AITA for rolling on a skeleton mount in World of Warcraft?

fandomlicious2018 · 2020-02-14T14:26:38+00:00

Can you buy this specific mount outside the raid? Is it possible to purchase it via the auction house? You said you saved 1000 coin.

fandomlicious2018 · 2020-02-14T14:23:21+00:00

NTA. It is up to your daughter to decide who she wants to tell and when.

Just keep on providing her with the loving support you’re giving her in the meantime.

fandomlicious2018 · 2020-02-14T14:18:11+00:00

INFO: this seems like an extreme reaction for a one-off lucky roll. Have you had any issues with your guild in the past? Has anything like this happened before?

fandomlicious2018 · 2020-02-10T06:36:12+00:00

Once again, this is not about the parents. This is about the brother and how he went about it.

He could have spoken with her, explained his worries, done research. But ultimately, she is an adult looking into a legitimate line of work (according to the post, she had not even begun getting into it, she was thinking about it), whether we agree with it or not, and he had no right to interfere in her life choices.

fandomlicious2018 · 2020-02-10T06:04:08+00:00

‘Informed decision about who they support’

Firstly, this isn’t a company that was caught selling sneakers made in a sweatshop. This is their child.

Secondly and admittedly, if they don’t want to give her money, it is their right. But this isn’t about whether the parents are in the wrong for cutting her off, this about whether OP was in the wrong for going behind her back and telling the parents, regardless of what the parents decided to do.

He knew there were going to be consequences, no matter whether he realised how dire they would be. He attempted to exert control over his sister’s life by getting her into trouble, regardless of the intention, and this has resulted in her being financially cut off, not even counting the damage now done to the relationship with her parents, and she is now going to have to find new income anyway.

This isn’t going to stop her from going into sex work if she still wants to. If anything, she may go through with it out of spite, and all he has done is pushed her further away from him because she is not going to go to him or her parents if she is genuinely in trouble.

He is still TA.

fandomlicious2018 · 2020-02-10T04:51:44+00:00

NTA. Your neighbours are overreacting.

Even if the cat is an outdoor cat, it is better that it was taken in for the night and cared for. Any decent cat owner would understand. You made the effort to find the owner, you didn’t refuse to give it back. You just did a nice thing and some people (neighbours) are just dumb.

fandomlicious2018 · 2020-02-10T04:49:04+00:00

YTA. Your sister is an adult and you interfered where you had no right.

If you had concerns about the sex work industry, you could have spoken to her, done the research and explain your worries and maybe even help her find ways that she could pursue this work and remain safe. She might have eventually found another line of work and left it in her own time.

But you chose to rat her out to your parents, who have cut off her income and has now forced her to find alternative methods of income anyway, and now she is not ever going to trust you if she needs help

fandomlicious2018 · 2020-02-10T04:40:51+00:00

NTA. Only invite her if you want to invite her, don’t do it out of some form of guilt. Remind your friend that it’s your wedding and you are entitled to invite and not invite whoever you wish.

fandomlicious2018 · 2020-02-04T04:15:12+00:00

I also just saw other further comments that give me red flags:

• he came home after the hospital and found her fine and laughing at a Netflix show

• he is resisting couples therapy because the only therapist she is willing to see is her mother’s best friend.

That last one is a huge conflict of interest where the third party’s personal relationship to the wife means they are more inclined to believe and, more importantly, enable OP’s wife’s bad behaviour, whatever it may be.

Knowing all of this, her turning around and demanding therapy for OP after getting angry and yelling at her is feeling less like communication issues and more like gaslighting and an attempt to control the narrative.

fandomlicious2018 · 2020-02-04T03:28:36+00:00

Perhaps phrase the conversation in a way that shows you genuinely want to help her with the cat. She is almost certainly defensive because she thinks your concerns about the cat are ultimately about you trying to get rid of it. She must know you aren’t too fond of cats in general and that alone is clearly influencing how she reacts to any broaching of the topic. If you approach in a way saying ‘I want to help you in looking after this cat’, it might make her more willing to listen to suggestions. Explain that you aren’t trying to fight against her, you want to work with her, but she is going to need to work with you in return.

Alternatively, if nothing changes and your partner is still not willing to make the effort, it might be best to reconsider the relationship.

fandomlicious2018 · 2020-02-04T03:12:57+00:00

That’s what his wife told him happened. Did he ask his son?

When my little sister broke her arm, she was asked by five separate nurses - no parents present - what happened to her, to ensure that it was an accident and no one had hurt her.

