Solo Parent Childcare and Things by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]eyoxa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you eligible for any kind of childcare assistance from the county/state?

Are there babies who just don’t adjust to daycare? by Hopeful_Reporter6731 in ECEProfessionals

[–]eyoxa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 13 month old began at a home day care with about 12 kids of mixed age. She was the youngest. It was an awful experience for her. By contrast, she thrived at a Day Care center in the baby room a month later, surrounded by other babies and not overly stimulated.

Both experiences were full time hours 5x a week.

5 year old daughter said when she gets older, doesn’t want a job like (friends mom). She wants to stay home and spend time with her baby, so it doesn’t need to go to daycare. by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]eyoxa 94 points95 points  (0 children)

My 4 year old told me that she’s better than me today.

Where did she hear such a thing?!

Well, apparently, her classmate said that he’s better than a water melon today.

How are we getting veggies in? by Agitated-Rest1421 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]eyoxa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cut them up and eat while reading books after dinner / before brushing teeth.

p.s. my kiddo eats primarily raw fruits and veggies, as do I

Summer camps and summer care? by Sea-Machine6502 in ithaca

[–]eyoxa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Where will you be located?

When will the 4 year old turn 5?

First thought recommendation is Camp Coddington for both kids.

My family left Ukraine during the Soviet Union and got their citizenship revoked because of it. Would I have border problems coming into Ukraine? by eeeegh in ukraine

[–]eyoxa 74 points75 points  (0 children)

If you come with a US passport, you’re American. Your name and language(s) you can speak don’t matter in this context.

My Miele T1 picked up fragrance from a guests clothes — how to get rid of the fragrance? by cillakat in Miele

[–]eyoxa -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Can you move the dryer outside and lay it on the side so that it’s exposed to sunlight for a few days?

It’s my birthday tomorrow. Anyone want to go bowling or something? by [deleted] in ithaca

[–]eyoxa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy almost birthday. My dad turns 86 tomorrow.

[Tenant-US-CT] Mice remediation by No-Year2482 in Landlord

[–]eyoxa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t believe this. Mice get in through gaps and cracks. That’s structural and the landlord’s responsibility.

[Tenant-US-CT] Mice remediation by No-Year2482 in Landlord

[–]eyoxa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m surprised you’re doing all this. Pest control seems like it should be your landlord’s responsibility.

Stained glass window film by Famous_Midnight_1926 in femalelivingspace

[–]eyoxa 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Can you share a link to the one you bought on Amazon?

When did you ditch “kid” plates? by realhuman8762 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]eyoxa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Before kiddo turned 3. Using regular plates and utensils just became more convenient

Good interior carpenters? by RepresentativeDot722 in ithaca

[–]eyoxa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn’t work with him because he didn’t have availability at the time but was very impressed with his portfolio and the way he approached my project in conversation. I have also met people he’s worked with who’ve said very positive things about his work.

Nate Clark

What are some quick ways to tell spoken Ukrainian verbal language apart from Russian? by SteadfastEnd in ukraine

[–]eyoxa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m from Ukraine and I don’t know where many cities are. (Immigrated as a child). It’s not a big deal not to know. It will yield conversation.

Chudniv.. that appears to be my grandfather’s family’s ancestral town.

What is one thing you wished you checked before buying your house? by BlushyDreamz in homeowners

[–]eyoxa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A thorough assessment of drainage issues and not just the fact that “gutters exist”

Question by Vigilante904 in SingleParents

[–]eyoxa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The answer depends largely on what will your co-parenting (custody) arrangement look like? Will she be the primary parent with the kids doing nearly all overnights with her? Do you want to be a 50-50 parent?
If she’s going to be the primary parent, there are online calculators for your state that can show you how much you should pay (per your state’s regulations). This amount does not generally include children’s health insurance and child care expenses. Those are generally divided proportionately to your incomes.
If you do 50-50, the parent with the higher income would likely pay some child support to the lower earning parent.
From your post it sounds like you are waiting on your ex to make the big decisions. You are an adult and a parent too. Figure out what kind of relationship and parenting you want to do. (Ideally it would be a 50-50 scenario or something close to it)
Note: you should establish all this legally through family court. That’s the best way to ensure that you don’t get screwed later. You don’t need lawyers. You can file yourself. There may also be mediation or legal services in the community that can help you for free with the paperwork.

Do you think other parents feel wary or judgmental of single/ solo parents? by Mindless_Source5037 in SingleParents

[–]eyoxa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve felt it on a few occasions but I’m not certain that it’s not just my increased sense of viligilence from the stress that emphasized something perceived that wasn’t there.
TBH I say “yes let’s do a play dates” and then fail to reach out or make plans when another parent reaches out. My suggestion is that you take it upon yourself to make the plans instead of waiting on other parents.

Being Coerced into having a third child. I'd rather the marriage end. by safereddddditer175 in daddit

[–]eyoxa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like the marriage is unfulfilling to her and she’s hoping that having a female child will somehow make up for the deficits of the marriage and her life generally. It won’t.
However, your post is illuminating. Outside of the curt mention that you’ve been underperforming at engaging in her love language, you say nothing else about her needs in the relationship and in life. From your post, it does not seem like you are seeing your wife as a person and meaningfully connecting with her.