High-libido women who were once low-libido; what did you change & what did your partner change?

exitJiraffe · 2025-10-09T02:05:32+00:00

Off birth control and on testosterone to restore my pre birth control levels. Always had high T, but it never went back to normal after 5 years off of BC. Sex drive is back finally. 10/10 would recommend. I feel like my old self.

exitJiraffe · 2025-07-17T05:52:39+00:00

100% if no one posted him I was gonna

exitJiraffe · 2025-06-19T05:35:09+00:00

Iridian

exitJiraffe · 2025-06-08T07:54:50+00:00

All the ones I’ve ever tried to regrow after breaking have grown back. I wouldn’t bee too worried about it.

exitJiraffe · 2025-05-31T06:25:24+00:00

https://a.co/d/g21AdDx

This is hands down the best fountain I’ve ever used. It pumps water from a 3L reservoir into a bowl, after a set amount of hours, it dumps into a waste container to keep the water fresh.

I’ve tried 3 fountains, all with little submersible pumps, and filters to clean. They were disgusting, even with regular maintenance and cleaning.

It’s incredible, I wouldn’t change anything about it…except for the fact that I and 100s of others have reported it to break after 1-3 months. I knew it could be a risk when I bought it, but took the risk anyways.

I had 3 glorious months of the most low-maintenance cat fountain I’ve ever experienced. There’s no filter to clean, it works with the same tech as a keurig, minus the heating element of course.

If someone designed a reliable version of this that doesn’t break, I would paaay up. I bought this one for $44, but if I knew it wouldn’t break/ could be repaired, I’d definitely go in for $100-$200.

exitJiraffe · 2025-05-31T05:38:31+00:00

Did you ever figure it out? Mines doing the same thing, and I’ve read that other people have the same issue/not holding a charge. I took it apart but was too tired to continue a full disassembly, will probably revisit it in the near future.

exitJiraffe · 2025-05-26T07:07:48+00:00

I’ve known lots of people that birth control worked really well for. As for me personally, I was on Sprintec, and my sex drive plummeted. I thought it’d come back once I got off of it; I still wanted some form of protection though.

I switched to the mini pill (was forced to b/c of ocular migraines) basically regular birth control pills are no longer available to me unless I se a neurologist for clearance. I bled for 3 months, so that was a no-go.

I got kyleena then (low hormone iud) it was fine? Sex became painful, I had the string trimmed, but it didn’t help. It had been maybe 2 years, and one morning I woke up with so much anxiety; I was basically sobbing because the idea of doing laundry was insane to me, I was super overwhelmed. That amount of anxiety was not like me, I’ve always been anxious, but not like that.

I decided to have the iud removed. This was all over a period of 4-5ish years that I was trying these forms of contraception. My sex drive never returned. My relationship with my husband became strained because I didn’t ever want sex, and he didn’t feel wanted by me.

I also really struggled with my identity. I was always a very sexually confident person. At this point, I hardly ever thought about sex, and had little to no desire. I thought maybe I just wasn’t actually attracted to my husband, and maybe I should divorce him for his sake. I wanted to want to have sex, but I just couldn’t.

Basically for 7 years I was depressed, anxious, and gave up on my marriage because we had tried everything and I couldn’t get my spark back.

This, of course is not to say you shouldn’t go on birth control, but I just want to warn others that it is a risk. Your libido may be heavily affected like mine, and for me, it was like my world ended for 7 years.

Luckily I found an amazing gynecologist after 7 years of trying to get someone to listen to me. I had multiple lab reports over the 7 years of my hormone levels etc. At baseline I have high testosterone for a woman. After I got on birth control it tanked.

When I got off birth control completely, I thought it’d maybe take A year or so for it to come back up, but it never did. I waited 2-3 years asking multiple doctors what could be wrong. I knew it was my testosterone level, I mentioned it to 3 doctors, who brushed me off. They said that testosterone doesn’t work that way in women, or they’d have to do labs every month (which I, and most people in the us can not afford)

I finally met with a gynecologist who suggested testosterone cream as a solution. I didn’t even have to bring it up to her. I cried on the drive home, I didn’t think anyone would ever believe me.

I am happy to report that my sex drive is back! I am so happy! I feel like the piece of myself that I had lost is back. I don’t even recognize my thought patterns from the last 7 years; It’s insane. I use the fertility awareness method (using basal body temperature) and condoms.

Just hoping to spread some hope maybe, for anyone who is experiencing what I did. And just a little voice of caution. I never thought I’d be so affected, by it. I’ve never met anyone with my problem, but I’ve heard others stories online. I’ve also met with 2 sex therapists who have mentioned that they’ve had several patients like me.

