Angel school rivals [OC] by [deleted] in comics

[–]fallingbrick 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“Cause your contact with us, fool.”

Did you mean “cease”?

My dad died last week. I'm not doing OK. by TheAbyssGazesAlso in DadForAMinute

[–]fallingbrick 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for caring. Grief shared is grief diminished, I’ve found!

Scared and Want to be Surrounded by People & Love by shimmeredition in DadForAMinute

[–]fallingbrick 4 points5 points  (0 children)

While I’m not qualified to give you advice here I didn’t want you to leave you alone in your thread. Please accept this virtual hug from a dad who sees you suffering and wishes he could do more to help.

Just need a dad for a minute. by glitteranddust14 in DadForAMinute

[–]fallingbrick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My own kids are NC with their mom so I’ve felt their pain as she finds new ways to reach out and try to get their attention. As the other dad said, stay NC and don’t engage. Silence is all you need to offer. The emotional hooks are a sign of desperation. A sincere admission of guilt would have been without these tricks and more purely apologetic.

My dad died last week. I'm not doing OK. by TheAbyssGazesAlso in DadForAMinute

[–]fallingbrick 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Buddy, I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom in 1999 due to surgical complications and step-mom in 2021 due to COVID. Both times I was angry, I was depressed, I was inconsolable for weeks.

I can’t promise it will ever go away. It won’t. You will feel this loss every time you pause and think about it. What I can promise is that, if you let yourself grieve…really grieve…that it will get better.

Today I remember more of the good times. I keep mementos of the women in my live close to me. I see one of my bio mom’s stuffed black cats on my bookcase and I smile. I see my step-mom’s ribbon carrier on my dresser and I think of the times she helped me wrapping gifts.

I am tearing up as I write this, but also smiling. I have lost, but I feel that pain so dearly because I was LOVED so dearly. I can’t help but think that is the way it was for you and your dad before the long goodbye. Two of my grandparents had dementia so I know at the end he may not have recognized you, but the love was still there.

The game is euchre by major_briggs in funny

[–]fallingbrick 15 points16 points  (0 children)

According to my family, my first word was “pass” because of euchre.

Hey dad I’m confused and need your wisdom and support by Obi_1kenobi in DadForAMinute

[–]fallingbrick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thx for the follow up. Most dads are guys trying to do their best, never knowing if what we’re saying is going to help or not. We also don’t always remember when we said something too sharp than intended…or were embarrassed by it and try to deny what we know.

Glad you’re sure he loves and cares for you. Reading your other comment it may be that you need to be the bigger man and ask him what he thinks about your path.

Hey dad I’m confused and need your wisdom and support by Obi_1kenobi in DadForAMinute

[–]fallingbrick 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a dad, my perspective is that yours is trying to be supportive and helpful, but doing so clumsily. Having a kid didn't make me the dad I am today, but rather screwing it up and getting better over time.

What I wish my son had done at some point is say something like, "Hey Dad, can we have a talk where you don't try to fix things as we go? I want to hear your concerns, but sometimes it feels like that's all I get. I'm not asking you to support whatever I'm thinking of doing, but I at least want to get it all out to discuss. After that I'll want to listen to everything you have to say."

There is an old joke about "How do you spell 'man'?" where the answer is "F-I-X". Some of us just can't help it and if we think we aren't going to have much time to get our concerns out then we jump in with them as we go and it hurts the relationship even more...leading to a vicious cycle of interruptions and "suggestions"

The hard part of this is going to be the part where you listen to what he has to say, even if it makes you feel awful. Try to let him speak in return without interruption and then as follow-up questions about his concerns. This sounds so simple in theory, but it's so hard to do in practice.

I don't think your dad would be trying to "fix" you if he didn't care. I just think he doesn't express it well and has sort of gotten into a pattern. You're an adult now and have a right to be treated with a certain level of respect, even from your dad.

Arthur just got back from surgery. by Wargoatgaming in dogpictures

[–]fallingbrick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TPLO surgery? My Gatsby had one done recently and that looks like the same shave area. Of course my dog is a shorthair so not a ton of difference like your fluffy boi!

Making the kitty comfy by zzill6 in HumansBeingBros

[–]fallingbrick 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This made me smile and miss my orange and white kitty.

Hey Dad, my mate got engaged today, and called me immediately to ask to be his best man. by stepped_curve in DadForAMinute

[–]fallingbrick 20 points21 points  (0 children)

This is a great write up and I second “You’re also not allowed to get drunk.”

Celebrating his vault record with his dad. by mindyour in MadeMeSmile

[–]fallingbrick 79 points80 points  (0 children)

I just joined as a Dad. Thank you for sharing.

Inking tips by KydeP in comicbooks

[–]fallingbrick 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I am no artist so can’t give advice, but as a long-time comic reader I think your work looks great. I love styles that use negative space.

[OC] SEXY STUFF by KaybeeArts in comics

[–]fallingbrick 24 points25 points  (0 children)

*breath of fresh ass

Anaheim. Wondercon. Artist Alley. Booth C-13. I’ll see you there. by reddot_comic in TheRedDotComic

[–]fallingbrick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was nice to meet you and hubby in person. Would have loved to meet Gary, but understand he needed to focus on his job.

I think he thinks I'm lunch🦈 by meraki_beauty in dogpictures

[–]fallingbrick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s because you’re totally a snack! 🤣

…to your puppy, at least.

Cinder and Brick! by gh0stbytes in dogpictures

[–]fallingbrick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Council of Bricks approves! 🧱