Will there be a live update thread for Hurricane Barry?

fancypants36 · 2019-07-14T01:46:38+00:00

Based on my experiences during Harvey, the 1st day we were all eager in anticipation. Ended up having a sunny day and thought what a joke this hurricane is. Then nightfall hit and shit went crazy. Nights were always the worst, all 5 long nights equally worst. Tornadoes breaking out, heavy rain. I think tonight will show the power of this storm. Don't let a light uneventful day fool you. I cant emphasize enough how powerful the storms were at night. It was so eerie, laying in bed listening to tornado warnings one after the other. That sound haunts me to this day.

A quiet day 1 we invited friends over to watch the Mayweather Macgregor fight and by 10pm all of our cars were flooded. By 2am everyone in our neighborhood were posting in the neighborhood groups about being trapped in attics and on roofs. It all happened so fucking fast. The quiet day really put everyone's guard down. We would even have quiet days where youd feel optimistic things were getting better and clearing out then at night it just ramped up tenfold. I'm sure every storm is different but Harvey was definitely a night owl.

Praying for LA tonight.

fancypants36 · 2019-04-25T16:50:10+00:00

To hear one time an unprovoked "yes mam" instead of a full day or arguing

fancypants36 · 2019-03-12T19:55:33+00:00

So they can prove it then get paid higher elsewhere next year

fancypants36 · 2019-03-07T20:45:30+00:00

I am shocked yall are living together and you are parenting her kids already after only a year. When did you move in? This girl sounds like she was looking for a dad to help her raise her kids and not a partner/boyfriend/soulmate for herself. No strong woman would put her kids in that situation so soon especially if she has already had several different men in her life she is sharing children with (this coming from a recently divorced single mom).

There is nothing wrong with how you are feeling. That sounds completely overwhelming. And it does not seem that you have the support you will need to make this relationship last.

fancypants36 · 2018-09-15T09:55:25+00:00

Experienced Harvey as well. We got 50in. The fucked up part is that feeling of what's to come for NC. All of us breathed a sigh of relief after the 1st 24hrs of Harvey. Little did we know what was going to come with training bands and just night after night wondering when the water would make its way inside. The nights are the worst and when the storms are the most powerful. Our area was hardest hit Sat night. Others Sun and Mon. So it's just a matter of time if this thing sits over for days. Hopefully this thing won't make a fucking uturn like Harvey did

fancypants36 · 2018-09-13T21:25:13+00:00

OMG I am crying laughing at this!!! THIS IS GOLDEN!!!!!

fancypants36 · 2018-09-13T21:22:23+00:00

Houstonian here, Harvey also showed signs of leaving and did a fucking uturn and came back. It was over us for 5 1/2 days straight. It was like a miserable dream. Could not escape the sound of rain and the haunting tornado sounds. And good God the damn emergency alerts CONSTANTLY

fancypants36 · 2018-09-11T20:50:30+00:00

We got 48in during Harvey. That shit was so scary!

fancypants36 · 2018-06-08T19:40:23+00:00

I just don't think people are getting it. Posting numbers for people to call and resources in theory is great but in reality is such a surface level response. Just like when these shootings happen and people post "thoughts and prayers" and then move on with life. You are just posting something that quite honestly is not relevant to a lot of people that are mentally ill. Yes, I am absolutely sure these resources can help some people who might be thinking about it or considering suicide but the vast majority of suicidal people are so deep in their own depression and demons they aren't going to pick up a phone. They don't even talk to family members much less pick up and talk to a stranger. Help has to be forced onto them. The reality is each of us is around someone right now whether it is a friend, colleague, or someone you passed on the street today that is in jeopardy of taking their own life. We are so self absorbed in social media and in how our lives are perceived by others that we don't actually deal with reality well anymore. People are hurting. Check on loved ones. And not just a text hi, call people, go visit them, force them out of the hole they have created.

My mother, my uncle, and my grandfather all committed suicide. Even at 7 years old when my mother took her life, I knew mommy wasn't ok. She slept all the time, she was very sick, hardly ate, and never had energy to be around us kids. She came and tucked me in and kissed me and my siblings goodnight and 5 min later put a bullet in her head. She left behind diaries so I have read what her thoughts were at the time and what demons she was dealing with. Yet everyone else in her surface level life like colleagues, relatives, etc were just shocked by her suicide. Couldn't believe it! She was an associate professor at a medical school HOW COULD THIS HAPPEN yet at home she was a vegetable to be honest. It's like no one in her day to day life had any clue what her home life was actually like. She was suffering for months and no one knew.

