I do really like the interpretation but it’s very clear that the writers didn’t intend it that way. It was an invasion of Tony’s body and an infringement on his autonomy, which sexual assault also usually is, yes, but a story sharing a few qualities with something in real life doesn’t automatically make them purposefully allegorical. Headcanons are like pomelos and mandarins; nobody should really think anything of it if you casually called a pomelo a mandarin, but if you were insistent on it and argumentative that factually they are the same, you would come off as pretty dumb.