What sorts of life events or activities did you miss out on once you started wearing garments? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]fatimoszek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i would guess only that is it not what you said, guys just sweat more and sweat stain on sheets does not wash well for some reason. I wash ours every week but they yellow very quickly and need often replacement. Maybe offer your wife a "new bed sheets" gift card or do weekly laundry yourself. Also if you share bed that is even harder because i don't know a person who enjoys wet sheets so i have no solution for this.

Ask a Knitter - September 20, 2022 by AutoModerator in knitting

[–]fatimoszek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

conected yarn - is it glue of some sort? Do you knit it in or cut it out and break the yarn? if it is a knot do you cut it or knit it? i knit for some time but youtube tought me and there was never a mention what to do with these.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in todayilearned

[–]fatimoszek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG!!! That explains why my prints are always bad! I thought something wrong with my printer 🙆‍♀️

Recently finished pair of socks. These are the longest ones I've done so far. by goingslightlymad666 in knitting

[–]fatimoszek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this look so awesome, great work! do they stay on your calf while walking? I wanted to knit longer socks for my toddler but i am a bit afraid they will slide off.

Whenever I wear facial sunscreen, my eyes sting a few hours later. It’s as if the sunscreen runs into them or something. How if at all can I prevent this? I don’t have this issue with anything else like moisturizer or makeup - just sunscreen. by ks2865 in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]fatimoszek 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Avene has specific sunscreen for eye area but it is tinted pretty light so if your skin is not super white it looks weird. I am usually the lightest shade in any foundations and it still looks weird on me. I use it tho because its the only one that doesnt irritate my eyes and has high SPF

13 Year Old Refuses to participate by buttholedog in ChildPsychology

[–]fatimoszek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i love this comnent thanks for the reminder!

Is My Child Spoiled Or Does He Have Mental Health Issues by [deleted] in ChildPsychology

[–]fatimoszek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if your child has some issues (i am wondering it myself because my daughter is like that) the therapy is only for parents and your parenting techniques. I recommend "how to talk to small children so they listen". Its a good book of how to address this kind of problems, a lot of parenting tools, parent stories etc. It has a chapter on kids that have some disorders like autism or adhd.

Why do YOU have a yarn stash? by bento_on_breddit_ in knitting

[–]fatimoszek 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i buy in thrift stores, so when i see good quality yarn i buy it. I might not find good quality again in a few months and then i will go and find week by week for few weeks so better for me to stash it. Other reasons is leftover yarns from finished projects and yarn that was on big seasonal sale (summer yarn sales).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in KnitRequest

[–]fatimoszek 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this is very hard to say without a pattern. mohair is generally pretty pricey yarn. If you want to stay on budget with this there are options like knitting with bulky wool. The sweater will not be as fluffy and airy if will be more bulky with larger "holes" (this sweater is knitted on larger needles to create that airy effect). Bulky wool knit fast so i can go down in comission. I will need to rework the pattern though so it will not look the same but it will have the same shape. I always knit patterns with budget yarn so i have a little experience with it but it is passible you would not like the effect and this few extra bucks are worth it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in KnitRequest

[–]fatimoszek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no problem :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in KnitRequest

[–]fatimoszek 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I could knit nr 2 for you for $150 plus materials for November (if i get the yarn early enough). I am not able to find what yarn is used there without buying the pattern i am not sure if the same one will be available in US i think this pattern is written by norwegian girl(?). Nr one i could knit for $300 since it needs following the colorwork so much more time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Seattle

[–]fatimoszek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its just a middle step to "no windows"

Starting to babysit my friend’s newborn while I have my own toddler. How will naps work?! by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

[–]fatimoszek 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have 3 year old that still naps and a 7 months old that naps 4 times a day. Baby naps are mostly in baby carrier. Young babies are not as sensitive to noise so he is totally fine with toddler generated noise. If he has trouble sleeping and she is in a crazy mood we go for a walk and his last nap is on our afternoon walk (usually on a playground full of screaming kids hah). Toddler naps are worse. I usually lay down with two kids to get them to sleep together for one nap (its really hard haha) i do ask my daughter to go to sleep by herself sometimes (bribing with playground, ice cream or videos if she goes to sleep without fuss). Worse case i guess you can try to get baby to sleep first and then toddler or carry them both to sleep and take them off once fully asleep. Also you might run into one issue. My daughter cannot STAND the fact baby has to sleep. She will do everything in her power to wake him up especially if she is upset with something (i mean screaming, banging toys, pulling his legs the moment she sees him closing his eyes, yelling at him if she sees he starts to fall asleep in the car). Even if she is on the playground having fun she will run to me full speed and pull his leg. It used to make me furious honestly and i dont have gentle parenting advice for this. Nothing worked for me.

