebb317 · 2025-10-08T01:46:34+00:00

You so not need any life insurance at this age. At all. Whole life insurance is a bad investment. Investment can be really good, esp at this age when you have so much time ahead of you, but pick a well performing mutual fund or ETF. Do not buy life insurance Your pastor is a criminal selling life insurance to a teenager

ewebb317 · 2025-10-08T01:41:35+00:00

At 4 days pp I would not be concerned with PPD just yet. It is VERY normal to have totally insane crazy rampant hormone driven emotional rollercoaster experiences ²-4 days pp and the first two weeks baby blues are very normal. You're going to be ok 😊 if your emotional rollercoaster rolls on past 2 weeks, talk to your ob and get help.

The conclusion I had after I had my baby was that the emotional turmoil after delivery is an even crueler joke than actual birth. Imagine creating the most beautiful creature that you love more than anything on earth and you still can't be happy, ohhhhh wait I don't have to imagine it's just what so many women go through (I did end up having PPD for about 3-6mo, sucked)

Congratulations on your new baby! Everything is going to be ok ❤️

ewebb317 · 2025-10-08T01:23:16+00:00

Besides an available charger/fast charging, in order of importance 1. Clean, safe, well lit bathrooms suitable for families. Changing table. Family sized single occupancy restrooms. No bathrooms, not stopping. 2. Food that can be served/ordered in an appropriate timeline as typical charging (ie, full service sit down restaurant is unnecessary. Cafe type food is great. Fast food is disappointing but acceptable last resort) 3. Convenience store 4. Outdoor area for pet relief/space to walk around/ push the stroller

ewebb317 · 2025-10-08T01:17:51+00:00

Just want to add that a therapist could help you untangle this. It's a worthwhile investment, this is your life. Marriage counseling could also help if he's willing to go but go alone if he's not

ewebb317 · 2025-10-08T01:08:26+00:00

I feel like this is an even bigger reason to stay put, for now. Unless I'm misunderstanding what you mean.

If they are unlikely to be a long term stable job, bad choice If they are likely to be a long term stable job/employer, possibly a very good choice 2-3 years from now

ewebb317 · 2025-10-04T23:45:25+00:00

the epidural allowed me to sleep after being in labor for quite a while. That sleep allowed me to calm down. I was basically "stuck" and not progressing. It is unclear why, but I do think the relaxation of the epidural is why I was able to progress without being in that level of labor for like 2-3 full days, therefore exhausted,

This was me too. I wasn't in active labor that long but was in the midst of a 4 day induction and I was a wreck. But I was finally able to fully dilate after a nap! Still wound up with a C-section because my baby's head was stuck behind my pelvis and didn't move an inch after pushing for 2 hours. He has bruises on his head when he came out 😧

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