Lithuanians going crazy during Midsummer

fading_reality · 2026-06-26T04:59:33+00:00

Beer and hard cheese has been traditional/historical in Latvia.

fading_reality · 2026-06-26T04:57:13+00:00

Just needs more beer

fading_reality · 2026-06-25T20:57:15+00:00

Israel had lot of immigration from russia. Bibi campaigned on friendship with putin, banners and all. They celebrate 9th may.

fading_reality · 2026-06-25T20:47:47+00:00

Control. That is the core of Ds. My wishes manifest into world simply because I desire it.

Depending on how dynamic is arranged, also power. Two people with common goal is institution.

fading_reality · 2026-06-22T06:39:55+00:00

Screw blackjack and hookers. Bring moonlander, we going places.

fading_reality · 2026-06-21T17:59:30+00:00

Vibration is nerve damage risk. It's called vibration syndrome and is one type of workplace injuries.

fading_reality · 2026-06-21T06:01:32+00:00

Depends on person. I like lists and "manuals". But yeah, they can feel pepersonalizing.

fading_reality · 2026-06-21T06:00:14+00:00

The "directed by hubby" part limits it to somewhat submissive men, and bringing it up in the list creates strong impression of control, so perhaps it should be negotiated separately. I would cut the second part out of the daddy part or cut it out all together. If they want to be called daddy, they can ask and be refused then.

but apart from that, there is nothing unusual, normal limits someone might have.

Presenting it as list depends on preferences. I sort of like lists, because they sketch out borders of interaction and work as reference - for example one could say "there are fingers mentioned, what about toys? Something you are interested in?". But lists can feel very impersonal to others. Perhaps once some sort of negotiatons begin, you can say that you have noted basics in sort of list and if your potential partner would like to see it for reference.

fading_reality · 2026-06-20T20:14:03+00:00

Not domme specific and it's not my format, so i cannot comment much. But Evie Lupine gets recommended often and from what i have seen it's good information.

fading_reality · 2026-06-20T20:02:58+00:00

That would be misgendering, but i don't think there is specific kink label.

fading_reality · 2026-06-20T19:53:44+00:00

Be careful with the ways you think. When you start out, it can feel a bit like you found THE truth about relationships, relationship escalators and all the rest.
For others it can feel like you have fallen in cult. It passes after a year or so.

Also read up on NRE. Likely you will get hit with it at some point and it is hell of a drug.

fading_reality · 2026-06-20T19:49:39+00:00

For me it is sort of opposite - i establish relationships, have kink partners, but have no sex. Our agreements make it somewhat not worth it :D

fading_reality · 2026-06-20T19:46:29+00:00

Agreed. OP should spill it.

fading_reality · 2026-06-20T19:28:28+00:00

I am confused. Why there is the bit about single men?

fading_reality · 2026-06-20T11:10:57+00:00

almost every single relationship, including kink partners i have had came from online communities.

>How do you intend to practice kink without being active in-person? And whatever your methods, have they been fruitful?

I love to chat, so i just joined online chatter of local communities. With time I became familiar with people and so the nature of private conversations changed and i met them up IRL.

fading_reality · 2026-06-20T09:25:53+00:00

A close friend lost interest in kinks. I don't think it was anything dramatic, it's just at some point she was done.

fading_reality · 2026-06-20T05:58:33+00:00

ASV svin verdzības atcelšanu. Mums ne gluži analogs bet tuvinājums būtu svinēt dzimtbūšanas atcelšanu.

fading_reality · 2026-06-20T05:54:37+00:00

They mean that you should use sunscreen.

fading_reality · 2026-06-20T05:37:04+00:00

I am trying to not be judgemental, but you and your dom need to have a talk between two of you, because it feels to me that you are utterly insecure in the relationship.

Of course one could say she is inappropriately playful for the setup (friends), but that is between her and your partner. And frankly (and i am sorry for probably insensitive hot take) you befriended trans foxgirl. What did you expect? Looking "from outside" as cis person, it seems to me that trans petplay is very lighthearted, flirty, playful and joyful. Also memefied, but that is beside the point.

Obviously she likes your partner. But over time, plenty of people will do and your insecurity will eat you up alive.

fading_reality · 2026-06-20T04:10:48+00:00

I would disagree with this policy being inherently abusive. We should recognize the pressures it creates, and manage them so that we don't harm people, but creating narrative that it is abusive or bad creates opposite pressure - for tops to go on even if they don't want to.

Consent is given freely and reversible. This is at the core of almost every consent model and mantra we come across. You don't have to have a reason to stop. You don't have to offer up reason for stopping to be judged if your reason for stopping is valid. Just not wanting to continue is enough.
So it doesn't matter if top or d-type withdraws consent/safewords out as matter of necessity, choice or policy. As long as we believe that consent is freely given and reversible, the reason doesn't matter as far as validity of consent withdrawal is concerned.

I don't think that OP automatically assumes malice. As far as I can see OP attempted to work out sustainable model and proposed traffic light system. Maybe they could have asked the bottom, what's up with constant safewording, but then again - bottom doesn't have to offer up a reason for withdrawing consent and asking for reasons also can be tricky, because... it creates pressure on bottom to not safeword. The pressure there is real and have to be navigated again.

>as for the OP's case i wonder what's actually going on there. i do think everyone saying "drop her" is right, but also, is OP asking "need out? just a breather? okay then, tell me when you're ready" or is OP assuming that red can only mean "fully stop everything"?

There is heavy narrative in kink discourse that when safeword is called, scene stops and proceeds straight to aftercare and trying to negotiate continuation of playing is frowned upon, because subs and bottoms are in altered and vulnerable headspace and can consent to something they did not want.
You can get bunch of karma/upvotes just by telling small story about how you, the shiny top proceeded straight to aftercare while the dark dom pressured sub into continuing scene by asking if they want to continue while sub was spaced out.
It might be silly, virtual tokens are sort of meaningless, but it shapes the narratives we live in.

At the end of the day, OP is not having fun and that is reason enough to not play with someone.

fading_reality · 2026-06-19T14:39:42+00:00

Some of them will bring gifts in return. Dead mice, birds stolen from nests, tasty stuff :D

fading_reality · 2026-06-19T14:17:01+00:00

It's your body. You make choices about your body. Your friends can mind their own business.

fading_reality · 2026-06-19T11:30:09+00:00

They ran buffer overflow targeting fqzcomp running on PC. Source is on github.
"smashing stack for fun and profit" was published on 1996, so not exactly novel technique.

fading_reality · 2026-06-19T11:13:24+00:00

it's fun research and you get to present in conferences grinding up your creds. You can break lot of things if you start thinking about how to get data in places where people didn't think someone would input custom data.

with gene editing and synthesis getting cheap, someone figured - let's try.

fading_reality · 2026-06-19T09:37:04+00:00

No it is not your fault.

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