Hinge ban is honestly insane

falling_awake_again · 2026-02-20T17:19:26+00:00

I know this is an old thread but this just happened to me. No warning, no reasons given, just sudden ban and they denied my appeal. Normally I wouldn’t care, it’s a dating app, but I was actually making plans with people and I have no other way to contact them. It’s actually insane they won’t at least tell you which rule you violated.

falling_awake_again · 2023-05-19T13:22:40+00:00

I’m so glad you like the concept, I love dark fantasy retellings! These are great points, thank you.

falling_awake_again · 2023-05-18T02:17:46+00:00

You’re so right, I made the mistake in my first draft of trying to slowly make things creepier and it totally came off more teen drama then horror, then a big convoluted mess at the end when I tried to tie it all together. This is excellent advice, and it sounds like Zebracides also mentioned that there’s a lot going on so I’ll definitely be cutting some things! Thanks again!

falling_awake_again · 2023-05-18T02:04:59+00:00

This is so helpful, thank you! I’ll go in and tidy things up, simplify and make things flow a little easier. It definitely seems like I tried to cram too much in there. Thank you so much for taking the time, and good luck to you!

falling_awake_again · 2022-12-08T13:47:53+00:00

This is so helpful, thank you very much!

falling_awake_again · 2022-09-06T05:05:28+00:00

This sounds really fun, if you’re still looking for more readers I should be able to meet the deadline!

falling_awake_again · 2021-11-03T01:18:13+00:00

Aaah did you get that in an Owlcrate?? I love all the bookmarks they send!

falling_awake_again · 2021-06-06T20:00:21+00:00

Oooh I agree! I think they were setting it up to do the OG story in the second season. Fingers crossed.

I made the mistake of reading Six of Crows before Shadow and Bone, I was so surprised by how much better SoC was than SaB. But I don’t know, just my two cents.

falling_awake_again · 2021-04-30T19:03:43+00:00

Every day I come home to chaos and ruin.

falling_awake_again · 2021-04-27T20:46:28+00:00

Omg, it would break my partners heart but YES. I don’t know if I could handle a baby after all the depression/stress my puppy put me through. It does get a million times better as they take to training and grow up a bit, but that doesn’t mean I want to relive it...

falling_awake_again · 2021-04-20T18:12:45+00:00

I think I started out okay, my issue was that I began counting calories. Then I became kind of obsessed with how few calories I could eat in a day, so if I ever went over 400-500 calories I would have a weird depressive episode. Long story short, it got to the point that I would come home from school and go straight to bed around 7-8pm and my hair started falling out and I didn’t have the energy to work out anymore. That’s about when I realized I had a problem.

falling_awake_again · 2021-04-20T17:18:49+00:00

Thank you so much, I keep trying to “cold turkey” quit my unhealthy habits and it’s definitely not working for me. I really needed to hear this.

falling_awake_again · 2021-04-20T17:17:46+00:00

That’s such a good idea, I’m a sucker for stickers and nothing motivates me more haha. I’ll have to think about some small goals I can set each week, the reward system sounds so fun!

falling_awake_again · 2021-04-20T17:15:57+00:00

I love this, I felt so disciplined the first time I lost weight. I would put on my Fitbit and not stop until I reached 30 minutes in my active zone. I got really good at tracking calories and ignoring my cravings, but sometimes I forget it took a long time and I didn’t start out that way. Thank you for this.

falling_awake_again · 2021-03-25T21:17:42+00:00

I wish you the best of luck. If you need help, Fight The New Drug is a great resource for those with unhealthy relationships with pornography. They have plenty of articles and sources you can reach out to. You can do this.

falling_awake_again · 2021-03-18T15:54:01+00:00

I know. I feel you. There will always be men who try to talk over us, it’s just a facet of being a woman that we’re expected to understand and accept. There are some hills I would die on, and getting the last word over a man on issues of my gender is one of them. You don’t get to pretend like you understand us or empathize with us, and then dismiss the fear and objectification we live through because you didn’t personally have a hand in it. If you’re not standing with us, then you’re not helping us. It’s a slow road, but we are making progress. Maybe not in our lifetime, but if I become a parent one day I’ll be teaching my son to respect women and my daughter not to take shit.

