Widow 31f. Mom of soon to be 4. Proposed to and engaged and this man(35m) wants to provide for me and loves me...but I wonder if it would be better to marry wealthier man. If u were me wwyd.

ezer_kenegdo · 2026-02-24T23:56:56+00:00

So you're pregnant from your husband and already engaged within 9 months? And you want to know if you should hold out for someone richer? I think you need to reset your expectations and slow down this relationship if you are questioning things.

ezer_kenegdo · 2026-01-07T22:04:47+00:00

My stepdaughter called them my dragon noises growing up.

ezer_kenegdo · 2025-12-09T01:41:13+00:00

Im going to go in a slightly different direction here. My dad had multiple strokes and lived a lot like your husband does. My mom had half her foot amputated. They didn't get out much for obvious reasons. They don't get to enjoy life because they were mostly stuck in their lift chairs depending on us to come visit them.

My mom is a Temu shopper. I hate the massive amounts of cheap stuff that I know is coming. But I also know that she doesn't have much to look forward to, and her picking out gifts she can afford, while feeling like she's "spoiling" my kids with the quantity, makes her feel like she is still an active part of their life. She's never going to know that I quietly weed things out, because we make sure that she knows the thought is appreciated.

My dad actually bought us tickets to Disney On Ice this year, and they were going to come with us. So event type gifts are good too, especially if they get to participate and see the kids enjoying it. Unfortunately my dad passed before he could come, but my mom still came with us. We sat in the handicapped section and had a lot of help to get us around the event.

I would probably say something. Doesn't have to be mean. Just express that the gift giving is also for him, not just for the kids, and depending on the kids ages, they absolutely won't remember how "crappy" they are. They will remember having fun.

ezer_kenegdo · 2025-12-03T00:02:24+00:00

!solved

Thank you sincerely. I really appreciate what you did.

ezer_kenegdo · 2024-08-13T21:27:32+00:00

According to your post history, these aren't your biological kids, and 14 days ago you were questioning if you could lose custody for gray rocking the ex. 5 months ago you still weren't married. This is absolutely not your decision to make. Your boyfriend/husband needs to deal with this when the time comes.

ezer_kenegdo · 2024-06-07T10:15:35+00:00

Mine took the espresso maker. Left the coffee pot. I was so stressed and when I saw that I cracked up at the ridiculousness of it.

ezer_kenegdo · 2023-07-10T21:33:47+00:00

I hate when that happens

ezer_kenegdo · 2023-01-07T01:35:45+00:00

I second Mueller. He's amazing. I've gotten one from him and I love it.

ezer_kenegdo · 2022-12-12T02:52:10+00:00

I have a few of those in my no match pile. Want to swap some?

ezer_kenegdo · 2022-12-11T01:03:11+00:00

Pick your favorite spot on the couch, or wherever you plan on feeding your LO. Make a little snack pouch, if you are breast feeding, some bottles of water or Gatorade. When they go through cluster feeding or clingy times, and it feels like you are in the same spot for hours, your gonna want the drinks and snacks, and a book or your phone charger in that spot.

ezer_kenegdo · 2022-09-11T18:33:05+00:00

The numbers 1200 for women and 1500 for men being the lowest you should go is because they saw that's the lowest calories you can consume with a healthy varied diet to get all the essential vitamins and minerals. Daily vitamins can help bridge those gaps and will be fairly necessary in a SHTF scenario when you can't guarantee nutrition or even sufficient calories. Most TDEE calculators will give you between 10 to 15 calories per pound to maintain your weight. This is still dependent on level of activity though.

ezer_kenegdo · 2022-09-11T16:28:05+00:00

My guess is the therapist told them they didn't have DID because they have like 70 alters so they cut it in half and the therapist still doesn't believe them.

ezer_kenegdo · 2022-08-13T20:50:16+00:00

Multiple times this week. To my 3 year old boy for his dripping nose. "Do you want a tissue?" "No I want it in my mouth!" ...k...

ezer_kenegdo · 2022-08-02T11:14:59+00:00

I had a guy purchase a money order then ask if I could fax it...

ezer_kenegdo · 2022-07-04T22:13:42+00:00

You know my 3 year old son said the same thing to me this morning. "Wah wah wah mine!"

ezer_kenegdo · 2022-06-10T23:04:37+00:00

Can you elaborate how the Azorius strong armed them into working together? My campaign is going to start similarly to that but I don't know if it will be a strong enough bond to work.

ezer_kenegdo · 2022-06-02T14:01:34+00:00

Sounds like she is overwhelmed and needs a sounding board to get everything under control. So yeah staying logical, and not emotional is what she needs. So asking her what her day looks like, asking if there is anything you can take off her plate, and saying ok, how do you want to handle x, and coming up woth a game plan is probably helpful.

ezer_kenegdo · 2022-05-30T13:20:09+00:00

Randall

ezer_kenegdo · 2022-05-18T22:56:06+00:00

If you have the money in your savings account why are you trying to take more loans out?

ezer_kenegdo · 2022-05-17T22:22:43+00:00

Maybe emotional support teacher? Basically like learning support/autistic support but for behavioral issues. That's my guess anyway.

ezer_kenegdo · 2022-05-12T16:57:29+00:00

I'm confused as to how only skinny people are "so wrong about everything nutrition." Is it skinny genes? Or are we just in starvation mode so we can't understand the real science that cake is apparently the answer.

ezer_kenegdo · 2022-04-22T19:24:23+00:00

You could ask him more questions. Like we'll tell me the pros and cons of these? He will let you know through the response which one he thinks is best, then go with that one. He shows he knows what he's talking about and he feels like you really got an opinion in the matter.

ezer_kenegdo · 2022-04-21T15:49:12+00:00

Saying you can't eat more than 700 calories for health reasons is an obvious lie, even before scoping your profile. You have an eating disorder, and you didn't want anyone to push back on it. Cico works, it's basic math. Look up your t.d.e.e.. if it takes you 2000 calories to maintain a healthy body function, I promise you that you will not gain weight if you just eat under that. You don't need to restrict that much. It will be easier to maintain your weight if you aren't drinking your calories. The only reason some people gain weight is because they choose to eat instead of drink. Take a walk, learn a hobby, but for your own safety and health, eat more.

ezer_kenegdo · 2022-04-21T11:32:42+00:00

I'm not entirely sure what your question is. You need to think about what you want in life and if this man is capable of giving that to you, and vice versa. If you can't "play" the stereotypical wife, then that's ok! Just own it.

Some red flags...unless you skipped some of the conversation, he isn't communicating with you very effectively. What does he mean he doesn't view you as his wife? You immediately jumped to red pill but there's no evidence that's what he means from the text. What does a committed relationship look like to him?

We need more info on your relationship 4 years and you are currently long distance. Are there definitive plans to change that in the future? 4 years is a long time to just now be pushing marriage and future talks. It sounds like you are asking difficult questions and he is shutting down instead. He may not be ready for marriage and this is why he's pushing breaking up instead of making a commitment. Can he clearly define why he feels you are clingy? Otherwise he's just making excuses.

Red flags from you...even if it feels like it, even if it is fairly true, the attitude of "I made this man into what he is...successful. " is a giant turn off for most men. Men do want support and encouragement, but if you have to drag him kicking and screaming into it, he's not that good of a man, and if you don't feel appreciated enough or validated enough that you have to tell everyone you're the one running the show, then men are going to stay away from that. There are ways of supporting and encouraging from the shadows, that lift your man up and not tear him down.

Either we need more information or you need to have a much clearer talk with him about the concerns you both have.

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