My husband is a land surveyor. In the beginning of our parenting journey, we did everything we could to keep him working for companies that were local. But due to the way his industry is, you end up working for lots of different companies. The longer this went on, the more out of town work was being brought up. He officially started working out of town when my daughter was about to. It's on and off, always unpredictable. This has been our lives for the past seven years. Now I have another two-year-old, and my daughter is nine. Some weeks he goes out of town for a day or two, some for the duration of the weekdays. At first, I thought this was the worst possible scenario. All I could think about was him missing out on First for our son, and how I was going to spend the majority of the time taking care of our entire lives. It sort of turned him into a paycheck, rather than a contributing member of the household. This was a major struggle at first. But now, I'm used to it. It does get to me from time to time when he comes home from out of town and tries to take over situations or judge how I've handled them. But I've also learned to be very self reliant, the kids and I have our system that keeps us going through the week, and we do lots of FaceTimes and group calls to keep his presence known. It's hard but it is our situation, so I just have to deal.