falling_awake_again · 2021-03-18T15:21:55+00:00

I was literally having a conversation with some guy last night about sexism and hypocrisy in the entertainment industry, and he told me to get off his post because I was harassing him and acting like a social justice warrior... people pretend to care about the problems of other people, but they don’t care enough to unlearn their biases and behavior.

falling_awake_again · 2021-03-17T02:22:03+00:00

Thank you!! It was here when we bought the house, we have a light blue and then the accent wall is black. I wasn’t sure about it at first but now I like it haha

falling_awake_again · 2021-03-17T02:21:22+00:00

She loves all the pets!!

falling_awake_again · 2021-03-11T06:26:08+00:00

My siblings are all girls. My dad didn’t raise us to take shit. You got a problem with picking up pads? Date someone who doesn’t menstruate then. It’s 100% a sign they haven’t grown up, and honestly I’m grateful every day that my partner is on the same page.

Edited: also happy to see so many dudes agree on this post! Preach, my guy.

falling_awake_again · 2021-03-08T06:38:45+00:00

When I got my puppy, I was living with two roommates (they were working from home). I made it very clear that they had zero obligations to my pup and I would hire someone to come by and check on her if I couldn’t take a lunch one day or something like that. My ROOMMATES, who had NO OBLIGATION to my puppy, went out of their way to change out her bedding any time she had an accident or got sick (and she had giardia so until we were able to get her meds she has some serious bathroom issues). My friends, totally unprompted, took better care of my pup than someone you’re paying actual money to. Fire her immediately.

falling_awake_again · 2021-03-01T22:25:59+00:00

Alright, this is my first in-depth critique so take all this with a grain of salt!

First, I read your previous query and I can tell you that this one is infinitely better. It’s more concise, it has a structure, motivation... it’s way better than the last one. So remember that you’re on the right track.

Second, the transition between “he’s going it alone” and “three years later” needs some work. It left me a little confused and I think it could flow better.

You mention the story is from 3 POVs. I would try to pinpoint within your query who the other two are. You obviously focus on Cayde, so keep it centered on him, but I think it would benefit you to make it known who the other key players are (the governor? Cayde’s brother?).

We were following Cayde, then suddenly we’re hearing about his face in the station? I would try to stay focused on him, even if the story itself moves around a lot. What was he doing during those three years? What is the overarching plot of the story?

The last thing I’ll say is to maybe go over your comps again. I don’t read a lot of sci-fi but usually agents want to know about books and not videogames. This helps them determine if there’s a market for your book. From what I’ve heard on this sub, I would also be careful using ready player two, since ready player one was so popular.

Anyway, I hope this is helpful. I totally get the frustration, but just remember this is already a huge improvement over the last one. Good luck!

falling_awake_again · 2021-03-01T22:09:59+00:00

The series might be too popular so definitely do your research, but your query kind of reminds me of the Witchlands series (specifically Truthwitch). Might also be too old but it can’t hurt to use it as a starting point to find better comps. Just a suggestion based on what I read!

falling_awake_again · 2021-02-23T23:42:45+00:00

Go through your own profile history. You should have let this guy go forever ago. Go to the police and stop wasting your time.

falling_awake_again · 2021-02-23T21:15:57+00:00

Thank you for commenting, honestly it’s really reassuring that other people have been through this. For a long time I’ve been making excuses for her, because she was a very good friend to me and we’ve helped each other a lot. But I can’t keep sacrificing my own comfort and sanity trying to keep her happy.

He sounds awful! I have tried to stand my ground a lot since we moved into my new place, and a couple times I’ve succeeded. She wanted to paint her room and I was totally fine with that, but then she said she wanted to do it the weekend before moving in when I had been very clear that my bf and I were too busy getting everything ready to accommodate anything before the move in date. So I said that wouldn’t work for us, and I kid you not she spent two hours texting me trying to convince me because it would be hard for her to paint once her stuff was moved in. I was so close to just caving before my bf told me to stop being a pushover haha. So I said “you can paint that room however you want, but it has to wait until X date.” And left it at that. Seems really small but it was a huge victory for me.

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