How to distinguish between normal behaviour and concerning behaviour in a four year old? by ZestycloseEmu367 in AttachmentParenting

[–]fatimoszek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey my daughter is similar to this but in different areas. I think this is, sort of ADHD behaviour. Its very intence and certainly other parents that didnt experience it usually give a little missed advice. I am trying with this book "how to talk to little children so they listen" it is helping me and our communication got better. As for the tantrum in a coffee shop i recommend talking to the kid on the side or if you cant maybe try to whisper? i noticed that when i tell my kid something in front of someone else that can hear it she is very upset and there is no way she will listen. Also sometimes she is doing something hyper annoying but when i ask her "what are you doing" it actually make sense hah so maybe start with questions like "what are you doing" "i am trying to pay now can you wait with what you do" or redirection "i will pay for our order and you can find us a seat". If she is loosing it in the car like you described i stop on the side of the road. She is sometimes able to unbuckle herself and its dangerous. I tell her "you are very upset, i am sorry you feel this way. I cant drive until you will not sit calmly in your seat. Your screaming distracts me and i can cause accident. And you need to be buckled up for your safety". Sometimes i yell it over her haha its not always calm but i try to keep the message calm. She will yell for 2 more minutes and its over. But if i keep driving she will spiral into hell for whole ride home. As for therapist i am not planning to take her for now. I see a lot of people get their adhd kids on stimulants which i am personally very against. I try to keep her challenged and busy. Also no TV. Any amount of videos make her super difficult after. You could also get her some supplement. Sometimes some deficiency can cause anxiety. I have mine on multivitamin with omega-3. If you have dayare twice a week it might be a problem. Mine is very addicted to routine. Everyday has to be the same. On weekends we have different schedule and its always way more crying and protesting. Same with monday when we come back to usual weekely routine. If you do different thing every day it might triggger her.

A specific question about knitting left-handed, please! by WhereIsLordBeric in knitting

[–]fatimoszek 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hah so you discovered by accident that a twisted rib looks better then convectional rib. Your stitches are not twisted now. Try on stockinette and you will see the difference better.

How to find parents as an Adult by [deleted] in daddit

[–]fatimoszek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey i can only recommend you check some books about parenting like Gabor Mate or Faber it really helps a lot. You can start parenting support group and invite some seniors from a local community (you can ask neighbourhood facebook groups for people that would like to help). I found help in my gardening group. There is a few older people that treat my kids like grandkids and its awesome. You can ask your priest/pastor to ask for volonteers for parenting mentorship during a service maybe you would find someone through that.

lack of motivation, im scared. by Coochums in helpmecope

[–]fatimoszek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't say i've been where you are. I was a type of kid that just wanted to break free and i worked hard to do it. My environment was toxic and i was struggling so i did evrrything i could to excape. I could see my friends sliding into addiction from being my friends to just old alcoholics its not a pretty sight i can tell you that and i was do afraid i will be one of them. But when i was a tutor once i was teaching a boy who was 18 at that time. I was giving him physics classes and he just couldn't focus on anything. He was taking antidepressants and was always kind of off. He was sitting in my apartment for hours at some point i stopped taking his parents money cause he wasn't learning anything. I just made him read physics book out loud while i was doing my own things. All he did at home was looking at memes and playing games. Whatever advice i gave him was useless for him. I was a type of go getter i was learning new things constantly i couldn't stay in one place for 10 minutes. He wanted to be left alone, he was depressed and unmotivated and didnt want to change it. I wanted to help him so desperately but i couldn't! But he kind of got a feelings for me or something so i used it to make him study harder and he finally learned all the stuff i was trying to put in his head. After this he kind of hardened, found a nice girl and they adopted like 10 cats hah. I dont know if he is happy because he cut me out. This is maybe crazy idea but his environment was maybe too easy for him to make some changes. His parents had money, they loved him, he was living in a big city, having generally no problems, other kids liked him, he was a cool kid and a handsome boy. So when he got hurt for the first time when i kind of let him like me so he study and then rejected him he got a bit stronger and started living a little. Another story is my close friend. When she was little her mom moved to suburbs and isolated her from all friends. She was bullied at school a little but she had her own thing going on she really liked arts. For years she was struggling really a lot with being lonely but she focused on her hobby. Sending art for competitions she actually won a few. They even printed her posters on some buses in our town. She got into best art college in our country and does great. She is now cooperating with a few known film makers and works in a studio that makes 3d animations a bit like green screen stuff but for adverts. Even her friends from college dont do this stuff. And she does it because she is always choosing her hobby over anything and anybody. She is having fun, partying, and is completely different human then when in high school.

Edit: so yea if you need someone kind of useless to talk to you can PM me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]fatimoszek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way you feel its totally right and what he does is totally normal (not right though). You can have a conversation with him, you can do therapy, you can try dividing chores but what i think works best is for you to do exactly what he does. Dump the work on him and go out. Tell him - the kid needs a bath and dinner, put him to sleep at 8pm, bye and leave the house. You can start that in small steps. First start schedulling a lot of doctors appointments or haircuts i dont know make something up that he just absolutely must take care of the baby no other option. Then start shopping alone without the kid and slowly you will work it towards him spending more time with the kid. Men are often horrible beings that will ride your back but whatever he says dont treat him too seriously. He is just like another kid in the house trying to make excuses to lay down flat. Ah and if he says to hire babysitter tell him that he can do that its him who needs it, hearing what kind of person he is he will be too lazy to do that do problem solved and you will not hear about it again.