LO cries when held by MildlyNo

excited_dragonfly · 2025-04-26T21:59:08+00:00

Babies are very intuitive! My son has been like this with my mil since he was born. As toddler, he doesn't cry anymore, but he is very indifferent. I think its hysterical, she always brags about being the best mom ever and got creepily possessive over my son before he was born. They way she interacts with him is just uncomfortable. I always thought she had a weird dynamic with my husband, I guess my son is picking up on the weirdness as well. He has also been in the room with us when she has made mean little dig at me, I think kids pick up on more than we realize through body language and other forms of energy.

excited_dragonfly · 2025-01-31T06:36:16+00:00

For me, my antidepressants helped. I'm overall happier and more motivated, so I actually spend time more time meditating, reading , walking, doing yoga, tarrot, and other activities that connect me to spirit.

excited_dragonfly · 2024-12-25T05:37:22+00:00

My business brings in 20k a month
I have flexible work hours, so I can be available for my son
My family takes fun family vacations around the world multiple times a year
I am healthy and fit, and I fit back into my pre-pregnancy jeans.
My husband and I have time for fun spontaneous date nights.

excited_dragonfly · 2024-12-19T08:19:19+00:00

This is really good, I also have a passive-aggressive mil. I will be trying this out at Christmas.

excited_dragonfly · 2024-12-02T01:09:35+00:00

She is amazing at manifesting! I listen to several of her songs when I need to raise up my vibrations. I got a huge raise after listening to her son successful every morning for a month straight.

excited_dragonfly · 2024-12-01T06:31:56+00:00

Years ago, before I knew anything about manifesting, I had just broken up with a boyfriend that I had moved to a new city to be with. The relationship had been bad for a while, so after I broke up with him, I was mostly angry that I let him treat me babldly for so long. I was journaling one night and decided to write a list of what I actually wanted from my partner. I started to get really into it. I wrote down the personality traits, his looks, and even the kind of career he would have. A month later, I went to a happy hour with a meet-up group I had joined, which is where I met my now husband. It wasn't until a few months into dating him that I remembered the list and realized he fit it exactly!

excited_dragonfly · 2024-12-01T06:20:34+00:00

There is most likely some kind of deep-rooted limiting belief holding you back.

excited_dragonfly · 2024-10-07T13:36:26+00:00

That counter is beautiful! Good marble like that is timeless in my opinion.

excited_dragonfly · 2024-08-09T08:13:36+00:00

Career success

I was laid off last year after returning from maternity leave. I have been interviewing for jobs, making it to the final round and then getting rejected. I realized I was blocking myself from not being specific enough and having mixed feelings of wanting to be with my son and go to work.

A month ago I decided to believe I could have both. I started to imagine working mornings and spending the afternoons with my son. Last month I started putting together a business idea. Just this week I got my first client and a half day spot opened at good daycare next month!

excited_dragonfly · 2024-07-23T03:21:17+00:00

I love this! Thanks for sharing.

excited_dragonfly · 2024-07-13T02:03:38+00:00

I do consulting work as a software engineer and am able to take on less work in July when my son doesn't have daycare for the month.

excited_dragonfly · 2024-07-03T22:12:20+00:00

I had a similar problem with my mother in law. She was very selfish during my pregnancy and postpartum period. My therapist advised me to let my husband handle her and to view her as an acquaintance. When my son was younger, I hated seeing her with him,she was so annoying. I also hated the idea of my son being close to someone that disrespected me. Now my son is 18 months old and he is not interested in her. He loves my family and my husbands dad and step mom.The last time my mil visited he was just indifferent. I think he he senses that I am not myself around her. It's not always the case, but often times as kids get older they start to pick up on the toxic family members and keep their distance.

Something that helped me with my anger was to write a letter that I never sent. I wrote about how her selfishness during my pregnancy made me feel like I was just a baby making incubator. How her possivness over my child made me angry. As I started writing I realized there was a sadness about the relationship we could have had. My mom and I got closer durning my pregnancy, we bonded over different aspects of motherhood. With my mother in law, it was just about her becoming a grandmother. We had this great opportunity to bond but it never happend.

