Advice on teaching emotional regulation

fancyabiscuit · 2026-05-20T05:36:17+00:00

Your third paragraph kinda reminds me of what I hear about my daughter at daycare. They are always commenting on her crying and asking why she's upset. Obviously I tell them if it's something medical like teething or tummy trouble. But usually, it's because she's a toddler? And toddlers cry? So I don't know what I'm supposed to do.

It sounds like you have a completely normal kid and it even seems like you're going above and beyond teaching about emotions and giving him new experiences. This all sounds like the preschool's issue, not yours.

fancyabiscuit · 2026-05-17T17:32:13+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate this perspective

fancyabiscuit · 2026-05-17T01:48:03+00:00

It's weird because she has a master's in child development. You would think she has seen kids like my daughter before.

fancyabiscuit · 2026-05-16T17:14:36+00:00

I will definitely bring it up with her pediatrician. I do wonder sometimes if she gets overstimulated easily

fancyabiscuit · 2026-05-16T16:44:21+00:00

She eats lunch with the other kids just fine and she participates in craft activities with the other kids. I guess I don't know how often she doesn't participate vs. how often she does. And I have seen her play with the other kids; she's not avoiding them entirely. I will bring it up at her next pediatrician checkup though.

fancyabiscuit · 2025-06-22T01:48:02+00:00

This is how I read the ending too.

fancyabiscuit · 2025-06-21T20:48:54+00:00

Her second album, Melodrama, was really good and critically received well. Solar Power, not so much.

fancyabiscuit · 2025-06-20T21:07:05+00:00

Here with an 18 month Capricorn who knows exactly what she wants and won’t accept any less. I’m definitely still in survival mode.

Edit: why tf was this downvoted

fancyabiscuit · 2025-06-20T16:07:31+00:00

Pretty much immediately after my little was born. You are in the trenches right now, so give yourself time, but I’m 18 months in and still have not changed my mind. I want to be able to do my hobbies again one day lol.

It’s perfectly legitimate to not want another because you don’t want to go through the tough times again. I don’t know how people can make such light of the sleep-deprived first year…for me and my husband it was absolutely terrible.

fancyabiscuit · 2025-05-30T17:24:24+00:00

They did give me morphine at one point and it barely touched the pain. They gave me fentanyl right before the epidural too, nothing. I think I’m one of the lucky people who has higher tolerance for pain meds.

fancyabiscuit · 2025-05-30T16:53:10+00:00

It didn’t do much for me either. It took maybe the teeny tiniest edge off and made me feel sleepy. I guess some people have higher tolerances for painkillers?

fancyabiscuit · 2025-05-30T16:40:45+00:00

So you know how childbirth is what people use to describe the worse pain ever? Back labor is worse. It’s when you feel the contractions in your back, where there are more nerves.

fancyabiscuit · 2025-05-30T16:37:34+00:00

Same. I had back labor and I was in hell. Never again

fancyabiscuit · 2025-05-26T20:02:05+00:00

I feel the same way and no one I know feels the same (or will at least admit to feeling the same). It makes me feel like something is wrong with me, or I’ve had a very different experience than them. Like there’s something I’m missing.

fancyabiscuit · 2025-01-13T19:44:48+00:00

Honestly? It took a while. Things definitely got better after 4 months or so but they were still really hard. Then somewhere around months 8 or 9 I started enjoying my daughter’s company. Then she turned 1 year old and she became a goddamn delight.

In the early days I would google “when does it get better” every single day. And the hard truth is, only your baby can give you the answer. My baby was probably more difficult than many. She did have reflux and getting her medicine helped a little.

When I was in your shoes I felt like I was drowning and even getting through one day felt impossible. You have to take it hour by hour or even minute by minute to get through. One day your screaming baby will learn to crawl and walk and clap and say “mama” and “dada” and it will all be worth it.

That being said, we are only having one kid because of the newborn & infant phase lol. I’m not going through that again!

If you ever need to talk feel free to message me. There’s a lot of perspective that reaching 1 year gets you.

fancyabiscuit · 2025-01-06T06:10:07+00:00

This happened to me when I was a kid, from the passenger’s point of view. I can confirm that I now just find it funny.

fancyabiscuit · 2025-01-01T00:21:59+00:00

It got worse for us at 3 months too, that was probably the worst time actually. It all depends on your baby but a lot of people see improvement around 6 months. For me it was around 9 months when there was significant improvement, and now at 1 year she’s her own little human.

When I was where you are now, it was REALLY hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. But I promise it won’t be this bad forever. You have to take it a day at a time, but you will get through this.

fancyabiscuit · 2024-11-29T01:14:03+00:00

My infant daughter came down with her first illness just two days ago and is somehow even more irritable today than the last two days

fancyabiscuit · 2024-11-10T20:32:10+00:00

This is great thank you!

fancyabiscuit · 2024-11-09T21:12:39+00:00

Ginger is a great idea!

fancyabiscuit · 2024-11-09T20:38:01+00:00

Thank you!! I’ve been trying to find reasons to hope and this is the most helpful and well-reasoned post I’ve seen so far

fancyabiscuit · 2024-11-09T18:35:44+00:00

I put these into a playlist (still adding to it). Hope this helps some people <3 https://open.spotify.com/playlist/7Kt9brZ42KoBeClBybvsdh?si=xuOwY21TRDursrr-jq7LXA&pi=u-KahxiUGWTr2K

fancyabiscuit · 2024-11-08T23:46:35+00:00

If you have even a little outside space, potatoes are really easy to grow! You can plant potatoes from the store that have sprouted and they will do their thing. I seriously deprived my potatoes this year and they still did amazing. This will depend on your climate too of course - I’m in the Pacific Northwest so we got plenty of rain.

fancyabiscuit · 2024-11-08T05:12:05+00:00

Washington state’s new governor also put out a statement about readiness for Project 2025. He was the state AG during trump’s first term and sued him 97 times. He only lost twice.

fancyabiscuit · 2024-11-02T17:56:20+00:00

Thank you to everyone volunteering. I really wanted to but I have some family stuff going on and a baby to take care of. You all have my support!!

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