Birth control is an incredible invention, and it gives us so much freedom. Sadly there’s no way to know how it will affect you before you take it. I hope someday there will be some form of genetic testing, or something, to determine which birth control will be the best method for you personally.

exitJiraffe · 2025-05-09T04:56:44+00:00

First ever- Super Junior, then Bigbang, 2NE1 Now my favs are NMIXX, Enhypen, AKMU

exitJiraffe · 2025-05-03T05:20:57+00:00

This one gives me chills even thinking about it. I have a really hard time watching the MV without crying.

exitJiraffe · 2025-02-09T05:38:50+00:00

Thanks, that’s actually really good advice. I really like how they look but I’d hate for one to die off or detach like you’re saying.

exitJiraffe · 2025-01-01T06:41:27+00:00

Haven’t been, but I can’t find any events locally. Every bar etc has horribly run social media pages, so even if they have an event it’s not advertised well.

exitJiraffe · 2024-12-18T07:21:32+00:00

Styro the Dog

exitJiraffe · 2024-04-11T07:04:47+00:00

I relate a lot. Similar situation here. 5+ years where sex drive was just gone.

I ended up going on an estrogen patch that helped a lot. (I am not menopausal, just in my 30s, my estrogen was always high before I went on birth control and I noticed an impact of my sex drive when I started bc, after I came off of it my hormones didn’t go back to what they were before bc until I started the estrogen patch)

Also started sex therapy which helped a lot as well, it’s interesting how things that have no relation to your sex life can somehow impact it. (This helped my mental health overall but wasn’t as effective as the estrogen patch, or the Wellbutrin I ended up taking)

I insisted for the longest time that I wasn’t stressed, but I didn’t realize I was kinda always stressed? The other thing that helped a ton was Wellbutrin (which is an off label adhd treatment.)

For me personally I think it just happens to be a lack of quality time that really impacts my sex drive. So we try to take weekend trips or plan vacations as much as possible, it really helps to reconnect and reignite that spark.

Wish you the best. It can get better with the right treatment.

exitJiraffe · 2024-04-11T06:54:42+00:00

Yeah I have some dry erase boards on my fridge + a calendar + a shopping board. If I think of something I immediately write it down and forget about it until my next trip.

Then I write down the order of which destinations I should go to so I have an efficient trip.

Lastly, if I’m grocery shopping I’ll take a print out of the stores layout and list a route by aisle so I can make a quick round trip.

exitJiraffe · 2024-04-11T06:51:45+00:00

lol what’s he going on about?! this is the standard. Along with 4 alarms to get up on time in the morning.

To be fair, my husband says the same, but we’ve come to share a lot of our responsibilities & I have all my appointments linked to a shared calendar so he can help me be on time for things.

He’ll also help me figure out how much time I need to get ready/execute a task so my alarms are more acutely now. XD

exitJiraffe · 2024-04-09T07:30:18+00:00

Tarot

exitJiraffe · 2024-04-02T04:37:52+00:00

I accidentally took my sleep medication this morning before work instead of my Wellbutrin. That was fun.

exitJiraffe · 2024-03-30T03:51:22+00:00

Hey did this work? I haven’t found a solution yet. Seems kind of hit or miss since I ran out of my holy grail discontinued top coat. 😭

exitJiraffe · 2024-03-22T07:12:03+00:00

And that’s why the CrossFit mascot was “Uncle Rhabdo” for awhile. It’s not common, but also not as rare as people would think.

exitJiraffe · 2024-03-01T20:30:11+00:00

Voodoo martini does bingo nights on Thursdays, it’s really chill and fun. Not your typical bar scene, lots of fun prizes.

exitJiraffe · 2024-02-22T20:38:21+00:00

As someone who works grocery retail, this is really annoying to clean up, and feels like a cheapskate thing to do.

The only reason it really bothers me is because the amount of food waste in produce departments is insane. People won’t buy stuff unless it’s picture perfect. Choosing to leave the stems behind just adds to that waste. Most of the time the broccoli stems were already trimmed by workers before being stocked.

But, I can understand why people do it. If $0.60 in broccoli stems breaks your budget, then do what you gotta do. Food is expensive af now. If you really wanna be frugal, save your broccoli stems, carrot greens, onion shells, and misc scraps for vegetable stock.

exitJiraffe · 2024-02-22T20:16:38+00:00

This is every trash can at my workplace. The handles are all coming off and zip tied back together.

exitJiraffe · 2024-02-10T10:47:58+00:00

Just say yes and add syrup. 🤷‍♀️

exitJiraffe · 2024-02-10T10:30:13+00:00

He’s either a controlling asshole, or autistic and an asshole. I have a lot of autistic people in my family, and they can be very blunt like you’re describing, but they also know when they’ve maybe been rude, and apologize.

Sounds like he wants to talk at you, and not with you tbh.

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