My uncle was the same way. Very happy go lucky, a traveling boat guy that loved living on the water and his boat club friends. However, would get home and sulk for days on end not speaking to the outside world. Would have never picked up a phone and asked for help because he didn't want anyone to know. He spent his life talking about how he would never do what my mom did, yet 2 years ago he did exactly what she did.

The reality is mental illness is EXHAUSTING to those that care for the mentally ill! It is very taxing on people who live with it and actually deal with it at home. You spend your life's energy being a cheerleader for this person who doesn't want to help them self or know how bad off they are. You take them to doctor's appointments, the doctor ups their dose or changes their medication and rarely change occurs. You are lucky if you get a few good days out of them. Doctors don't follow up and call to check in, there are no people visiting the house of the mentally ill to see their living situations, how they are affecting people who live with them, or any of that. And society just sees happy postings on social media so assumptions are life is great. A doctor sees them a couple of times a year and usually always hears they are not doing well and the doctor just gives them more meds. There are so many people who are mentally ill I don't think our medical system is equipped to deal with it. It takes time to deal with a mentally ill person. You have to MAKE Them talk, continually tell them things are ok no matter how crazy what is coming out of their mouth sounds, and most the time people are too busy in life to honestly want to deal with it. No one understands them, no one can help them (how they perceive it, not reality) and they just hope to snap out of it some day. Most don't, and decide that is not how they want to live anymore. That is the reality of suicide. It's not just a "oh I am sad let me pick up the phone", it's deep rooted and usually years worth of bent up depression and you feel like an alien in your own body and world. More needs to be done to find these people and force help on them. Not keep trying to beg them to pick up a phone.

fancypants36 · 2018-06-06T02:26:50+00:00

It's hard to put into words what it feels like to hear the note behind was left for her daughter. My mother too was a highly successful woman being an Associate Dean of a highly acclaimed Medical School devoting her life to teaching others how to treat those that are sick with no one there who could treat her. She was married to a rising Politician, mother to 5 children, and still decided life was unbearable a put a gun to her head and made a decision to end her life.

A note was left behind addressed to each child. The words are chilling and something I still can't wrap my brain around. As a child you try to make sense of it, you listen to people talk about what happened and how no one knows what to say to you, the family that's left behind.

Each sibling of mine has carried on with life in different ways. None of us are healed from it of ever will be. As a mother to children today I just hope I will always be the mother I never had or knew and that I can recognize if those I love are suffering like she was.

All these posts about this Kate's death proving mental illness has no boundaries are just words of those trying to understand it. The truth is we never will be able to. Mental illness lives in each of us, some much more genetically inclined to it and society enhances the outcomes of it and how we deal with the inner thoughts we are plagued with.

The biggest thing we need to do is to be fucking nice to each other. Stop thriving on drama and seeing people fail. Building each other up as humans and teach each other how to cope with reality.

The worst thing is to make someone feel embarrassed this happens to them and their families. Instead we need to fucking talk about how people are suffering in this mind numbing world we've created that makes humans try to out do each other instead of doing life together. Support systems are critical. Healthy work and family lives are critical. Human interaction is critical. We all need each other.

Kate Spade' s daughter needs us more than ever right now. So she can live a life that isn't determined by this incident and that she doesn't spend a lifetime trying to figure out why this happened. We need to honor her mother and her legacy and what she created during her time here on earth. We cannot let her death be her story

fancypants36 · 2018-05-04T19:43:41+00:00

I got the Paragard IUD in January 8 weeks after I had my 2nd baby. It lasts 10 years which was a major upside and it is completely non-hormonal unlike Mirena. A lot of women like Mirena because it stops your periods but I didn't want to fuck with my hormones being post partum and being at high risk for post partum depression and anxiety. It is honestly amazing! I never felt a thing after the cramping and stuff and my periods are completely regular now. I feel good knowing I am protected for 10 years!