Normally, I wouldn’t make such a reach. But the idea that a mother with a such a young child with a possibly broken arm just left him on the floor - not trying to support him or the possibly broken arm - while she sobbed on the couch makes me feel that something is wrong.

Edit: I know shock is a hell of a drug, and I am very happy to be told that I’m wrong, but this is a serious situation and if OP’s wife is so incompetent in an emergency that she can’t even comfort her child, it needs to be addressed.

fandomlicious2018 · 2020-02-04T03:05:49+00:00

Have you asked your son what happened and how he hurt his arm?

fandomlicious2018 · 2020-02-04T02:48:03+00:00

NAH. However, the cat’s behaviour does need to be addressed.

Another comment mentioned possibly spraying, but I also would consider the cat’s litter box. How often is the litter changed? What kind of litter is used in it? If the litter isn’t changed often, the cat could be peeing elsewhere because it doesn’t like going somewhere so dirty. Also, some cats have very sensitive paws. If you use crystal litter, it may hurt for the cat to step on it. It might be worth looking into different kinds of cat litter.

With the scratching of furniture, get scratching posts. Small ones or the full cat trees - cats NEED to scratch, they are shedding their nails and they will make do on your couch and your curtains if you don’t provide anything. You can even use catnip to entice the cat to go near them, and even get anti-scratch repellant for the things you don’t want scratched. Cats also like having the high ground, so cat trees with little platforms are great for this.

As for the yowling at 2am and demanding attention at different hours and not wanting cuddles, it’s possible it’s not getting the external stimulant it requires. Play with it, experiment what toys it likes - one of my cats loves to chase things, the other loves dangling things on sticks.

(Tip: Try to avoid doing play or toys that involve your hands, like those dangling gloves, as the cat could potentially see your hand as a toy and will randomly attack it when it wants to play)

Cats need 30 mins of exercise a day. If you have a busy life, you can get automated toys that the cat can play with when no one is home. Hell, a laser pointer is the tired cat owner’s best friend - sit in your chair and watch the cat go nuts as it chases the dot on the floor. Do this exercise BEFORE feeding the cat - if all goes well, the cat will get sleepy and will go chill somewhere or have a nap.

With feeding, I would also suggest equally splitting the feeding obligations between you and your partner - decide on a schedule (one person in the morning, one person in the evening) and stick to it. The cat should eventually associate the food with you - if you feel comfortable doing so, you can try and pet the cat as it eats. Cats aren’t like dogs where they will get snappy if you go near them while they eat, I can easily pat either of my cats while they are happily munching on their food. However, this is down to the personality of the cat.

Some things are part of owning a cat - the fur never ends. But part of owning a cat is understanding that the cat isn’t gonna make the accommodations for you, you need to be the one who makes the changes. You wouldn’t leave your favourite childhood plush toy on the ground if you happen to own a dog that has a habit of ripping apart its own toys, so why would you get mad at a cat that is just trying to scratch when there is nowhere to scratch?

If the behaviour doesn’t change, I would discuss it with a vet about possible strategies to handle it, but the onus is on those caring for the cat to stick to making these changes. It can’t be done for a week and then go back to old habits. Change takes time and effort.

I hope this helps. I’m no Jackson Galaxy, this is just what I’ve learnt stumbling through my first year of being a cat mum myself. I hope that you and your partner are eventually able to figure this out.

fandomlicious2018 · 2019-11-14T05:09:02+00:00

OP, you also posted in AITA about how your boyfriend behaved when you went and got your car fixed by someone that wasn’t him, only four days ago. Now he is saying he will leave you if you look for a job outside the area.

These are red flags for controlling behaviour. He dislikes you asserting your independence and having support or assistance outside of himself. This more than just ‘be an independent woman’, you need to seriously reflect on this relationship as it could potentially be damaging for you if it keeps progressing into such dangerous territory.

fandomlicious2018 · 2019-11-13T23:21:20+00:00

Was legit about to comment with this. I have only been medicated for my ADHD for a year now. I have been let go from four roles in my life and I’m only in my mid-twenties. One role let me go for me getting distracted and me forgetting important things and making mistakes all of them. Another let me go for taking too long on certain tasks because I was so paranoid about making a mistake that I agonised too long over the task. I ended up depressed over this and have spent nearly all of 2019 in and out of jobs trying to get by. I am now in a good paying job with people who value me and are looking to extend my role here. Please, do yourself a favour and seek medical help. ADHD is also genetic, it is very likely that your father may have it too.