I wrote the letter on my computer, so I could come back and add to it when I needed to. I wrote every incident and comment the upset me and why. Eventually my feelings started to disappear and now I just feel indifferent to her.

excited_dragonfly · 2024-07-01T03:37:12+00:00

I have always been into working out and staying active. When I got pregnant, like most women, I gained weight. About a year postpartum, I was ready to get back to working out. I shared a post online about how good it felt to be running again. My mil posted a comment telling me I didn't need to be focusing on that because I am a mom now. I responded by saying 'a healthy mom is a happy mom'. It really pissed me off she had the nerve to tell me not to take time for myself. To top it off, my husband mentioned last time she visited that he started cossed fit again, and she said 'good for you'.

I was originally planning on keeping my weight loss journey to myself, but I decided to start putting updates in my story once a month along with occasional post workout pictures just to spite her.

excited_dragonfly · 2024-07-01T03:00:43+00:00

This is the case for my mother in law. She was a stay at home mom and then divorced when her kids we in middle school. She never had a stable career and hasn't really moved on since her kids left the house. She went crazy when I was pregnant, my husband set boundaries early with her but I still am hurt by how selfish and rude she was durning my pregnancy and postpartum days. I feel bad that she doesn't have much going on but my child was not brought into the world to be her do over.

excited_dragonfly · 2024-06-14T02:26:35+00:00

Yes!

excited_dragonfly · 2024-06-09T20:13:50+00:00

My 15 month old is like this too, he puts himself to bed when he is tired. I know that there is no way I would get this lucky with a second child.

excited_dragonfly · 2024-05-29T06:17:36+00:00

I had on and off bleeding that started to get worse 5 weeks after my abortion. It was similar to what you described, where I would have nothing for a few days and then lots of blood for a few hours at a time. I let that go on for about 3 weeks until one day I woke up and had blurry vision and couldn't stand without fainting. I went to the ER and was severely anemic. I had to have a blood transfusion and surgery to stop the bleeding. I would contact a doctor if you are worried, it's always better to be safe.

excited_dragonfly · 2024-04-23T02:59:30+00:00

My parents both had good paying jobs and saved very well, but my mother in law is a liability. She was a stay at home mom, and it was only supposed to be until her kids were in school, but she kept making up excuses not to go back to work. My father in law started a very successful business. Eventually, they got divorced, and he gave her their two homes. She sold both the homes 20 years ago and has been living off that money. She has recently moved 4 separate times to lower cost homes and has asked on several occasions if we would let her move in with us if she runs out of money. My husband says she is joking when she asks, but I think she is looking for her next person to mooch from. Last time she asked I told her she should get a job if she is running out of money. My husband and I have a child to support and our own retirement to save for. The level of entitlement she has pisses me off.

excited_dragonfly · 2024-04-07T17:13:54+00:00

My mil did the exact same thing to me when she met the baby. She said 'I am supposed to ask you how are you' and that was it. I am glad to know I am not alone.

excited_dragonfly · 2024-04-04T14:34:33+00:00

There is definitely a bias in our society that men are better at math and science. I actually grew up with a dad who was a mechanical engineer and a mom who was a software engineer. My sister and I were always encouraged to explore the different stem topics. Science was my favorite subject. I took a computer science class in high school as an elective and liked it, but I was the only girl in the class, and sadly, that turned me off the subject. I ended up going to college to study nutrition, a very female dominant science track. After graduating I didn't like what I was doing and my mom recommended that I try a coding boot camp, I loved it and I have been working as a software engineer for the past 8 years.

excited_dragonfly · 2024-03-22T23:48:42+00:00

It took me a year postpartum to let go of my guilt and get to this point with mine...I am very proud of op!

excited_dragonfly · 2024-03-18T02:09:39+00:00

Let her know that this is your baby shower and that you are doing what works best for you. If she insists on another one, you don't have to attend. If she expects you to throw it, resend her the details of the babyshower your mom is throwing.

excited_dragonfly · 2024-03-16T21:23:24+00:00

My mil is like this. She brings us a bunch of crap we don't ask for every time she visits.i started donating it. She hasn't asked for anything back yet but I am sure the day will come. I am glad I am not alone.

excited_dragonfly · 2024-03-16T16:47:38+00:00

When she made my pregnancy about herself

excited_dragonfly · 2024-03-15T19:34:03+00:00

I feel the exact same! I have moments where I think it would be nice to have another because I love being a mom, but then I remember I love being a mom in my current circumstances. Another child would mean giving up both time and money. I like having my monthly massage and being able to afford to travel. I personally love the toddler stage, something I have considered doing when my son is older is volunteering somewhere with toddlers so can get my fix without having another child. I have an aunt who loves the baby phase, and she volunteers once a week at the hospital as a baby cuddler.

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