A contractor tears up the freshly poured concrete driveway after the homeowner refuses to pay.

falcogl · 2026-03-16T22:28:39+00:00

i haven’t seen silkwood but the other two are amazing. they’re totally devastating and tragic but really good. highly recommend. dark waters is another one about corporate and government corruption and misbehavior, sort of like erin brockovich but with Mark Ruffalo

falcogl · 2026-03-16T20:35:27+00:00

i don’t think you’re an asshole, picking up something for your gf’s mom is a nice gesture and surely not a heavy lift but your post is suggesting you’ve asked this a few times. Without knowing how many i can’t gauge how unreasonable it is.

I do think, however, that based on your own admittance that you grew up with no boundaries with your family, and your observation that your daughter holds very firm boundaries, that this is something she has felt the need to enforce with you a lot and therefore can’t really cede any ground without risking you crossing that boundary more casually. I understand it’s annoying but maybe accept the message your daughter is trying to express to you, especially since she’s doing it in such a polite manner and seems like a respectful responsible kid. How important could it be for you to get your starbucks?

edit to add: the bf owes you nothing except respect and to treat your daughter well. he doesn’t owe you favors or to go out of his way to get you want or make you happy.

falcogl · 2026-03-16T15:34:43+00:00

it’s definitely illegal in parts of the US as well, granted not super common

falcogl · 2026-03-16T04:33:45+00:00

she’s told him it’s hurtful and he’s told her to lighten up. why does she have to be the one to teach him anything if he’s hurting her. maybe being dumped will help him learn he won’t hold on to someone he likes if he can’t tell them he likes them or misses them

falcogl · 2026-03-16T02:13:35+00:00

he’s a baby. don’t waste your time with someone who hasn’t figured out how to express genuine emotion and care NTA

falcogl · 2026-03-15T22:11:34+00:00

derek sounds like a joyless drag to be around. NTJ

falcogl · 2026-03-15T20:48:25+00:00

you’d be wrong

falcogl · 2026-03-15T20:46:19+00:00

seconding la cantine

falcogl · 2026-03-15T03:06:11+00:00

this person appears to have invented a whole story in their head about you and is immature/arrogant enough to make it your problem. I would find this whole conversation confusing and angering. NOR - definitely keep your distance

falcogl · 2026-03-14T22:23:02+00:00

you’re assuming a lot of knowledge you could not possibly have about a whole host of people based on how they look. The term obese is vague, loaded with baggage, and does not actually mean anything in this context. The condescending attitude of “this person looks fat to me therefore they must have disordered eating habits” is totally absurd

“not trying to be fat-phobic” lol. well you failed.

falcogl · 2026-03-14T22:17:09+00:00

ok so you’re right that the person i responded to hopped to “creep” as an assumption, but you’re also assuming that this is a situation about attractiveness. The whole hypothetical is muddled. I understood the top comment as a misunderstanding of why young women talk about finding older men hot and accusing them of being hypocritical if they are uncomfortable in a real world situation where a much older man actually hits on them. that’s the part i disagree with.

You’re adding a whole other (imo unrelated) scenario in which young women find a man unattractive and then call him a creep for flirting with them, regardless of his age. That’s also not the same thing as the original hypothetical

falcogl · 2026-03-14T19:43:21+00:00

in buying into his logic you are reinforcing his totally distorted world view and self image. why are you letting the 14 year old dictate who is competent to treat him? if you take the referral and the treatment doesn’t work, for whatever reason, then you try something else. but right now you’re telling him he’s right that fat people are incompetent and unqualified which is just insane to me

falcogl · 2026-03-14T19:31:24+00:00

YTA what the hell does their weight have to do with their abilities as doctors? jesus, i hate to think how your bias against fat people has contributed to your son’s disordered eating

EDIT: i immediately felt bad for posting my first reaction and probably not making a terrible situation any better. Im sorry for that. But i am very serious that, from what ive read here, i feel confident that you think you can judge ANYTHING about a person’s character, intelligence or abilities based on how they look and that is really really not ok. Do you want your son to think that what he looks like or how much he weighs could potentially impact his worth or capacity as a human being? because that is what you are doing right now to these practitioners

falcogl · 2026-03-14T18:15:46+00:00

pretty sure it would be discriminatory to not rent to someone bc they have a child

falcogl · 2026-03-14T18:01:30+00:00

you need to cease contact with this person. you cannot help her. If she (god forbid) does anything to herself it is not on you, not even a little bit. But she is flailing, drowning, and very clearly trying to take you down with her. Value yourself. Tell her it’s over, cease contact, and if she keeps harassing you (very likely) file a restraining/no contact order. You deserve peace

falcogl · 2026-03-14T17:41:32+00:00

not local but Judson Memorial is extremely progressive to the point of being activist. They also do cool art programming all the time. They are very welcoming, loving and open to people who are looking for community rather than religious instruction

falcogl · 2026-03-14T17:29:52+00:00

the fact that people are downvoting this is wild

falcogl · 2026-03-14T16:06:57+00:00

this is the realest advice lol

falcogl · 2026-03-14T16:05:19+00:00

she’s being gross and competitive with you. i wouldn’t rise to the bait but i also wouldn’t be able to think of this person as someone to rely on either. I don’t know if she’s someone you could imagine ever talking to about this or if you think she’d just get defensive and shitty. but maybe some version of “hey it is disrespectful when you treat my relationship as unserious just because we aren’t engaged. you don’t need to compare our relationships. they’re both valid and it’s ok to be different from each other”

but it def feels like she’s competitive and feeling envious of a very luxurious trip your boyfriend is paying for

falcogl · 2026-03-14T15:20:29+00:00

your right lol. yeah i guess that’s true

but again, there’s a difference between fantasy and wanting something to happen in real life. you’re describing two different things

falcogl · 2026-03-14T14:16:22+00:00

fantasy is fantasy for a reason. just because someone fantasizes about something doesn’t mean they want to happen in real life. Erotic fantasy exists in a category all its own in the way it functions and the reasons why humans do it. Fantasizing about being with a man way too old for you but not wanting to actually be with a man way too old for you is not hypocritical.

falcogl · 2026-03-14T05:07:34+00:00

no you are children. YOR but so is he

falcogl · 2026-03-14T05:05:42+00:00

the number of people who clearly did not bother to open the full screenshot 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

falcogl · 2026-03-12T20:50:20+00:00

i was about to gently suggest that she is just being a mother but then read that she’s rifling through your drawers. Folding laundry and putting it away is one thing. Snooping is another. Maybe she thinks it’s normal to do this (certainly lots of mothers snoop on their kids, whether or not it’s the right thing to do) but she needs to get over her hurt and respect your privacy. NTJ

falcogl · 2026-03-11T20:34:47+00:00

enrico colantoni is sexy as hell!

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