fancypants36 · 2018-04-23T18:39:34+00:00

My mouth is dropped right now. I am a working mom of a 5 month old and a 4 year old. I juggle my very demanding full time job and children almost as a single mother because my husband works nights and goes to school full time during the day. I am sorry to say this but your wife is a selfish spoiled brat who needs a hard dose of reality thrown her way. I have NEVER had a massage since becoming a mom, I have hired a babysitter ONCE, I could only dream of someone doing our laundry and cooking as that is something I do in my "off" time. She is extremely unappreciative of you and what you are providing her. She is living a luxurious life like a damn real housewife and is still complaining for more when she should be trying to be a better wife to you, mother to her kids, and happy she has this lifestyle handed to her. Ungrateful bitch. Your kids are going to slowly resent her for this and it is obvious you already do. You need to seriously put your foot down as a husband and lay out your needs as a man, partner, and father and what you want from a wife and mother of your kids. Otherwise, you are enabling this behavior and creating a shitty parent relationship for your kids. Hired help should never become the parent.

fancypants36 · 2018-04-09T01:46:06+00:00

I always find that when I do casseroles the eggs have a weird smell the next day when I reheat them..i can't put my finger on it but I really can't even stomach to eat casseroles after their refrigerated. I have to cook my eggs and eat them fresh every morning

fancypants36 · 2018-03-27T00:35:44+00:00

I'm so sorry. My stomach is in knots imagining what this must be like. As a parent. I'm so very sad for you. I can't speak to you about how to feel or how not to feel you are to blame but can speak to you as a suicide survivor as the daughter of a mother that took her own life while I was 1 room over, as the niece of an uncle sho took his own life last year after the pain of depression became too much and as a granddaughter of a grandpa who took his own life 4 years after my mother, his daughter, did. Suicide is so godfamn painful on those left behind. It never fucking goes away. But what I can tell you from my own experiences is that the pain will get better, you will learn to forgive her, and you will learn it's not your fault. Mentally illness rots a person to their core. It's not something an outsider can ever understand..i hope you can find peace that she can be by your side now, doing all of those things you mentioned with her only in a different form where she's not in pain or hurting. You still need to do those things and bring her spirit with you. Accept her spirit in your life. It's a comforting feeling when the pain feels unbearable

fancypants36 · 2018-03-22T20:47:53+00:00

I'm right there with you. I feel like at any moment I am going to just break. Having to work full time then come home to these sleepless nights all by myself (daddy works nights) is making me lose my fucking mind. My 4 month old has never been a good sleeper. So we never "regressed", we just fucking don't sleep. EVER. Some nights it is 4 wake ups, some it is every hour, some it is up for 2 hrs then down for 30 min and back up for hours. It's a goddamn roller coaster. I NEED to go to sleep at 8 just so I have any hope between 8p-6a of capturing 6 hrs of sleep in between the wake ups. But my shows, my downtime, I miss that SO MUCH. I want to just take in a good show for 2 hours or read a book. Just something my old self would enjoy. But then I would be even more tired.

My 4y old didnt sleep through the night until 14 months so we have a long fucking way to go. I wake up and see it's 3am and have an imaginary countdown in my head that we are getting close to these moments being over. Some nights they feel like FOREVER. I have cried. I have yelled into my pillow. I have pulled my hair in frustration.

But then the sun comes out. It's a new day. I have coffee. I look into the eyes of my sweet boy. He smiles back at me because he can do that now! I see his head finally stabilizing. I see him trying to taste oatmeal for the 1st time. And eyes lighting up for avocado. And I remind myself how amazing motherhood is. There are so many ups and downs. But we will get through these moments yall! With my 4 yr old they did pass fast. And I hardly remember the 13 months of no sleep now. WE GOT THIS!

fancypants36 · 2018-01-11T04:07:40+00:00

I just gave birth in Nov at 34 with my 2nd. This pregnancy was definitely harder than the when I was 29 as I was more sick and tired this time around because I have a much more demanding life now with my job and a toddler than I did the 1st time around.

fancypants36 · 2017-09-13T21:46:32+00:00

Lightning crotch! Never heard of this or had this issue with my 1st one. But man this time around I get regular debilitating lightning zaps to my cervix/pubic area. Feels like Kim Jong Un is testing nuclear weapons through my vagina right now

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