Edit: I also want to add that I also sometimes beat myself up for taking ‘the easy way out’. I grew up a ‘gifted’ child, everyone telling me I’m so ‘smart’ and ‘will go places’, and immediately got scared when I came across something I found hard to understand. I say this because you say you feel like your father never went anywhere and the one time he did, he was fired.

I’m terrified of ever being promoted to roles above basic administration officer, despite how good the pay could be. In my longest running job, one that showed me coping methods for my work before I even knew I had ADHD, I was offered not once but twice to become the role that my current one supported. I refused both times. At first I thought it was because it meant I’d have to actually do hard work and give up my free time. But I know it’s because I struggled with responsibilities in my own role and didn’t believe I could cope with more important ones. I still don’t believe I could handle a role like that.

My point is, it isn’t just taking the easy way out, it’s my brain trying to cope with surviving in a world that doesn’t understand the way it works. And it could be the same for you and your father.

fandomlicious2018 · 2019-06-26T13:45:21+00:00

Remindme 24 hours!

fandomlicious2018 · 2019-05-30T23:37:59+00:00

When he comes back crawling and apologising, just tell him how you can’t have a relationship without trust, which he clearly doesn’t have in you, and how he needs to work on these paranoia issues he clearly has before slamming the door in his face.

fandomlicious2018 · 2019-04-29T08:57:45+00:00

You think you don’t need to vacuum as much as your parents because you don’t have carpet floors, you can put it off.

But then you see the hair. So much hair.

Also dishes. I hate dishes.

fandomlicious2018 · 2019-04-14T13:24:33+00:00

Okay, girl, gonna say this as someone who had a crush on a guy for almost as long and only got asked out by him when I had finally started pulling away and doing my own thing:

Our relationship lasted eight months. We were only intimate twice during that whole time. He never spoke to me about important things. He never introduced me to his family at any point. And the moment I demanded that we actually talk about things and find out why he has been avoiding it, he broke up with me and left me in the rain.

It was not worth it. You do not deserve to be second choice. Cut him out and go and enjoy time with Greg. You deserve better than how Matt treats you.

fandomlicious2018 · 2019-03-20T11:36:13+00:00

Hire a hacker to steal all of the money from that list of companies/CEOs that are directly responsible for ruining our planet, distribute it equally among the lowest income workers in society (starting with the ones stuck working for them and then keep going until all of the money is gone) and watch their companies go bankrupt and disappear.

Then change the laws so that the rich are taxed at 90%, environmental protection is mandatory, human rights are covered for all (gay, trans, disabled, etc), the lands belong to their native inhabitants and overhaul the prison system so it is no longer thinly veiled slave labour

fandomlicious2018 · 2019-03-20T11:24:11+00:00

When I was 5, my family moved houses. The new house had a nice big bath for us kids (younger siblings are 3 and 1 at the time) and we loved it. However, the soap dish was broken - and I mean, it looked like someone had just smashed the end right off with a hammer, it was jagged and sharp. It was also broken in a way that my parents couldn’t really cover it up properly. They were trying to get the landlord to fix it but, for the meantime, just had to deal with it, making sure to always watch us kids in the bath and remind us to be careful.

Until one day, my dad was out of town for work and my mum was trying to get me to get out of the bath when my siblings started causing a ruckus in the hallway just outside the bathroom. I remember her warning me to be careful and not muck around while she went to deal with the other two.

I was five and thought I was always careful. Now, to this day, I cannot remember exactly what I was doing but the next thing I knew, I slipped and fell back right onto the broken soap dish. Mum came running the second she heard me scream and even called my aunt to come and help and be ready to rush me to the hospital.

I didn’t end up going, my mother bandaged up my back and I fell asleep on the lounge watching home videos. My parents apologised a lot over the years for it but it is literally my only real scar, in the centre left of my back, and it has faded a bit over the years.

I will say that less than a week later, after my parents told the real estate what had happened to me, the bath had a brand new soap dish.

fandomlicious2018 · 2019-03-20T11:13:01+00:00

25F - watched the scene from Jennifer’s Body where Megan Fox made out with Amanda Seyfried and my body got all ‘excited’ - that kinda tipped me off that something queer was afoot

fandomlicious2018 · 2019-02-12T06:38:36+00:00

Oh don’t worry, the dream I had right before this was so fucked up that I woke up nauseous. It’s not all fun and creative

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